Love Is Not Jealous, What Does it mean?
We are in the middle of an in-depth word study looking at each of the verbs in 1 Corinthians 13:1-8.
“Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act disrespectfully or unbecomingly; it does not seek it’s own, is not provoked to anger, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness but rejoices with the truth;bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, enduring all things. Love never fails.”
What is the meaning of 1 Corinthians 13? Over the course of this series, we are exploring each verb. We will see who said love is patient and kind. Together we will learn what kind of love is used in 1 Corinthians 13 and explore What does 1st Corinthians Chapter 13 say as it applies to marriage.
This week the verb phrase is, ‘love is not jealous‘.
Love is not Jealous is not easily defined. When looking at the love is not jealous meaning we must examine the verb tense of jealousy which is best explained in two parts.
- Envy -you have what I want.
- Covet -I hate that you have that and wish I had it and you did not.
Competition In Marriage
I am also competitive with him, though I wouldn’t have admitted that until a few years ago.
- I want to be independent.
- Most of my life has been spent to prove my worth apart from “a man”.
Fighting Competition in Marriage
Fighting To Be Sure That Love Is Not jealous
How To Choose To Love My Husband Without Jealousy
Pick one area to admire and appreciate your husband this week instead of competing jealously with him.
- Step back from anger
- at his pointing out a weakness.
- Step into appreciation
- of his keen observation skills (try to do it with a straight face)
- Step into admiration
- of his talent (maybe to park the car straight and all that must mean to him).
- Add a bit of sweet and sassy
- to deflect the fight that is brewing in him.
And Y’all, this conversation (and many others like it) comes up repeatedly – so I get to practice and get better often! I bet you will too.
Community in Marriage
Stay connected to other wives. This is key for living out love in marriage!
Have you joined the private marriage FB group? This is a wonderful community of wives standing together to do marriage God’s way! We’d love to meet you there and work together to be more loving in marriage!
Forgiveness in Marriage
Is God Jealous?
One response to this marriage exercise I have heard is that God is jealous and so it is good for us to have some jealousy in marriage. I want to address this for a moment because there is some confusion about the jealousy of God.
“For the Lord your God is a consuming fire, a jealous God.” Deuteronomy 4:24 NASB
How is God Jealous?
Is Jealousy A Sign of Love?
In the same way God expects faithfulness, it is right to expect faithfulness in marriage. Jealousy in that way is a healthy sign of love. When there is evidence that your spouse is tempted to be unfaithful, jealousy comes out of us. What is critical in that situation is to set firm boundaries and get help early before temptation leads to sin and betrayal.
Remember that love does not dishonor others. Unfaithfulness dishonors others but so does distrust when there is no cause. For some, jealousy is a character issue that doesn’t need provocation. If your spouse has given no reason to believe there is the temptation to unfaithfulness be sure you are taking your jealousy to God.
Are You Fighting To Be Sure Love Is Not Jealous In Marriage?
Fighting to be sure love is not jealous and that there is no unhealthy jealousy in your marriage is a choice as simple as 1-2-3.
- Play and affirm.
- When competition comes up try to enjoy it with a playful spirit and find ways to affirm your spouse rather than giving in to the jealousy.
- Stay connected to other wives.
- Have you joined the private marriage FB group? This is a wonderful community of wives standing together to do marriage God’s way! We’d love to meet you there and work together to be more loving in marriage!
- Forgive easily.
- Letting go of offenses when they occur goes a long way in keeping a healthy marriage.
As you work through this study I’d love to hear from you and pray over you. Be sure to drop a comment below to connect.
Do You Need To Go Deeper?
This is part of the 9-week Marriage Bible Study –Finding Hope & Joy in Marriage. Through this course, we will explore the 9 Biblical foundations of having a successful marriage God’s way.
This class will include:
- 10 video lessons
- You can watch live or when you have time
- 9 weeks of personal study
- 5 days each week that should take 10-15 minutes
- A private Facebook Group to discuss the homework and talk through the weekly challenges
- 45 Days of Prayer prompts
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