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Trust in the Lord to Fix my Marriage

Trust in the Lord with all your heart
And do not lean on your own understanding.
In all your ways acknowledge Him,
And He will make your paths straight “ (Prov 3:5-6 NASB).

Trust In The Lord To Fix My Marriage. Christian Marriage Advice, Biblical Wifehood Resources

Do you ever struggle with a need to control your life?

That is where I found myself several years ago.  Stressed to the max, marriage falling apart, clinging with white knuckled fists to anything I thought I could control.

I was miserable trying to control my life.  It’s funny how God shows you things as you look back (well after the hard work of surrendering a thing to HIM).

I find Proverbs 3:5-6 to be an amazing promise wrapping up an aggravating condition.  Scripture is funny that way.  God’s word is filled with promises.  But the path to attaining those promises looks like foolishness from my worldly trained eyes.

As I prayed over my failing marriage, God was very up front with me.

To save my marriage, I had to trust HIM with all my heart.  That meant I could not trust myself with even a portion of my heart.

He laid out -in no uncertain terms- that if I wanted this marriage to work I had to let go of my understanding and lean on His.  That is so challenging.

Part of that involved forgiving my husband for the wrong he had done me… That was hard.  I’d love to share the Pathway I learned to Forgiveness in this Free E-book!

God often asks things of me that make no sense. 

They are outside of my skills or comfort zone.  To Trust Him seems to go against the things I have tried or seen done by those around me.

Isaiah 55: 8-9 Trust God even though His ways are higher than mine

But God’s ways are always best.  His ways are always right.  I have seen time and time again how doing things God’s way works.

Trying to hold tight to my way in my understanding only leads to a bigger mess.  I have seen God be faithful in my life.

Have you put your trust in Him?

God has shown up in ways that I could never put into words.  He has met needs in miraculous ways.  God has sent encouragement in my moments of utter despair.  He has worked change in those in my life I never believed could change.  God has changed me… when I assumed I was damaged goods not good for anything worthwhile.

God Has been Faithful in my Life – I can Trust Him


I know I should do whatever He asks –even if I don’t completely understand.  Even when it goes against what the world around me deems the “normal path”.

I have had to learn to acknowledge Him in all my ways. 

Some days that is easy, because I could have never done what has been done in my life.  It is obvious to anyone who knows me- God changed this life!

Other times, I have to remember my past to keep giving glory to God.  It is challenging, but my heart’s desire is that God be glorified through this life He has changed.

Then comes this amazing promise.  “He will make your path straight”, or He will direct your path.  God will show me –step by step- what I need to do and how I am to live.

It can be grueling because often He only shows me one little step at a time.  I have no earthly idea where we are headed…  But God is faithful and I am trusting Him as we walk this path together.  As I have trusted Him, He has led us financially, He has given me a purpose in life, He has given me Hope.  Truly, I can say He has directed my path.  Even when the path ahead was not “straight”, it was twisted and uphill and challenging, He directed me and we walked the path so that it seemed smooth – and filled with Peace

Isaiah 26_3 Peace comes when we Trust the Lord

God has been radically changing my marriage

If He had not stepped in to change things I would be divorced now (a second time).  I can Trust Him!

I had not become a disciple of His about marriage.  He showed me I was living on autopilot (in my marriage) I was acting the way the world acts.  He forced me into the Word to see what advice He would give a wife who wants to thrive in her marriage.  I was amazed at how much of my “Wifehood” I was not doing God’s way.

I’d like to begin sharing bits of what I have learned -as I know it can change so many lives.

  • It began with this verse and a lot of prayer and Trust.
  • I had to open my hands and let go of control in my wifehood to God.  Now I am striving to live with open hands.



Let’s begin with challenge:  Search your heart. 

Are you willing to let go of any thinking and acting that the Bible speaks against.  Be willing to embrace God’s way- no matter how hard it seems.

If you haven’t experienced it, I know you will learn that God’s way is always worth it.  It has certainly changed my life.

Let’s learn what Biblical Wifehood looks like.

in HIM,

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Tiffany Montgomery

Tiffany of Hope Joy in Christ inspires Christian Women to grow in faith, live out Biblical Marriage Principles and raise Godly Children.  Join the Wives Only Facebook Group here or keep up with her through Pinterest.

6 thoughts to “Trust in the Lord to Fix my Marriage”

  1. Love this Tiffany ! Such a great reminder of His faithfulness on the other side of the struggle for us to let go.

    And Amen to this !

    “He laid out in no uncertain terms that if I wanted this marriage to work I had to let go of my understanding and lean on His. That is so challenging. God often asks things of me that make no sense. They are outside of my skills or comfort zone. They seem to go against the things I have tried or seen done by those around me.”

    Thanks for sharing 😉

    1. Love that! Trusting Him… even when we don’t understand… knowing that He sees farther and knows better. He will direct our path. Thanks for commenting!!!!

  2. I am also learning to be a more biblical wife! God revealed to me a few weeks ago that my prayers for my husband had been solely based on changing him into what I want him to be. I had also prayed for me to change, but rarely, if ever did I truly pray for his salvation. I am learning to pray for him to be the man God wants him to be. Can’t wait to see what God has in store for him and our marriage!

    1. That’s wonderful Kim. I’m praying for great things in your sweet family!

  3. Isn’t it interesting that as Christians, we still place such an emphasis on “feelings”? The Bible verse says we are to walk by FAITH, not by feelings, not by sight. As an example, “I’m not going to be submissive, be ‘subject to’, adapt myself, to anyone. Especially my spouse!” But that’s not the attitude for a successful marriage that God wants us to display. Ephesians 6:24 reads “As the church is subject to Christ, so let wives also be subject in everything…”
    When we put SELF on the SHELF and get out of our own way, it’s amazing how God’s instructions in His Word come into play.

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