FREE Daily Prayer Marriage Challenge

Welcome to the challenge. The Daily Prayer Marriage Challenge.

Overwhelmingly, marriage today is under attack. I know mine is under attack.

Throughout hopejoyinchrist.com you can find articles with practical steps to help with all the things:

• Not feeling love
• Struggling to forgive
• Managing crazy thoughts
• Restoring communication
• Fasting and prayer

There are tons of resources to help you with nearly any area of struggle in your marriage. Tons. Just search for what you need.

Today, however, I want to give you simple prayers to help you while you work on all the rest. Prayer is the most powerful tool any spouse can use to love their partner!

~ Pst. I am writing this now and will add a new prayer throughout the month of July – October 2024… so if it seems unfinished that’s why.

Why Do You Need to Take the Daily Prayer Marriage Challenge?

We must pray daily!

Prayer invites the Holy Spirit into our right now situation in a powerful way. When you need real change in your marriage, prayer must be the overarching theme of your life.

So a daily prayer marriage challenge seems just right to help you learn to develop this spiritual discipline. (Plus, it will help me stay focused in this season of challenge in my own marriage… shhhhh…)

Start the FREE Daily Prayer Marriage Challenge today and find hope and joy! Share on X

What is The Prayer for Marriage Every Day?

Okay, first to answer a few questions. We know we must pray for our marriage. In fact, we must pray daily for our marriage!

So is there a daily marriage prayer?

When Bud and I were first married and it was clear things would be difficult, I often prayed the same prayer over and over.

Lord, change Him.
Help us, Jesus.
Holy Spirit, show me the way forward.

Those prayers, breath prayers, kept my mind and heart fixed on God. They were not strong or powerful. When you need prayer for a deeply troubled marriage, you need Scripture, you need focused, specific prayers. That’s what we will find today.

How to Pray When Your Marriage Is Falling Apart?

How then, do we create prayers? Is there a specific way to pray for a marriage that is falling apart?

There is an entire article on how to create prayers – How to Create Prayers & 22 Simple Prayers for Marriages in Trouble that I highly recommend.

Honestly, it’s so simple.

1. Make a list of areas that need prayer.
2. Find Bible verses about those areas.
3. Turn the Scriptures into prayers.

Simple. But here’s the secret sauce. You have to set aside the time to do this. You then have to set aside the time, making a plan to pray daily.

Daily prayer for my marriage does NOT just happen by itself.

How Do I Let God Heal My Marriage?

God can heal anyone. I believe that 100%!

How do we let God heal the struggling areas of our marriage? Prayer! This marriage prayer challenge could be the first step!

Will you mark your calendar – pencil 10-15 minutes into your schedule each day?

Healing a marriage requires intentionality on your part. Take up the Daily Prayer Marriage Challenge with me!

Prayers for Marriage With Scriptures

In this marriage challenge, I will share the prayers I am praying right now over my marriages well as past prayers that God has faithfully answered. Also, I will share some of the areas I am often asked about. I will try to group them in a way that flows.

All of these areas will be based on marriage prayer Scriptures I’ve found searching Google. Anyone could do this! The purpose of this challenge is to get you started 😉!

If there is an area missing that you need, just comment with a word or phrase and I’ll add it to the list.

1. Prayer for marriage protection
2. Prayer for a strong relationship
3. Prayer for mental health
4. Anxiety
5. Prayer for physical health
6. Spiritual growth
7. Prayer for a clear identity in Christ
8. Depression
9. A spirit of suicide
10. A grateful heart
11. Hunger and thirst for righteousness
12. Prayer for anger
13. To know the will of God for work
14. Communication struggles
15. Temptation
16. Parenting
17. Teen parenting
18. Special needs parenting
19. Infertility
20. Peace of mind instead of fear
21. Help with trauma
22. Prayer for wisdom
23. Prayer for discernment and knowledge
24. Calling
25. Freedom from addiction
26. Alcoholism
27. Drug addiction
28. Salvation
29. Pride
30. Pornography
31. Gambling
32. Perfectionism
33. Fear of Failure
34. Unequally Yoked Marriage
35. Love unconditionally
36. Forgive as a way of life
37. Prayer for deeply troubled marriage
38. Prayer for husband and wife together
39. Discovering Infidelity
40. Healing after infidelity
41. Vulnerability
42. Daily prayer for married couples
43. Happy and holy covenant marriage
44. Prayer for sexless marriage
45. A short prayer for marriage
46. Discontentment and irritability
47. Negative Thinking
48. Disappointment
49. Grief
50. Financial struggles

Prayer for Marriage Protection

“He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High
    will abide in the shadow of the Almighty.
I will say to the Lord, “My refuge and my fortress,
    my God, in whom I trust.” (Psalm 91 ESV)

Most High God,

This marriage is under attack from an enemy I can’t see and could never understand or outsmart. I run to You for shelter. Hide me in the shadow of Your wing. Be my refuge and my fortress, oh GOD. I trust in You alone to protect us through this attack.

Through sickness or poverty or persecution or grief, I believe You are covering us. As we see other couples going down left and right, I trust that You will hold us together.

You are my dwelling place, I hide myself in You, in Your Word, in praise in gratitude… Protect our dwelling place on earth, our hearts where we are joined together.

We call to you, Oh Lord our God. Save us.

Amen

Prayer for a Strong Relationship

“fear not, for I am with you;
    be not dismayed, for I am your God;
I will strengthen you, I will help you,
    I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” (Isaiah 41:10 ESV)

El Sali (God is my strength),

You have said to not fear, remembering You are with me. You never leave me or forsake me. I know this in my head, but at times my heart forgets. Help me feel Your presence with me through this season.

I am afraid… afraid things will never be better. I am dismayed… dismayed that this marriage is not as strong as I thought it would be by now. You are my God. I stand, believing You are Who You Say You are and You can do what You say you can do.

You promise to strengthen and help me. I stand on that promise today. Strengthen me. Strengthen him. Make this marriage something stronger than the enemy’s attacks.

Through it all, You promise to uphold us with Your righteousness. Thank You for that covenant promise that even when I get it wrong You are right. Even when I let go of You, struggling to do things Your way when I can’t understand, You hold onto me.

Lord, be my strength because I have no strength today.

Amen

Related Post: 8 Keys to a Strong Marriage (Especially after Kids)

Prayer for Mental Health

“You keep him in perfect peace
    whose mind is stayed on you,
    because he trusts in you.
Trust in the Lord forever,
    for the Lord God is an everlasting rock.” (Isaiah 26:3 ESV)

Holy Spirit,

Our minds are under attack more and more. I know my spouse struggles to keep his mind right. The voices from the past whisper lies that he has to fight continually. Your perfect peace feels out of reach most days.

