Are there parts of the Bible you read and think, ‘that sounds nice but how do you live that way for real?’ 1 Corinthians 13 is one of those passages for me. Love is patient, God says but how do you show patience in marriage when marriage is hard?Love is important and patience is part of that so patience in marriage is important. Click To Tweet
Why Patience in Marriage is Important
Family is the hardest place to live out the principles of 1 Corinthians 13 that says, ‘love is patient’. Right Ladies? It is hard to be patient with the chaos and busyness of daily life. This kind of love is just so… every day! AHHH It is hard right?!?!?!
Honestly, I am so encouraged that there is an entire chapter dedicated to love in the Bible. It reassures me that I am not crazy to need love!
It also helps me feel better about how hard it is to love well. I mean, way back in the first churches people struggled to show patience in marriage the same way I struggle! Whew, hat makes me feel better. How about you?
Love is important and patience is part of that so patience in marriage is important.
What Does The Bible Say About Patience in Marriage?
Yes, love is an action – not a feeling!
Who Said Love is Patient and Kind?
For our study, we are looking at 1 Corinthians 13:4-8
“Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act disrespectfully or unbecomingly; it does not seek it’s own, is not provoked to anger, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness but rejoices with the truth;bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, enduring all things. Love never fails.”
What is the meaning of 1 Corinthians 13? Over the course of this series, we will explore each verb. We will see who said love is patient and kind. Together we will learn what kind of love is used in 1 Corinthians 13 and explore the main idea of 1 Corinthians 13 as it applies to Marriage.
First, we will look at patience in marriage.
Love is Patient
How Can I Have Patience With My Husband?
Especially when he does things that cause me hardship. That is the hazard of living in each other’s personal space! We hurt those we are closes to the most.
Showing patience to my husband can look like finding ways to encourage him instead of criticizing him for his flaws.
How Do I Stay Calm In My Marriage?
Showing patience in marriage, patience with love to my husband requires a shift.
We must shift from a critical reaction to a patient response. These are my two tricks to practice patience in marriage.
How To Practice Patience In Marriage
While I was learning how to practice patience in marriage God showed me that respect in marriage is tied in and I really didn’t understand that well either. Since then here are some links to help you learn what I’ve learned.
- Are You Afraid of Respect in a Christian Marriage?
- 3 Powerful Reasons to Fix a Lack of Respect in Marriage
- How to Listen Better: Respect in Marriage
To show respect is to show patience with love when the other person understands love and respect differently. If only men and women saw this issue from the same perspective…
From looking over the many Bible verses about patience I see two clear patterns.
Pray Before You Speak To Practice Patience
Losing patience in a relationship is normal. It’s normal to react but if we make a choice to be patient in marriage we can change the norm. Prayer is the first step in changing any negative patterns in our lives.
Learning to pray before I speak has changed my marriage!
Learn to pray. Make a commitment to become a prayer warrior wife and see patience become a natural part of your character.
Grace Changes The Atmosphere in Marriage
If you spend time studying marriage in the bible you see a theme of grace running through. Just take a moment and Google:
- Bible verses for married couples
- Bible verses about perseverance in marriage
- patience in love Bible verse
You’ll see it over and over again. Grace. God gives us grace and then through the Holy Spirit living within us gives us the strength to show grace to others – including our spouse!
A perspective shift is critical.
My husband is human and prone to mistakes, just like me; I need to forgive him when he messes up in the same way God forgives me when I mess up.
Is Forgiveness an area you are struggling with? I’d love to share the pathway I found to truly forgive the pain, abuse, and betrayal that stole so many years of my life.
I was stuck, unwilling to forgive. I had to learn to release people, so I could walk in freedom!
Forgiveness enabled me to live out love is patient. Forgiveness helped me learn how to be patient with God and show patience in my marriage where I never could before.
Will You Show Patience in Marriage?
Showing patience in marriage will begin to change the atmosphere in your home for the better. How do you learn to show patience with love toward your spouse?
How is your prayer life?
Are you praying for your husband’s struggles? Or are your prayers mostly frustration over his mistakes?
Are you looking at your husband the way God does?
Seeing his flaws through a lens of love and compassion will change everything.
How do you start to show patience in your marriage?
Pick a specific thing that has happened in the past week that you could apply Patience to and try again.
A Prayer For Patience in Marriage
Precious Holy Spirit,
You tell us that love is patient, but patience is hard to show when life is hard. Between the normal stresses of life and the added uncertainty of the crisis this year, we need YOU to bring us YOUR peace that will help each of us better be patient.
Patience in marriage is even harder. To be patient with people outside our home often feels easier because we can fake anything for 5 minutes… but the kind of love that shows patience regularly has to be committed to not lose heart while enduring misfortunes and bearing offenses and injuries of others. We need you to give us the strength and power to do this better, Holy Spirit.
We will give YOU the glory for this,
Do You Need To Go Deeper?
This is part of the 9-week Marriage Bible Study –Finding Hope & Joy in Marriage. Through this course, we will explore the 9 Biblical foundations of having a successful marriage in God’s way.
This class will include:
- 10 video lessons
- You can watch live or when you have time
- 9 weeks of personal study
- 5 days each week that should take 10-15 minutes
- A private Facebook Group to discuss the homework and talk through the weekly challenges
- 45 Days of Prayer prompts
If you liked this post, check out these:
- 14 Characteristics of a Godly Wife That Will Save Your Marriage
- How to Fast and Pray In A Way that Pleases God
- 7 Steps to Thrive Through Forgiveness in Marriage