How do you learn to embrace a life of gratitude in marriage in every season? That one question has sent my wheels spinning this week and what has come out of it is a 30 day marriage challenge for gratitude that I hope will help us all rise to the challenge. Yes, 30 days of gratitude challenge for her (though married couples could do it together if they like).A 30-day marriage challenge for gratitude seemed the easiest way to instill the habit of living with an attitude of gratitude in marriage. Will you join us for this 30 days of gratitude challenge? Click To Tweet
Why Take A 30-Day Marriage Challenge for Gratitude?
Did you find this article near November when all our minds are on thankfulness and gratitude? Some of the things that bring people here are; 30 days of thankfulness challenge, November 30 days of gratitude, 30 days of gratitude prayer guide, 30 days of thankfulness ideas, 30 days of thanksgiving, or 30 days of thanksgiving challenge. All of these are amazing ideas btw, but gratitude is not just for November.
Maybe you’ll find it in February while trying to decide the best gift for your husband (which is always words of appreciation).
Regardless of the time of year, gratitude is always a great way to invest in your marriage. A 30 day marriage challenge for gratitude seemed to me to be the easiest way to instill the habit of living with an attitude of gratitude any time of year.
Gratitude Is Not Easy
While gratitude will help you invest in your marriage, it does not always come easy. In fact, I freely admit that gratitude is hard to express when marriage is hard. Sometimes marriage is lovely, and other times the challenge of marriage is a mess of two sinful people trying their best to honor God and not kill each other.
No matter which of those seasons you might be in, however, you can have a better marriage in 30 days if you practice the habit of gratitude!
Before we get into the specifics of the challenge, let’s talk about the what’s and why’s.
What is a Gratitude Challenge?
A gratitude challenge is an intentional time for you to focus on growing in the area of gratitude in marriage.
- You join a group.
- Work from a common list.
- Get the 30 day gratitude challenge pdf in the form on this page!
- You could use this 30 days of gratitude calendar over and over.
- Commit to showing gratitude for each day for the set time.
- You watch as you change and your spouse changes!
What is a 30 Day Gratitude Challenge?
They say 21 days creates a habit but I am stubborn and resistant to change so 30-days seemed best (repeated a few times in fact).
What I love about doing something for an entire month, as opposed to just a few weeks, is it becomes a part of me and when the next month rolls around I want to keep going!
Now, this is a 30 day marriage challenge for wives, but it could be used by couples. The reason I didn’t make it a 30 day marriage challenge for couples is that my husband would never do it this way. He hates lists and calendars and wants to just wing it. A 30 day marriage challenge pdf would drive him crazy.
I’m sure there are men who are opposite, but this is my way and it has worked for many wives… so that’s how I share it. It is totally free to be used however works best for you though. Let me know if you are a husband using the list 😉 I’d love to meet you.
What Are The Benefits of Gratitude in Marriage?
Have you ever been having the worst day? I mean the coffee pot boiled over with grounds init, the tax bill came in double what you expected, your toothaches, and you stubbed your toe on the coat rack heading out the door to work. The worst day.
Then someone tells you what a great job you did on the presentation yesterday. They outline how professional you were, how easily they could follow your points, and show genuine gratitude for the hard work you put into the project.
The day can begin to completely turn around from that one conversation.
Gratitude does that. Whether you receive gratitude or show gratitude, it improves things.
Forbes shared 7 scientifically proven benefits of gratitude that highlight benefits in these key areas of our lives:
- Physical health
- Psychological health
- Mental strength
- Yes, you can be grateful in hard times
Bottom line, gratitude is good for you and good for those in your life. You will love the way this gratitude challenge opens your spouse up.
What Doe the Bible Say About Gratitude
The scripture is filled with Bible verses about gratitude. It is filled with the idea that we are to live in humility with a grateful heart. My favorite of all the scriptures about gratitude is this.
“Rejoice always; pray without ceasing; in everything give thanks; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18
As you think about this 30 day marriage challenge for her, start jotting down or searching for Bible verses about appreciating your husband. Adding Scripture about gratitude to this challenge will bring in a larger reward in the end!
Want to go deeper on ways to grow in gratitude?
- Learn how to move toward a grateful heart
- Embracing a Life of Gratitude When Marriage is Not Beautiful
- What Does The Bible Say About Gratitude?