Teach him to keep his mind and thoughts fixed on You, remembering Your Words, Your faithfulness, Your blessings, Your presence in past troubles. When he is tempted to look with hopelessness at the trials around him, turn his gaze back to You.

When he begins to trust in himself or his own plans or his own understanding, remind Him that Your ways are higher. Remind Him that You have always been trustworthy in the past. Since You never change, You will be trustworthy right now for him. Grow his faith to trust You.

When it feels like everything around him is shaking, remind Him that you are his everlasting, trustworthy rock! Hold his mind together through this battle. Be his everything. Please stand up and fight over his mind. I claim a strong healthy mind for him.

In Jesus’ name.

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Anxiety

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and pleading with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:6-7 NASB)

Dearest Heavenly Father,

Anxiety is like a disease plaguing our world today. It slips in – unaware – and destroys the joy and peace within. You teach us to fear not and do not be anxious about anything, but that is beyond what we can do most days alone.

When we pray about everything that all changes, but it’s hard to remember to pray about everything. Please, Lord, help us both focus our minds back on you when the anxiety comes.

Thanksgiving also fights away anxiety but it is more natural to complain and grumble. Teach us both to be grateful for all You do and have done in our lives. Help the complaints to raise red flags in our minds, to be like gravel as it comes out of our mouths. Train us to be people who speak words of life instead of complaints or grumbling.

Thank You in advance for the peace of God that surpasses all understanding. The guarding of our hearts and minds in Christ is a blessing like nothing else! You lavish us in Your unconditional love. Let us never forget!

Amen

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Prayer for Physical Health

“Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.” (1 Corinthians 6:19-20 ESV)

Lord Jesus,

Thank you for choosing to walk this earth as a man. Because you lived here and were tempted in every way we are tempted, You are approachable.

When You left the earth, You sent the Helper, Holy Spirit, to dwell within us. That made our bodies Your temple. It is so easy to forget that Your Spirit makes this body His home. Forgive us for taking this body for granted. Forgive us for abusing this body.

Teach us to honor this body, care for this body, and glorify You with what is done in this body.

There are many areas of sin that directly impact our physical body. Sexual sin, gluttony, eating disorders, unchecked anger, unchecked anxiety or fear, recklessness, alcoholism, substance abuse, and so many more sins destroy these bodies.

I ask that You would make us uncomfortable with sin that affects our body. Cause us to see that sin as sin and not just excuse it away. Show us the way out of sin and help us to have the strength to follow through.

I want to pray for the physical health of my spouse. Selfishly, I pray this because I want to grow old with him and I don’t want to see him suffer needlessly. This verse, however, reminds me that the reason to pray for physical health is so that we can use this body, Your temple, to glorify You. Keep that at the front of my mind and his mind.

Amen

Spiritual Growth

“And so, from the day we heard, we have not ceased to pray for you, asking that you may be filled with the knowledge of his will in all spiritual wisdom and understanding, so as to walk in a manner worthy of the Lord, fully pleasing to him: bearing fruit in every good work and increasing in the knowledge of God; being strengthened with all power, according to his glorious might, for all endurance and patience with joy; giving thanks to the Father, who has qualified you to share in the inheritance of the saints in light.” (Colossian 1:9-12 ESV)

O Lord,

I pray for my husband to be filled with the knowledge of YOUR will. Fill him with spiritual wisdom and understanding. Help him to walk in a manner worthy of You Lord. It is my greatest desire that both of our lives are fully pleasing to You.

Please work in our lives so that we would bear fruit in every good work, and that our deeds would not be wasted or pointless or selfishly motivated. Let us increase in the knowledge of God so we grow closer together and stronger in our commitment to You and this marriage.

Strengthen us with all power according to Your glorious might. Let us endure with patience and joy the path You have laid out for us in this life. We thank You in advance. Help us continually be grateful as you have adopted us (when we could never earn or deserve Your love or Covenant) and given us an inheritance.

Continue to grow us spiritually for Your glory and our good.

Amen

Prayer for a Clear Identity in Christ

“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.” (2 Corinthians 5:17-21 ESV)

Precious Savior,

You came to earth as a man, fully man yet fully God, to give us a new name. I am asking You to help my spouse see his new identity. He is a new man, the old passed away when he began to walk with You.

You called him out of the desires of the flesh. When the war against the spirit inside of him, remind him that he has You to help in the battle.

As You form him more and more into Your image, show him where he is believing lies from the past… holding onto old identities that are holding him back.

You have given us a calling and a ministry to share the gospel. We are called to love the lost, helping reconcile them to You. We are Your ambassadors, allowing the Holy Spirit to appeal to the lost through us. You desire their salvation but when we are living the old self we get in the way. Change us.

Amen

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Depression

“Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” (Matthew 11:28-30 ESV)

Holy Spirit,

When Jesus was preparing to leave this world He declared that You would come and be our Comforter, a Great Counselor. My husband needs You in that way right now. Life has not gone as he expected. The burdens he carries are heavy and he is tired of bearing the weight. Yet, he doesn’t know how to set them down at Your feet… so I am interceding for him.

Teach him to find rest in You. Show him how to take off the yoke he wears alone and step into Your yoke. Remind him to walk beside you rather than trying to run ahead so he can learn from You.

When that spirit of depression comes over him, a lie it speaks is that You are harsh, Your ways are exhausting, and he will just fail anyway. In that place, he feels overwhelmed and hopeless. What he needs is your gentleness to guide him toward the rest his soul needs.

If he would live in that place, yoked to You, life would be easier and lighter and the depression would have less to hold onto. Please teach him in ways only You can. Free him from the depression of this season and grow him closer to You.

Amen.

A Spirit of Suicide

“For we do not want you to be unaware, brethren, of our affliction which came to us in Asia, that we were burdened excessively, beyond our strength, so that we despaired even of life; indeed, we had the sentence of death within ourselves so that we would not trust in ourselves, but in God who raises the dead; who delivered us from so great a peril of death, and will deliver us, He on whom we have set our hope. And He will yet deliver us,” (2 Corinthians 1:8-10 NASB)

Jesus,

You are our Great High Priest, yet You lived in this world and understand all the ways we suffer and are tempted. More and more today there is a spirit of suicide running rampent. We have already felt it’s icy fingers reach into our lives which is driving me to intercede now.

The thought that life is too much is not new to this world or to believers. Even Paul and his team felt overwhelmed by the trials of life. My husband often feels burdned excessivly, beyond his strength. Hold him up, Lord. He despaires of this life and has thoughts that death would be better.

