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My Top Reasons Not to Forgive in a Christian Marriage


Bitter.  Resentful.  In denial.  Everything I touched seemed to fall apart – just like me – falling apart.  Nothing was going right in my life – including my marriage.  Christian Marriage… Biblical Marriage… no amount of Perspective shift could change the fact that it was a failing marriage.

We had tried everything to save it, but still nothing went right.  No amount of counseling or reading could close the rift between us.  Can you relate?

No little girl dreams of the day she is thinking about divorce… no one writes fairy-tales like that.  Yet there I stood, outside the preachers office, palms sweating as I thought through how to ask for help.

But God…  God always has a plan – though His timing and way’s are so far different than my own.  What started as a desperate cry for help soon turned to a deep plea for mercy.

God brought us through a series of crazy life events shortly after meeting with the pastor.  He used each event to shine His light on something dark and ugly hidden in my heart.

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Sin.  Choosing to Not Forgive is sin

I always thought of God as a rule maker… then it transitioned to a God who was all love, but then I saw a new aspect of God.

There is a side of God that is all justice and vengeance.  That hurt done to me did not go unnoticed by the God who is called Ancient of Days.

 Romans 12:14-20 14 Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse... 17 Never pay back evil for evil to anyone. Respect what is right in the sight of all men. 18 If possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men. 19 Never take your own revenge, beloved, but leave room for the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,” says the Lord…

Forgiveness is not acceptance it’s just a transfer of debt ownership.

Even with that perspective Shift I held onto 2 Huge Reasons Not to Forgive.

Do you need a helping had along the Pathway to Forgiveness?

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Today’s article is a Guest Post at Lee Felix spot at LikeMindedMusings.  Lee is a Daily redeemed Christ follower, Wife of 19 yrs, Mom to 5 Treasures, an Unexpected Homeschooler and Avoider of Small Talk. She’s a Faith Based Blogger + Lifetime Encourager who writes and creates over at Like Minded Musings. Her passion is to Encourage + Equip Christian Women and Tween Girls to Embrace Imperfect & Radiate Christ!  

Finish reading 2 Foolish Objections to Forgiveness in a Christian Marriage

Have we met – face to face (or Face to Facebook 😉 )?  It was fun to do a Podcast with Lee – talking about Marriage and what started us on this Journey of Online Women’s Ministry.  Check it out below!


Reclaiming Hope and Joy in Your marriage:  You are Not Alone Podcast episode 2


Today’s article is an excerpt from the Marriage Course Finding Hope and Joy in My Marriage.  This self paced course is for Wives Only -teaching us to live in our Marriage from a Biblical Worldview.

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in HIM,


Tiffany Montgomery

Tiffany is a wife and mother who is passionate about Encouraging and Equipping Women through Biblical Discipleship.

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