How Do You Grow in Gratitude?
From the moment you accept God as the Lord and Savior of your life, you are indwelt with the Holy Spirit. As you grow and mature as a Christian the Holy Spirit slowly changes your selfish, sinful heart into a holy, spirit lead heart. An attitude of gratitude comes with that.
The problem is that we are comfortable Christians, complacent, and content to sit in Church and soak up the Word while we rarely take it into our daily lives. We have to work in agreement with the Holy Spirit, open our hearts to allow Him to change us.
Growing in the spirit of gratitude is one of those areas that require work on your part. It requires you to live in a community that will hold you accountable for growth.
That is what I love about the Hope Joy in Christ community. You are active and engaged to encourage and challenge each other as we grow together. Check out the wives-only Facebook group!
Let’s focus the next 30 days on a gratitude challenge for marriage
How To Be Successful in This Marriage Challenge
I have created a 30-day gratitude challenge printable calendar to help us get started. Think of it as a gratitude training calendar with prompts to help you think of things to be thankful for.
Why just prompts instead of specific phrases? Your husband is different from my husband. While men have much in common, they are also different and so what works for my marriage will need to be tweaked for your marriage.
As you accept this 30 day wife challenge get a journal ready and start thinking of ways your husband shines. If you are struggling to think of 30, ask the Holy Spirit to help you see him through His eyes.
How Do You Use the Gratitude Challenge PDF?
- Download the gratitude training calendar.
- Print the calendar.
- Get a notebook and pen.
- Schedule time each day with the gratitude journal prompts.
- There are gratitude challenge ideas listed each day to help prompt you.
What do you do with the scheduled time each day? Use the gratitude journal prompts to help you note specific things to be thankful for. This can easily become a 30 days of gratitude prayer guide, as you note things to praise your husband about, pray over areas you wish were on the list.
I’ve given you a different category for each day. You could potentially take these prompts and note 12 different things to appreciate your husband for in that area, respect him about or be grateful. If you can, put them in the calendar of your phone for that day each month and plan an entire year of gratitude.
For more Marriage Challenge ideas see:
- A Forgiveness Challenge
- 13 Powerful Ways to Show 1 Corinthians 13 Love in Marriage
- The Joy in Marriage Conference
- 31 Days of Hope for Marriage
- Reclaim Joy in Marriage
What Are Some Examples of Gratitude?
It’s hard to give specific examples because our spouses are all so different. Some of the categories will work for your husband and some will not.
- His body
- His mind
- Spiritual growth
Don’t stress over that. Maybe you don’t have children so you can’t use that prompt. Just use one of the others twice. I can think of 30 things that would make his day to be grateful for about his body. Just a thought.
One example of gratitude that makes my husband smile every time is this:
Thank you for going to work. I know the job is not easy but I see your committment to provide for our family. It makes me feel loved when you go to work!
In the past, I’ve tried to think of 30 random things to be thankful for throughout November and I always draw a blank by day 10. This gratitude training calendar gives you prompts to help you create a specific gratitude list.
How Do You Express Gratitude to Your Husband?
Respect and affirmation show love to your husband nearly every time.
Men need respect in the same way that women need love. That is a huge reason to fix a lack of respect in marriage. Respect is a felt need and when you begin to intentionally speak words of gratitude to your husband you will begin to fill up his respect bucket.
“Show proper respect to everyone…” 1 Peter 2:17
When marriage is not easy it is harder still to think of words of respect or words of affirmation. That is why I love to take a gratitude challenge like this. It gives you the motivation you need and the accountability from a community that is all working through it together! Think of it as a 30 day Christian challenge for wives!!!!!
Will You Accept the 30-day Marriage Challenge for Gratitude?
I am giving you everything you need to get started with this 30 day marriage challenge for gratitude.
- Clear directions
- A supportive community
- Join us in the Facebook group “Christian Wives Choosing Hope and Joy in Every Season“
- The 30-day gratitude challenge pdf calendar
This is what God laid on my heart as I answered the original question, “How do you embrace a life of gratitude in marriage?”
I’d love to pray over you as we start the 30 day gratitude challenge. Comment “I’m in” and I’ll lift you up today.
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