Remind him not to trust in himself, but to trust in YOU. God, You raise the dead, You deliver from great perils. I trust that You will deliver him. Teach him to set his hope on You, believing fully that You will deliver him from a spirit of suicide.

Amen

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Grateful Heart

“Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” (1 Thessalonians 5:18 ESV)

“Do all things without complaining or arguments (grumbling); so that you will prove yourselves to be blameless and innocent, children of God above reproach in the midst of a crooked and perverse generation, among whom you appear as lights in the world…” (Philippians 2:14-15 NASB)

Lord,

Repeatedly in Scripture, You instruct us to be people who are thankful and grateful. Give thanks in all circumstances, You tell us, but that is challenging. When life gets hard or there are irritating people or circumstances it is more natural to complain.

In fact, at times we fall into the habit of grumbling and complaining. Forgive us. Cause complaint and aguing and grumbling to feel like gravel in our mouths. Break the habit of being ungrateful.

Remind us that our words and attitudes are how the lost world understands Jesus. When we complain like them, argue continually like them, or grumble about everything like them, we are not being salt and light. Change us.

We desire to be children of God who are above reproach in the midst of this crooked and perverse generation. We desire to shine Your light all around. Mold us more into that image so we can win the lost for You.

Amen

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Hunger and Thirst for Righteousness

“Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they shall be satisfied.” (Matthew 5:6 ESV)

Holy, Righteous Father,

You call us to be holy and set apart like You. We are often reminded to renew our minds and to be salt and light to the lost world in which we live. Living in those ways, however, is not natural.

We are continually distracted by the busyness of life. The world around us feeds us a steady stream of messages that run in the opposite direction of what You ask. Even within the church, we can be kept busy, distracted, and confused about our purpose on Earth.

Unless You cultivate a hunger and thirst for righteousness it will not happen. Unless You help us see everything else as pale and unsatisfying we won’t reach for Your ways.

Please help us to see the world through Your eyes. Help us desire what You desire, care about what You care about, and love the way that You love. Let nothing else satisfy us if we are not hungering for You. Help the parched feeling in our soul direct us to seek You. Please don’t give up on us. Keep drawing us. We need You. We need Your righteousness.

Amen

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Prayer for Anger

“You know this, my beloved brothers and sisters. Now everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak, and slow to anger; for a man’s anger does not bring about the righteousness of God.” (James 1:19-20 NASB)

Sweet Spirit,

So much in life has the potential to stir up anger within us. My spouse can be irritable and that can lead to unexpected bouts of anger. It drives a wedge between us and taints his relationship with his children.

Scripture says so much about anger, but still, the temptation is to fall into old fleshly patterns and give in to angry outbursts. Help him to a person who is slow to anger.

James teaches us that to be slow to anger you must be quick to listen. Remind my husband to listen to hear and understand rather than quietly waiting for a moment to defend himself or continue his angry tirade. To truly listen to understand the other person’s perspective so he shows love… so he can find a way to reconcile and preserve the relationship.

Teach him to be a person who is slow to speak. When those emotions begin to stir up in him, help him learn to pray first, listen to love, and speak only when he can do so from the right place.

There are moments when anger is justifiable, but he doesn’t want to lose those closest to him because of a short fuse. If he could learn the self-control of listening and waiting to speak he would be less angry in the long run. Less anger would help him in every area of life. Only You can work this change. Thank you now for the victory to come!

Amen

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To Know the Will of God for Work

“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope. Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will hear you. You will seek me and find me, when you seek me with all your heart. I will be found by you, declares the Lord” (Jeremiah 29:11-14a NASB)

Almighty God,

You know all things. You see ahead of us and behind us. Not only do You see everything, You have a plan for all things. Jeremiah stated that Your plans are good, they are for our welfare and not for evil, to give us a future and a hope. Help my husband to remember that as he searches for work.

He has not found work to be satisfying in the way he expected. He is often discontent and irritated about the future he imagines because of his work life. Remind Him that You have a plan and that You are in control. When his mind begins to race or spiral toward despair and hopelessness, draw it back to You.

Repeatedly in Scripture, You promise that we can come to You in prayer. “Call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will hear you,” you assure. Teach my husband that he isn’t supposed to figure this out alone. He is meant to ask You and follow Your plan for his life.

Make him a man who seeks You with all his heart because finding You is the real satisfaction for which he is searching. Help him to hunger for Your presence and thirst for Your voice. Then he will find true satisfaction and joy regardless of his work.

Amen

Communication Struggles

“Death and life are in the power of the tongue,
And those who love it will eat its fruit.” (Proverbs 18:21 NASB)

Holy Spirit,

You live within us both. You know how communication was in the beginning. There was sweetness and consideration and interest and curiosity once. Now there is busyness and distraction and the weight of responsibility. There has been hurt and so there are walls now. There has been neglect and so there is skepticism now.

Only You can tear down the walls. Only You can repair what has been broken. Please breathe new life into our marriage and into how we communicate.

I surrender to You. Forgive me for the walls and the skepticism. Forgive me for being too busy to listen and be curious and caring. Help me see him when he speaks and listen to show love rather than advise or defend.

For years now, I’ve spoken words of death; sarcasm, criticism, doubt, and silence were my weapons. Help me choose words of life each day; encouragement, support, love, acknowledgment, curiosity, and grace.

Let the fruit of our words grow healthy communication in this marriage. Let it begin in me but catch on to him and our children quickly.

Amen

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Temptation

“No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.” (1 Corinthians 10:13 ESV)

Gracious Father,

You know all things. You know when we sit and when we rise, when we stand strong and when we fall short. Nothing is hidden from You. I know some of the ways my husband is tempted, but he hides most of them well. I ask this in the power of the Blood to cover every area of temptation known and unknown.

When he is tempted, remind him that the enemy has nothing new. There is nothing he can be tempted about that the Lord can’t provide a way of escape. Help him remember Your faithfulness in the past, in other areas of temptation… or in the testimonies of others if he hasn’t been set free in any area he can think of.

You are faithful to not let him be tempted beyond what he is able to endure, but the limit You know is often farther past the limit we see. Help him see the strength he has because You live within him.

There is a promise that You will provide a way to escape the sin that is tempted. Show him the way and then give him the strength to walk in that way.

Remind me to never judge, but to love and support him where he struggles. Help him to treat me that way as well. Bring hope and healing where we have not done that well. Be glorified in the victories to come!

Amen

Parenting

“And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.” (Deuteronomy 6:6-9 ESV)

Abba Father,

You are the most loving daddy. You lead us, guide up, and protect us throughout our lives with unconditional love. That is the way we want to love our children as well but it is challenging. We have never been parents before and we keep messing things up. Forgive us.

