Are you stuck in your faith walk? I’m talking about stale, stone-cold, can’t feel anything or learn anything no matter how hard you listen to the Preacher? Do you feel like there are chains holding you down – keeping you from freedom? Un-forgiveness is at the root of that problem for me every time which is why I created this forgiveness challenge.
Why You Need To Take The Forgiveness Challenge
” Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.” Ephesians 4:23 NASB
This was me for years. Stuck. Hopeless. Discouraged. Not to mention jealous of the believers in my life who “heard God’s voice.” I wanted that but I didn’t understand how to get to that place.
There were hurts no one knew, things I never talked about, things I thought I could push under the rug and close the door on… but somehow the door always swung open at the wrong time.
I honestly didn’t know how to forgive others. Try as I did, forgiveness never went heart deep.
After years of wrestling with God over the need to forgive but the struggle to actually get it right, He led me down a pathway that finally worked. I have learned how to forgive – heart-deep forgiveness that brings healing and hope.
Do you need healing and hope?
The forgiveness challenge is for you!
Bitterness Hurts Your Faith Walk
When we choose to deny forgiveness, bitterness, and resentment grow in our hearts. Even if it’s not an intentional decision, bitterness grows roots when we sweep things under that rug.
I picture bitterness as a weed in my beautiful garden of faith. Gardens take time and patience to make lovely. You plant the seeds, water the seeds, and then wait for them to sprout. At first, many things sprout and you are not sure what are flowers and what are weeks.
Weeds are a natural part of gardening but you have to be patient before pulling or you will uproot the flowers by mistake. After some time you can see what sprouts are the real flowers, but if you wait too long the weeds will have rooted deeply and started to bloom, spreading farther in the garden!
The roots of bitterness are deep and thick and so painful to pull out. When the weed blooms you see resentment, contention, and sin. It’s a funny thing how un-forgiveness takes on a life of its own in our hearts and minds and we can’t see the sin until it is in full bloom.
Forgiveness is key to uprooting that bitterness.
Forgiving Hard Things
There are things that feel impossible to forgive. Maybe like me, you hear forgiveness challenge and laugh.
A 21 day forgiveness challenge will never do enough to help me forgive these hard things.
Even a 30 day forgiveness challenge wouldn’t be enough. The things in my life are too hard to forgive.
I hear you. There really are things that feel too big, too painful, too intimate to imagine forgiving. That was part of my story.
- I couldn’t forgive others for:
- An affair
- and so much more
- I couldn’t forgive God for:
- Allowing abuse
- and so much more
A Pattern of Unforgiveness
The problem with refusing to forgive the big impossible feeling things is that it creates a pattern. As I refused to forgive the big things I found it easier to ignore the smaller, everyday things, as well.
- A slight from a friend at church
- Being passed over for the position at work
- Forgetfulness from my husband.
- Childish disobedience in my children
At the lowest point in my walk with God, when I was desperate to hear from Him, connect with Him, feel Him, and see my faith grow He showed me this truth.
I was living life with hands clenched tightly, controlling everything (badly), and refusing to forgive anything. That left no room in my life for Him to be God, which is why I wasn’t hearing His voice or seeing Him move.
When Forgiveness Feels Impossible
God revealed this area of sin in my life, and I tried really really hard to pray about it more and read about forgiveness more. No matter what I tried I would still be angry about the hurts which showed me I had not forgiven.
After a time, I gave up because forgiveness felt unattainable.
Can you relate?
What kind of hard things have you stopped trying to forgive?
It wasn’t until God showed me that my unforgiveness problem was destroying my marriage that I circled back to this issue. (Read about that in this article: My Top Reasons Not To Give Forgiveness in Marriage)
I remember the day God got it through my thick head that forgiveness was the problem with my faith walk. Let me say it again.
Un-Forgiveness Was The Reason My Faith Walk Was Stuck
I didn’t know how to forgive; I mean to really forgive beyond just saying it out loud. It took so much time figuring out the process and walking through it with Jesus.
Literally – I walked with Him for part of it – praying as I walked circles around my neighborhood.
- Wrestling the hard parts out.
- Arguing through the injustice of letting them off the hook.
- Asking the “why” questions that had me angry with God and so many people.
- Crying until I felt my soul empty of the emotions in it.
- Begging Him to help me forgive forever but then telling Him I knew I never could.
Surely the neighbors think I’m some crazy person. It just felt important to talk the thing out with God. There was some healing in walking with God, but it took more than just prayers to get to the other side and find freedom.
The Forgiveness Challenge Offers Freedom
Do you need freedom today?
Are there hurts you can’t forgive?
- Pain from the past that still burns if it’s brought up.
- People you can’t look at let alone talk to.
- Situations that come up in day-to-day life that immediately take you back to that time and place of wounding.
If this is you, I invite you to take the forgiveness challenge. It’s free. Just sign up in the form below!
Through the challenge, I will share the process God taught me. It will come in an email, one small step for 6 days. Each day you will learn a new tool to begin walking on the pathway to forgiveness for life.
Forgiveness is Life Changing
After I found this path to forgiveness I saw my life change:
- I felt alive again.
- My prayers were being answered.
- Friendships that were toxic before began to change completely.
- My marriage began to be filled with Hope and Joy.
- There was a rich powerful relationship with Jesus – one I had only dreamed of before!
Do you dream of growing in faith and walking in freedom? I invite you to sign up for FREE to take the challenge.
See also these great challenges to help you grow in faith:
- A 30-Day Gratitude Challenge for Marriage
- Words of Affirmation for Him: The Best Gift for My Husband
- 40 Day Fast Guide: Be Still and Know God More