Surrender Is Hard [My Priorities[

#1 Lie We Believe About Surrender [My Priorities]

Can I tell you a secret?  I easily get my priorities mixed up.  I wrestle with God over who is Lord of my life.  I do not always want to surrender to His will His way so I say “Surrender is hard”.  Is it really hard or is that a lie from the enemy?
 I don’t really like to face the truth about myself Y’all… but when I come face to face with it I can’t deny it:  

I am a selfish control freak.  

Most days I have a hard time surrendering control of my life to anyone – even God.  
The thing is I think I have surrendered my life to Him.  
I think I am in a good place.  
I think there’s no hidden sin.  
Then God  reveals another area I am holding onto (white knuckled) declaring I am in control.
It’s funny how hard it is to give up control of my life to an unseen God…  

I remind myself:

“He is all knowing -trust Him”
“He has proved faithful  – trust Him”.  
2 Samuel 22:2-3 The Lord is my rock and fortress and my deliverer; The God of my strength, in whom will I trust;
And still here I stand – holding tight to my way – terrified to let go of it and trust Him.
There are a lot of excuses and rationalizations for holding these area’s back from God’s control but in the end it boils down to 1 fact.

I am wrong.

God has been teaching me to line up my priorities with His Word.  
I have to begin with truth: I have to lay myself honestly at His feet and admit I don’t actually want to do it His way.
My heart wrenching prayer at the beginning of every single “control” struggle with God is this:

“Help me want to want what You want in my life.”

Pslam 37:4 Delight yourself in the Lord; and He will give you the desires of your heart.

And He does

One of many things I love about God is that He meets us where we are and moves us along the path He has set for us.  God is so faithful!

The enemy lies y’all!

Surrender is not hard.  I believe it is the #1 lie we believe.

The decision to surrender is hard.  Surrender itself is easy.

We just have to get past the lies.  Do you hear them like I do?

The Lie: Loving God with my whole life is hard.  

The truth is I love myself and tend to work toward my own plans.  They are often good plans, but if they are not God’s plans, they are wrong. Sometimes I find they are based in envy (Read more about Holy Envy here).  
But God is faithful to gently remind me and show me when I have gotten off course.  That gives me a chance to surrender to Him anew.

The Lie: Loving my husband is hard!  

This one feels true at it’s core.  It shouldn’t be, but it is at times… and for the same reason it is hard to love God.  
Because I love myself, I am prone to selfishness.  
I get so wrapped up wishing B would love me better that I forget I should be loving him.  This links to a great printable list to help me remember!
I am also working through a Series each Monday to remind myself how to do this batter.  Check it out #MarriageMonday
The truth is My husband needs my love and I do love him.  

Simple right?!?!?!

The truth is I forget he needs my appreciation and admiration.  He needs me to show respect and honor.  My husband needs me to accept him for who he is in this moment. He needs me to want him 😉 These principles are actually in the Bible.  I am to be this kind of wife – if I am living out Biblical Wifehood.
The truth is that many days I don’t want to surrender.  It is work.  I rationalize my bad attitude, my unkind reactions, my… sin.

Truth: Surrender is not hard  

You may be asking… But how do I surrender my life to God?  

It starts with an attitude shift that says:

  • I will do life God’s way because He said so
  • Even when I don’t feel like it, I will live life God’s way
  • When I don’t understand, I will keep doing life God’s way
That is a life of surrender.  That is a life of discipleship.  It’s not a perfect life, it is a life in the process.  I think that’s what we can strive for… living in the process with Jesus.
Matthew 11:28-30 Come to me all you are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest.  Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.  For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.
Aren’t you thankful for His mercy and grace?
My Priorities are laid out-  Love:  
my husband
our kids
Serve others… nope, God is showing me the need to love myself
Loving myself is harder than everything else He’s been showing me.  Can’t wait to share it with you!  You won’t want to miss it.
in HIM,
Sharing is Caring!

Tiffany Montgomery

Tiffany of Hope Joy in Christ inspires Christian Women to grow in faith, live out Biblical Marriage Principles and raise Godly Children.  Join the Wives Only Facebook Group here or keep up with her through Pinterest.

6 thoughts to “#1 Lie We Believe About Surrender [My Priorities]”

    1. Thanks April! I’m one of those millennials that get bored easily… so I am trying to learn how to add lots of design elliments to keep my attention and any other millennials who visit my site! So glad you enjoyed the post! Ttyl

  1. Thanks for sharing this post Tiffany. I like it when you said, surrendering to God should be an attitude shift, even when we don’t understand or feel like it, but because He said so. May God help us all to be fully surrendered.

    1. That’s it Richard. Fully surrendered… daily surrendered most of the time. Thanks for the comment!

  2. After 50+ years of marriage, I’ve learned one of the hardest things a wife has to do is be totally honest with her husband. Too often we are afraid of rocking the boat and hold back our true feelings and thoughts. Sharing is not arguing, it’s just sharing. We may be totally different in our opinions over something but we have to realize our husbands can’t make good decisions without our input. We may not like the decision, but that’s okay. God just asks to be honest with one another. Don’t pout when it doesn’t go your way. Be thankful that you did what God has asked you to do.

    1. WOW! 50+ years is amazing Nana! Love that. Yes, being honest is so important… but I have found that every honest thought I have is not necessary or Kind. Sounds like you’ve figured that part out. I am still learning this thing. I love learning from those further along the journey! I often hurt my husband by telling him what I think he should do rather than letting him learn from mistakes. I’d love to hear some of your story – how on earth did you make it 50+ Years? That is my dream. Would you shoot me an email with that if you have time?

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