Help us remember Your command for how to raise our children. Teach them Your words, diligently. When we talk with them as we sit in the house, let Your name be on our lips. As we walk through life, let us teach them what You’ve taught us. When we lie down let us honor You with our rest and restful activities and teach them to do the same. As we rise each day let thanksgiving and praise be our example to our children.

Let Your words be bound on our person, displayed in all we do with our hands. Keep our eyes fixed on You and Your word on our mind like it were written on our forehead. Let Your words be written throughout our home as a constant reminder to think, act, and speak in ways that honor You first. Write Your words on our doorpost to remind us not to bring anything ungodly into this home. Protect us and bring peace as we steward Your children.

Amen

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Teen Parenting

“Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” (Ephesians 6:4 NASB)

Lord Jesus,

My husband longs to be a good godly father. He thrived at loving his children as babies and toddlers. Tickle fights and roughhousing were his way of connecting with them in elementary school. But as they step into their teen years, he is struggling to connect with them.

Things that once brought them smiles now make them feel immature, yet he wants to connect how they once connected. Instead of creating a connection, he is driving them to anger. He can’t seem to set those old ways aside for now and learn how to connect in this new way.

Give him wisdom and discernment as we enter this ever-changing world of hormones and transition. Protect their relationships. Give him Your love for his children when their actions stir anger or frustration in him. Help him remain patient, consistent, and loving even when they are impatient, inconsistent, and irrational.

Remind us both that this will only last for a season but it is an important season where they are trying to figure out who they are, and who they want to be. They are asking, “Will you love me if I change? Will you love me if I am temperamental? And will you love me if I don’t know who I am or don’t always love myself? They still need us to answer their question without hesitation, “Yes, I will always love you.”

You always answer us that way. Help us love them that way. Help him find a way to love them in this season that will not stir up anger.

Amen.

Parenting Special Needs Children

“For You created my innermost parts;
You wove me in my mother’s womb.
I will give thanks to You, because I am awesomely and wonderfully made;
Wonderful are Your works,
And my soul knows it very well.
My frame was not hidden from You
When I was made in secret,
And skillfully formed in the depths of the earth;” (Proverbs 139:13-15 NASB)

All-Knowing, All-Powerful Lord,

It comforts my soul to know that nothing catches You off guard and all things are in Your hands. You created our special needs child with a plan and a purpose. She was not a mistake and she is not broken or damaged. You wove her together in her mother’s womb. Thank You! She is wonderfully and awesomely made in Your image!

Your works are wonderful and I know this, but raising a special needs person is not simple or easy. There are days we can’t understand what she needs, we can’t meet those needs, we can’t protect her from the world around her who see her as a burden and we can’t keep her heart safe.

Give us wisdom and discernment to love and care for her in a way that honors and glorifies You. Show us how to measure progress and success. Teach us how to avoid failure and burnout. Love her through us when we have nothing left to give.

Draw us nearer to You on this journey of special needs parenting. Bind our hearts more and more together rather than allowing the pressure and stress to tear us apart. Show us how to make time to invest in our marriage amidst the always-present needs of parenting. Be glorified in our family and home.

Amen.

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Infertility

““Sing, O barren one, who did not bear; break forth into singing and cry aloud, you who have not been in labor! For the children of the desolate one will be more than the children of her who is married,” says the Lord.” (Isaiah 54:1-17 ESV)

Sweet Holy Spirit,

There has been a longing in our hearts to start a family for years. I can remember dreaming of being a mommy and he parrots that desire. Yet, we have been unable to carry a baby to term. This infertility… barrenness… hurts deep inside. We cry out to You.

We ask for Your blessing to have children. Desperately, we ask for healing of whatever is broken that prevents us from our dreams. The doctors don’t have answers and we don’t have resources to keep searching. Help us. Be our healing and help.

You have said that “the children of the desolate” will be more than others. We’ve taken that to heart and are loving others, serving others, and giving our lives away in every way we can. But inside there is still a longing for our own children.

If it is not Your will for our lives to bear our own children, remove this desire from us. I surrender this to You. No more will we pursue doctors or remedies. We will wait on You.

If it is Your will for us to start our family, but we are to wait, help us to wait in a way that honors You. Help us to look to You when we feel desperate and empty. Show us how else to expend this love and longing in the waiting.

We trust You. Your plan. Your timing. They are perfect even though we don’t understand. You are faithful and we will remember.

Amen

Peace of Mind Instead of Fear

“I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.”(John 16:33 ESV)

Jehovah-Shalom (God of Peace),

My husband battles fear in his life. I often pray for peace of mind for him, because I know the battle takes a toll on every area of his life. He is afraid he will fail, so he doesn’t try. He is afraid he will be rejected so he hides behind walls. The fears are very real in his mind.

Your peace is what he needs… is what we all need. You came into this world to overcome all the things that bring fear; death, sin, uncertainty. All these and more You have conquered. Then You said that we could conquer and are more than conquerors. Remind my husband of that piece of his identity.

When fear of failure or fear of rejection or fear of man creeps up on him, remind him to only fear the Lord. There is a great blessing in living and walking in the fear of the Lord. You promise protection and wisdom and freedom beyond measure when we fear You rather than the things of this world. Those are the things I pray over his life and mind.

Teach him to trust in You and walk in Your will despite the fears that he has always known. Then one day he will look back in wonder of who You are and how far You have brought him.

Without You, he will never find freedom from these fears. Give him the desire to pursue freedom, the desire to cling to You rather than allow the cyclical spiraling into fear that he has always known. Be his rock, his fortress and his healing until he is free from fear. Be glorified in his life and mind.

Amen

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Help With Past Trauma

“I will say to the Lord, “My refuge and my fortress,
My God, in whom I trust!”
He will cover you with His pinions,
And under His wings you may take refuge;
His faithfulness is a shield and wall.
You will not be afraid of the terror by night,
Or of the arrow that flies by day;
Of the plague that stalks in darkness,
Or of the destruction that devastates at noon.” (Psalm 91:1-6 NASB)

El Shaddai,

You know all things and see all things. You were there when the trauma happened. Scripture tells us that You are our refuge and fortress. Let my husband run to hide himself in You when the memories assail him of the past. Remind him that he can trust in You.

Protect his mind and heal his heart. Cover him in your wings so no fear prevails and so the enemy will run. Help him see that you are faithful even though the trauma happened, You were with him. Your faithfulness is a shield and wall that will help him find freedom from the past.

When he begins to fear that the past may repeat, show him how faithfully You are fighting over him. Let him not be scared of the terror by night – no nightmares or fears that disturb his sleep. Give him eyes to see You covering him like a shield preventing the enemy’s arrows from piercing his heart and mind.

