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3 Simple Ways Gratitude Will Reclaim Joy in a Christian Marriage

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There was a time when my marriage suffered a major trauma. The relationship I thought we had was over, and I was heartbroken. Any joy in my Christian Marriage was gone. I (Rebekah Hallberg) lived in fear of divorce. In fact, the voices that were the loudest were the ones questioning my faith. There were doubt and fear, but there was no more joy.

As weeks and months passed, I found myself in a pit emotionally. I had to persevere to simply get through the day. But over time, a change began to happen. As my marriage began to heal, I realized I was craving joy. I was looking for some semblance of wholeness after the months of extreme uncertainty. I remembered reading Ann Voskamp’s book, 1,000 Gifts, with the premise being that through gratitude we find joy.

How Can Gratitude Bring Joy in a Christian Marriage?

I’ve learned that to really appreciate the value or fruit of the Spirit, sometimes you have to understand the opposite of it. Because of the extent of our marital issues, I became well-acquainted with fear and doubt, so I knew just how far I was from joy.

I knew that it wouldn’t be an immediate change, but I was longing for something different. How do you will joy in your life when things seem bleak?

You don’t will it, you choose it.

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3 Small Steps to Choose Joy

When you’re in the midst of stress and fear that is turning your life upside down, it can be hard to make a “big” decision. So I knew I would have to take small steps, to make small choices if I wanted to choose joy.

I decided to take these 3 steps each day. These were small choices that I knew I could be consistent in choosing joy.

1. Look out the window and thank the Lord for the day.

Each morning, I paused at the bedroom window before going downstairs to start the day. I took a minute to look outside and start my day by thanking the Lord for a new morning. Over 4 years later, this has become a habit, and it’s one of my favorite parts of the day. The noise of the day hasn’t started, and everything is peaceful.

This time gives me just a few moments to focus my thoughts on the Lord, to review a favorite Bible verse, and to prepare my heart for the day.

By the time I was finished thanking the Lord for the day, my husband was up and we were able to start the day together, with joy.

2. Stop by the back door and thank the Lord for our home and our family.

We’ve lived in this house for over 12 years, and I love where we live. Each day, I made the intentional choice to take time each day to express gratitude for our home and our family, and that God kept us together through all the ups and downs.

Generally, this specific step happens later in the day – over lunchtime, or in the late afternoon. Taking this time gives me an opportunity to pause from the pace of the day, to rest for a moment or two, and to refocus on choosing gratitude.

This choice helped me focus on my family and the home that God graciously provided for us. I took time to pray specifically for each family member, even if just for a moment. Over time, God used the times I spent praying for my husband to fill my heart with joy for my marriage.

3. Choose to replace fear or anxious thoughts with gratitude.

Because of what happened, anxiety and fear were a very real part of my life. When I found myself with thoughts that were rooted in fear or anxiety, I immediately chose to start rattling off a list of things I was thankful for – even if it was just a silent list in my mind.

I also chose to write down some of the things I was thankful for. The reality, when you’re in a tough spot emotionally, is that you can’t necessarily recall good things in a dark moment. Having this list to refer to gave me a good start on choosing gratitude, which led to joy.

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When my thoughts were rooted in anxiety I was stressed and frustrated, and my husband was often the brunt of my feelings. So choosing to replace those thoughts with gratitude put me in a better mood – with joy in my heart. That changed my attitude and made any interaction with my husband much more gentle.

Gratitude Was how I Reclaimed Joy

These are just 3 Simple Ways Gratitude Will Reclaim Joy in a Christian Marriage. Over the years, these have all become a habit, and they continue to positively impact my marriage.

As my marriage continues to heal, I find that focusing on gratitude brings me joy. When my heart is more full of joy than of fear or anxiety, I want to stay connected with my husband.

It’s been a long road for me to Reclaim joy in my Christian Marriage, but by God’s grace, I’ve rediscovered joy through gratitude for all that the Lord has done!


Rebekah is such an amazing example of a godly wife.  I love her blog -Sharing Redemption’s Stories- and her testimony that God can redeem and restore any Marriage!

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Rebekah is Completely dependent on the mercy and grace of Jesus. Married to my best friend; mother to our 3 kids, 1 of whom has special needs; writer; coffee drinker; encourager; friend; fellow traveler on the road Home to Jesus. Connect with her at http://rebekahmhallberg.com/


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Rebekah is Completely dependent on the mercy and grace of Jesus. Married to my best friend; mother to our 3 kids, 1 of whom has special needs; writer; coffee drinker; encourager; friend; fellow traveler on the road Home to Jesus. Connect with her at http://rebekahmhallberg.com/

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