When destruction looms, give him eyes like Elisha’s servant to see that those with him are more than those with the enemy. You are His mighty God, powerful to save. Let Him rest in Your protective arms! Let that rest heal the wounds of past trauma, allowing him to live in each moment victoriously.

Amen

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Prayer for Wisdom

“But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, open to reason, full of mercy and good fruits, impartial and sincere.” (James 3:17 ESV)

Father of Light,

You promise to give us wisdom when we ask and so I come asking for my spouse. He seeks knowledge from the world, but often your wisdom runs the opposite of how the world would run.

Your wisdom is always pure. Where knowledge has tainted his mind with anything sly or underhanded, help him turn away. Your wisdom is also peaceable and gentle. When he is tempted to be forceful or harsh, remind him of Your ways. Your wisdom is open to reason, let closemindedness be a red flag in his mind when making decisions.

Teach him to be merciful and sincere in all his ways. Let his life bear good fruit as a blessing from living and choosing with Your wisdom. Throughout it all, help him be impartial, not prejudiced, giving space for each person and situation to stand on its own merit.

Protect us as he learns to walk in wisdom. Keep his heart from pride and the logic that can stand against Your will at times. Help him always keep his eyes and mind fixed on You.

Amen

Prayer for Discernment and Knowledge

“And it is my prayer that your love may abound more and more, with knowledge and all discernment, so that you may approve what is excellent, and so be pure and blameless for the day of Christ…” (Philippians 1:9-10 ESV)

El Roi,

You are the God who sees. You see what my husband is going through right now and how he understands all the aspects of the situation. Thank You that You see his heart and care for him deeply.

He needs discernment, to know what to do and when to do it. Part of discernment is also knowing what not to do or say and when to not do or say those things. This is an area where he struggles and ends up making costly mistakes. Teach Him Your ways that are excellent.

Give him the specific knowledge he needs right now. That knowledge will be pure and blameless to honor Christ. When his actions, based on what he knows in the flesh, do not look pure and blameless, let it set off warnings in his spirit to stop and pray.

As he walks through this situation, please protect his mind from his own understanding. Human logic and past mistakes threaten to have him walking in his own way rather than seeking out Your will. Give him the courage to seek You and then the strength to walk in the way You reveal. In all these things, be glorified in his life, our marriage, and our home.

Amen

Calling

“Therefore I, the prisoner of the Lord, urge you to walk in a manner worthy of the calling with which you have been called, with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, being diligent to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.” (Ephesians 4:1-3 NASB)

Dear Lord,

You have called each of us in several ways. There is the initial calling to salvation and then into a life of sanctification where we are becoming more like You. Then there are specific callings in our lives. Thank You for calling us to become part of Your family.

As we walk in the specific calling, remind us that our lives were bought with a price and we are to walk in a worthy manner. Help us see that there is no place for pride or harshness but that we are to walk in humility and gentleness.

When impatience rears its head, correct us. Teach us to walk patiently with others, bearing with them in love. My husband struggles with patience. Set a guard over his mouth so he thinks and prays before he speaks. Guide his choices to better align with Your ways.

Individuality is the call of our culture, but remind us that that is not your way. You desire us to diligently keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. Help us desire unity. Show us where we are at odds with unity in our marriage, home, and church.

Make us mindful of the role of the Holy Spirit in all of this. Teach us to be sensitive to Him and never quench Him. Through all of this, let us be peacemakers rather than potstirrers. Be glorified in our lives as we pursue Your calling.

Amen

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Freedom from Addiction

“No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.” (1 Corinthians 10:13 ESV)

Dear Heavenly Father,

Addiction is something that both my husband and I know well. We grew up in homes where addiction was the master. Both of us have walked the line of pursuing things besides You to satisfy our longings, desires, and needs. Addiction is ruthless and brutal in its assault on a person and a family.

There has already been healing from several addicting things in our lives and for that I give You all the glory! You moved. You healed. Thanks to You, we are free in some areas. All honor and glory to You alone!

Now I come to You, interceding for my family as there is an addiction lingering. You know it’s name. You know how it lurks in the shadows and hides itself within excuses. It could destroy us if You don’t come in power and work healing in my husband’s heart and mind over this area.

You said that there is no new temptation. That means what he is facing has been faced and overcome by countless others over the years. You already have a plan and strategy that would free him from the ugly green fingers of this addiction. You are faithful. Remind Him of Your faithfulness when he longs to turn to this addiction rather than You for help and comfort.

He can only bear so much temptation in this area but You already know his limits. You promised to always provide a way of escape for him. Show him the way out. Then, please give him the strength to want that way out and the boldness and courage to walk in it every time this temptation rears its ugly head. I trust You in this area and surrender it to You.

Amen

Alcoholism

“And do not get drunk with wine, for that is debauchery, but be filled with the Spirit, addressing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody to the Lord with your heart, giving thanks always and for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ.” (Ephesians 5:18-20 ESV)

Oh Sovereign Lord,

You are my fortress and my strong tower, I need to hide myself in You through this season. I was blind and missed the hold alcohol had on my husband. This addiction drives his every decision in life and he doesn’t see it as anything to resist.

Being drunk leads to all kinds of sin and I see it first hand. The way he behaves drunk is nothing like the man I know he is sober. It hurts to live and love in this relationship with my husband and alcohol. I foolishly believed that when he got saved he would set aside all the sin that holds him. Instead, he justifies his drinking and I feel hopeless against it.

Bring change. Bring freedom. Help him see the evil that comes when he drinks. Cause the thought to repulse him. Allow the taste to become like vomit in his mouth. Allow something to get his attention to the danger of drinking the way he does.

Only You can heal this addiction in my husband. Only You can defend and protect me from the abuse that comes when he drinks. I don’t know what else to do so I will keep my eyes on You to fight this battle.

Amen

Drug Addiction

“All things are lawful for me,” but not all things are helpful. “All things are lawful for me,” but I will not be dominated by anything.” (1 Corinthians 6:12 ESV)

Christ Jesus,

There is a struggle in our home. I’ve seen the struggle on many sides and know how it can wreck a life and destroy a family. As the child of someone who battled addiction, I know how it distorts a picture of love and security. As a person who has the traits that could easily slide into addiction, I understand how it beckons and lies. Being married to someone who battles addiction, I know how it stings that he can’t break free to choose me, to choose us. It hurts.

In our culture, many drugs that cause or lead to addiction are legal. They are prescribed without thought to how they will affect the user. They are touted as harmless, even medicinal. For some that may be true, but for others, they lead to death. Regardless, as Believers, even what is lawful is not good for us if it rules over us. Help us all remember that!

I am praying over my family today because I know the traits of addiction run deep and strong. My husband already battles addiction in several areas. I’ve fought my whole life to stay free from that monster. Now we have children who show every sign of being just like us.

I beg You, Jesus, stand up and fight over our family. Stand up over my husband and break every tie to drugs that addict him, to things that he can’t live life without. Heal the parts of his mind that he is self-medicating. Please cause every part of his body to work in balance. Bring healing, health, and renewal to him so he has the strength to break free from any drug addiction that is there now or that may threaten him in the future.

Kids And Drug Addiction

Please protect our children from the temptation to just try drugs of any kind. They are everywhere today in a deadly way that was not true when we were kids. Help them decide now that they will not harm the temple of God or play with the line of anything that will have rule over their lives. Lead them to godly friends who sharpen them rather than pull them down toward sin. Protect them from peer pressure. Use their already strong wills to stand against what they know is wrong and stand strong for what is right.

In every way, let our family bring honor and glory to You. Let us be salt and light in the world where You’ve placed us.

Amen

Salvation

“For God so loved the world that He gave His Only Son that who so ever believeth in Him might not perish but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)

Dear Heavenly Father,

It still floors me that You loved us so much that You sent Your Only Son to save WhoSoEver believes in Him.  I lay my spouse at your feet.  He is a WhoSoEver in the world.  You made a way for him to be saved and I come humbly before You to intercede for his soul. 

Please soften his heart so he can hear You and feel You knocking (Ezekiel 11:19).  Open his heart to the gospel (Acts 16:14 ) Defend him from the enemy and release him from any hold the enemy has over him (2 Corinthians 4:4).

It is Your will that all be saved. You desire for none to be lost, so as I pray, believing according to Your will. Thank You in advance for the salvation of my husband. 

Your Word says, “Whoever believes in Him will not be disappointed.” For there is no distinction between Jew and Greek; for the same Lord is Lord of all, abounding in riches for all who call on Him; for “Whoever will call on the name of the Lord will be saved.” Romans 10:8-13.

I stand interceding based on this promise for my spouse today!

Amen

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Pride

“This is what the Lord says: “Let no wise man boast of his wisdom, nor let the mighty man boast of his might, nor a rich man boast of his riches; but let the one who boasts boast of this, that he understands and knows Me, that I am the Lord who exercises mercy, justice, and righteousness on the earth; for I delight in these things,” declares the Lord.” (Jeremiah 9:23-23 NASB)

Oh Lord Our God,

You are the Alpha and Omega, the beginning and the end. All wisdom and knowledge belong to You and come from You. Let us be a family that humble ourselves before You daily.

Throughout Scripture, You instruct us to fight the sin of pride. This is one that I struggle with and my spouse struggles with. Where there is wisdom we boast. Where there is might, we boast. If there were riches we would also boast. Forgive us.

Teach us to be people who boast only in knowing You. Understanding You should be our highest goal. Guide us in this way, to know You more, to love You more. When our eyes are fixed on You rather than the things of this world, pride will flee.

You are merciful and just. Your righteousness goes out through all the earth and makes everything beautiful. As You delight in those things, remind us to delight in them. Help us be people who humble ourselves under the mighty hand of God so that we will be exalted in due time.

Amen

Pornography

“But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” (Matthew 5:28 ESV)

Holy Spirit,

Pornography is a sin we both have battled from an early age. I am not condemning him for struggling, but I am struggling with the consequences. I know from Your Word that You see me and You see him and care about the things that hurt us. Please step in and fight over our relationship.

The sin is lust, but there is more behind it. There is past trauma and early exposure leading to addiction. There is a desire for sexual release without the fear or failure or criticism or maybe even an effort to woo or delay the gratification. So many layers are between him and this addiction. But at the heart of all of those things is sin.

You say it is sin to lust after a woman. Pornography fits that description. He has a sin problem. Please change his heart about this area. Show him the sin and how it affects more than just himself. Show him how this sin separates the two of you as well. Bring him to a place of repentance and humility that will allow him to seek help to overcome this addiction.

Hold onto me in the process. Cover me in Your peace. Give me wisdom and discretion. Help me love him and be satisfied in Your love until this changes. Keep me safe and help me know when to get safe if that changes. I put my trust in You to fight this battle.

Amen

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Gambling

“For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evils. It is through this craving that some have wandered away from the faith and pierced themselves with many pangs.” (1 Timothy 6:10 ESV)

God,

I lift my husband up to you today and his struggle with Gambling.   Please make his heart free from the love of money, Your word says he will never be satisfied pursuing that.  Teach him to be on guard against greed because his heart will follow it and leave us if left unchecked.

Please help him to trust in You, to know that You will be with him and help him, and that You care about him more than the sparrows.  You promised to supply all our needs.  Help him to turn to You for help with our situation rather than run away from it.

Take away from him a heart prone to covet that falls into temptation.  Please show him how to pursue entertainment in a healthy way rather than an addicting way that destroys our family.  Help his thoughts to stay on truth, honor and what is right rather than run in fear from our problems.

Blameless Example

Teach him to lead a blameless life – one fitting a son of the King of kings.

Father, You know my heart fears the example being set for our children.  Please change this pattern and help our children see the struggle – still respecting their father – but avoid this lifestyle.  Help my husband to see with eyes of wisdom.  Show him what he is truly teaching his children about life and faith.  Show him how to rise above this fear and stronghold to live with the Fear of God, leading our family well.

Open his eyes to the truth.  Change what he treasures.  Teach him to Trust You alone.  Give him the strength to rise above.  Transform his heart to be honest and allow others to help him. 

Give me the strength to keep praying and trusting You regardless of what I see changing or not changing. In all these things help me continue to keep my eyes fixed on You, surrendering this life to You.

Amen

An excerpt from 10 Things to Pray About Gambling in a Christian Marriage

Unequally Yoked Marriage

“Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?” (2 Corinthians 6:14 NASB)

Dear Lord,

Make me a Prayer Warrior Wife who can say I have not ceased to pray for my husband.  We are unequally yoked. You have saved him – Praise Your Holy Name – but he is not growing. He is stuck and it hurts our family.

I ask that he be filled with the knowledge of YOUR will in all spiritual wisdom and understanding.  Then he will walk in a manner worthy of the Lord, to please Him in all respects, bearing fruit in every good work and increasing in the knowledge of God. 

Let him be strengthened with all power, according to His glorious might.  Help my husband attain all steadfastness and patience; joyously giving thanks to the Father, who has qualified us to share in the inheritance of the saints in Light. (Colossians 1:9-12)

Please grant my husband, to be strengthened with power through YOUR Spirit in the inner man.  So that Christ may dwell in his hearts through faith.

Let my husband, being rooted and grounded in love, be able to comprehend with all the saints what is the breadth and length and height and depth, and to know the love of Christ which surpasses knowledge, that he may be filled up to all the fullness of God. (Ephesians 3:16-19)

Amen

An excerpt from How To Fight For My Unequally Yoked Marriage

Perfectionism

“For we all stumble in many ways. And if anyone does not stumble in what he says, he is a perfect man, able also to bridle his whole body.” (James 3:2 ESV)

Precious Lamb of God,

There has never been a perfect man apart from You. You came and walked this earth being tempted but never sinning. How can we ever imagine we could be perfect when it took the Son of God to achieve that standard? Forgive us for expecting more from ourselves than You expect from us.

I know my husband lives paralyzed with the fear of stumbling. In staying stuck in that fear he literally causes himself to fail and fall short. Yet he can’t see his way out of the cycle. Help him see You when fear sets overwhelms.

Remind him that all men stumble. That is exactly why You came to this earth. We could not do life without You holding us together and catching us when we fall. Remind him to repent, submit his mouth to You, submit his mind to You, submit his hands to You, submit his feet to You, and submit his eyes to You.

Surrendering the idea that he can be a perfect man will bring freedom from the lie of perfectionism. He needs that freedom. Only You can fight and win this battle against Your son. I stand believing in You for the victory, in Jesus’ Name and through the power of Your blood.

Amen

He Is Made in God’s Image

Father God,

This crazy world has twisted the beauty of creation. I pray for protection over my husband’s mind about gender identity and sexual orientation. Give him a clear picture of who he is physically, mentally, and sexually.

When he is tempted to sin, remind him that he is the Body of Christ now and has become one spirit with You. Let him have a mental picture of living life joined with You, bringing You into every area of his life. When he watches something, let him register that You are watching. When he says or does something, let him question if that would please You.

As he begins to shift how he views his body, let him desire to honor and glorify You alone with it.

Amen

Fear of Failure

“For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.” (2 Timothy 1:7 ESV)

Alpha and Omega,

You know the end from the beginning. You’ve seen every life and have measured the weight of each choice. You sit enthroned as the Ancient of Days to judge the world at the right time. With the weight of all those things, we struggle with what it means to fear You, to be in awe of You.

You have never failed. But we fail daily. There is a very real fear in my husband of failing one too many times. That fear leaves him paralyzed at times, so afraid of the potential failure that he doesn’t move. Help him understand Your grace and mercy and unconditional love.

We know that the spirit of fear didn’t come from YOU. It is a lie from the enemy that keeps us from fulfilling the calling You placed in our lives. Forgive my husband for believing the lies and allowing footholds of fear to become strongholds in his life.

In fact, YOU promised that the spirit You gave us was filled with every Spiritual blessing in the heavenly realms. You give power… power over the enemy, over the lies. You give love… love to cover a multitude of sins, to propel us to action. You give us self-control… to not allow anything ungodly to rule over us… to control our thoughts and to choose to believe YOU instead of the lies.

When he is tempted to walk in the lie of fear, to believe it would be worse to fail than to try, remind him. Remind him of the love You give. Remind him of the power he has and the self-control that is his if he will walk with YOU. Give him freedom from this paralyzing fear of failure. In Jesus’ name!

Amen

Love Unconditionally

““Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act disrespectfully or unbecomingly; it does not seek it’s own, is not provoked to anger, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, enduring all things.  Love never fails.” (1 Corinthians 13:4-8 NASB)

Jesus, Lover of my soul,

You showed us perfect love, sacrificial love… unconditional love. Now, we strive to love as You loved. But it’s hard to love that way. People hurt us. We are selfish. It is easier to receive love than to return love. Forgive us for falling short in this way!

Help us to love in the way You showed. Remind us to be patient with others because everyone is struggling with something. Reflect back Your kindness through us. Remove jealousy from our hearts and minds. Remove pride from our minds, actions, and mouths. When we feel a struggle to show respect, remind us that all people are created in Your image and You command us to respect others.

Remove selfishness from our hearts. Teach us instead, to be selfless servants as You were on the earth.

Lord, anger is a response of the flesh that rises up easily. Quiet our unrighteous anger with Your love and truth. Help us forgive easily so we are not keeping a record of wrongs. When people face consequences, help us not rejoice in that, but pray for repentance and change. Help us rejoice with truth.

Remind us that we have the Holy Spirit within us so we can bear all things through Your strength. When we struggle to believe all things and hope all things of others, fix our eyes on YOU because you are faithful. Teach us to endure, walking in righteousness, so that Your light shines brightly through us.

Amen.

Forgive as a Way of Life

“For if you forgive other people for their offenses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive other people, then your Father will not forgive your offenses.” (Matthew 6:14-15 NASB)

Lord and Savior,

You taught us how to forgive. As humans, it is a constant struggle to give the responsibility of holding the debt owed to us back to YOU. A struggle! In fact, often we think we did forgive but then bitterness and resentment slip in and prove we have not! Forgive us.

I notice my husband battles forgiveness in a deeper way than I struggle. For him, it hits against a pride issue or a respect issue. He feels a lot of things when the topic comes up. Help him see this the way you see it. Help him long to live just for you and fight the desires of the flesh.

You taught us that when we withhold forgiveness there is something between YOU and us. We feel it holds others accountable or punishes them for the hurt, but really the punishment comes to us. Unforgiveness is disobedience. Sin. Forgive him for fighting You on this topic.

Teach him how to release the debts to You to repay or give vengeance or change hearts and lives. Give him eyes to love others the way You love them instead of seeing their mistakes. Help him heal from the wrongs done to him where there has not been forgiveness or reconciliation.

I beg You to bring healing, hope, and restoration to his heart and mind in this area.

Amen

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Prayer for A Deeply Troubled Marriage

“…Because the Lord has been a witness between you and the wife of your youth, against whom you have dealt treacherously, though she is your marriage companion and your wife by covenant. But not one has done so who has a remnant of the Spirit. And why the one? He was seeking a godly offspring. Be careful then about your spirit, and see that none of you deals treacherously against the wife of your youth. “For I hate divorce,” says the Lord, the God of Israel, “and him who covers his garment with violence,” says the Lord of armies. “So be careful about your spirit, that you do not deal treacherously.” (Malachi 2:14-16 NASB)

Holy Spirit,

I ask You to be a witness between me and my husband. He has dealt treacherously with me. He has not loved me well, cherished me or led me or our family. We started this journey with such dreams and hopes but today they are all in ruins. What happened?

Teach him to be careful about his spirit. Teach him to love his wife as he loves himself… to care for his wife as he cares for himself. Change the course of this marriage.

You say that You hate divorce and I understand that divorce tears the soul into pieces violently. It creates more pain because where the two had become one flesh they are then tearing the flesh apart to become one individually again. It hurts. There will be scar tissue, wounds, and pain that goes deeper than either of us could imagine. I don’t want that. He doesn’t want that.

Help us deal tenderly with each other, rather than treacherously with each other. Remove the selfishness, laziness, and pride that are damaging our relationship. Bring healing and hope as only You can.

Amen

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Prayer to Pray Boldly

“This is the confidence which we have before Him, that, if we ask anything according to His will, He hears us.” (1 John 5:14 NASB)

God our Father,

It can feel intimidating to approach Your throne. Thank You for the permission to pray. Thank You that You have any desire to hear from us and that You care about us and our cares. What a blessing.

Prayer is an area where my husband struggles. He feels it is silly, like talking to yourself. He feels it wastes time and accomplishes nothing or is inactive. Remind him that He is bringing his real needs to the Creator of the Universe. Remind him that You long to hear and intervene when he asks.

Give him the confidence to pray. Teach him boldness to have faith that asks for all of what he needs. Help him live a life where he prays according to Your will and You then answer his prayers. Thank You, for the change this will bring in his life!

Amen

Prayer for Husband and Wife Together

“Therefore, confess your sins to one another, and pray for one another so that you may be healed. A prayer of a righteous person, when it is brought about, can accomplish much.” (James 5:16 NASB)

Lord,

You tell us that as a married couple, we have become one flesh. We represent Your relationship with the Church to the lost world. Help us keep that perspective in mind when we disagree or drive each other crazy. This kind of marriage can be like a beacon of light to a lost world.

Remind us both to confess our sins to one another. Help us not be easily offended and be quick to forgive. Teach us to pray well and often for one another so there will be no brokenness in our hearts or in our marriage.

When we are tempted to sin, remind us that a righteous person has more power in prayer. We need power in prayer as we face the enemy of this dark world. Help us keep the perspective that living in Your pleasure is far better than the lie of momentary pleasure in sin.

Heal what is broken in our marriage. Draw us nearer to You so we can draw nearer to each other. In Jesus’ name, I pray.

Amen

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Discovering Infidelity

““but I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except for the reason of unchastity (sexual sin), makes her commit adultery; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.” (Matthew 5:32 NASB emphasis mine)

Father God,

I still remember the day I discovered my first husband was unfaithful to me. It was devastating. My entire world began to spin wildly out of control. This man, who had promised us both to become one with me, had broken that trust in the most violent, intentional way. You took my heart and held me close. I know others walk that path each day.

Lord, You command marriage to be held in honor and the marriage bed to be undefiled. You abhor infidelity. Wrap Your arms around the person praying this prayer today. Surround them with You peace that passes all understanding. Give wisdom and discernment. Lead them to a godly counselor. Set boundaries around them to protect their heart, mind, and body from the unfaithful spouse who selfishly chose their own lust rather than honoring their vows.

You allow for divorce in these cases… but divorce doesn’t stop the hurt. This precious child of Yours needs clear direction and great healing. Surround them with a godly community to help while they walk this path. Bring forgiveness so they do not get swallowed up in bitterness and resentment. Heal and comfort as only You can.

We trust in You. Amen.

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Healing After Infidelity

“Lord, how often will my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? As many as seven times?” Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you seven times, but seventy-seven times.” (Matthew 18:21–22)

Precious Lord Jesus,

You know better than anyone else how it feels to be betrayed in this way. There is pain in places in my soul I never dreamed were possible. How do You forgive us for being unfaithful to You? How can I forgive him for this break in our trust? We were to be one flesh, in a covenant relationship until one of us died. Now… now I don’t know.

Show me how to forgive. Teach my heart to trust in You even though You allowed this. It feels the like the whole world is shifting. Keep my feet fixed on the Rock and my eyes fixed on You while You work to heal my heart.

If there is any way to bring restoration, show me. I want to walk in Your will. If he is not truely repentant or if there is a chance this will be repeated, who me. I do not want to walk through more pain. Help me see things clearly. Give us honest accountability. Set good, firm, Biblical boundaries to protect us both.

Show us Your way forward. Heal as only You can. Bring glory through the pain so this story helps others know You more. Grow me, shape me, change me. My life is in Your hands. I trust You, help me trust You completely.

Amen

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Vulnerability

“But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong.” (2 Corinthians 12:9-10 ESV)

Holy Spirit,

I know there is hurt and pride and so many other things sitting between my heart and his heart. We are weak in this way. We need You, Your power, Your grace to cover us, change us, and make beauty out of the mess we’ve created.

Teach us to trust. Teach us to be vulnerable. Help us change in the ways needed.

Amen

Daily Prayer for Married Couples^

“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.

Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” (Ephesians 5:22-31 ESV)

Happy and Holy Covenant Marriage

“And He answered and said, “Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’?So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, no person is to separate.” (Matthew 19:4-6 NASB)

Prayer for Sexless Marriage

“But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” (1 Corinthians 7:2-5 ESV)

Short Prayer for Marriage

“Be kind to one another, compassionate, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.” (Ephesians 4:33 NASB)

Discontentment and Irritability

“Keep your life free from love of money, and be content with what you have, for he has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” (Hebrews 13:5 ESV)

Covetousness

“And he said to them, “Take care, and be on your guard against all covetousness, for one’s life does not consist in the abundance of his possessions.” (Luke 12:15 ESV)

Negative Thinking

“Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise dwell on these things.” (Philippians 4:8 NASB)

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Grumbling and Complaining

“Do all things without complaining or arguments; so that you will prove yourselves to be blameless and innocent, children of God above reproach in the midst of a crooked and perverse generation, among whom you appear as lights in the world,” (Philippians 4:14-15 NASB)

Disappointment

“Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a desire fulfilled is a tree of life.” (Proverbs 13:12 ESV)

Grief

“My soul weeps because of grief;
Strengthen me according to Your word.” (Psalm 119: 28 NASB)

Financial Struggles

“And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:19 ESV)

Debt

“Owe no one anything, except to love each other, for the one who loves another has fulfilled the law.” (Romans 13:8 ESV)

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If you are joining us on this daily prayer marriage challenge, will you comment, “Me too,” in the comments?

We can lift each other up in prayer that way. It will be life-saving to commit to marriage prayers today but how much more so if we pray for each other in the community?

When it’s all finished I’ll pull all the prayers into a daily prayer marriage pdf* so keep your eyes open for that!

in HIS love,

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