2 Simple Tricks to Live out Love Is Patient (#ChristianMarriage #BblicalWifehood #MarriageMonday #1Corinthians13)

2 Simple Tricks to Live out Love Is Patient

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Do you ever read the Bible and think ‘that sounds nice but um no, I can’t do that’?  This “Love is Patient ” is one of those verses for me.

As a wife and mom I can say – with confidence – that family is the hardest place to live out Love is Patient.  Right Ladies?  It is hard to be patient with them.  This kind of love is just so… every day!  AHHH  It is hard right?!?!?!

Honestly, I am so encouraged that there is an entire chapter dedicated to love in the Bible.  It reassures me that I am not crazy to need and crave love!  It also helps me feel better about how hard it is to love well.  I mean, way back in the first churches people struggled the same way I struggle!  Whoooo  that makes me feel better 😉

Can I be honest with you?  I’ve been in church my whole life.  Some chapters in the bible feel boring at first glance.  Do you ever feel that way? 
As I began to study 1 Corinthians 13:1-8 I was ready to skim it –bored- and move on to more relevant, practical passages. I was not expecting God to blow me away with powerful tools.
Mind blown.  I just didn’t know!  Love – as the early believers would have understood it – was not some flighty emotion.

Love is an Action – Not a Feeling!

Love is a Verb 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

Over the next… however many #MarriageMonday s I am going to unpack the original meaning of each Action word in 1 Corinthians 13.  I will give some practical examples of how I have used these verbs to show love to my husband… even when he has been unloving toward me.
And first out of the bag is…

Love is Patient

Patient in this passage means -Love does not lose heart while:
enduring misfortunes
bearing offenses and injuries of others
I don’t know about you, but I can be quick to lose my patience with people around me.
Especially when things are hard.
I am even quicker to lose heart with my husband and criticize his mistakes and faults.
  • Especially when he does things that cause me hardship.
    • That is the hazard of living in each others personal space!
Truthfully, I have a mouth ready to rip him apart and put him in his place.
  • I tend to always point out his faults.
    • Showing patience to my husband means I have to find ways to encourage him instead.

How can we shift from a critical reaction to a Patient loving response?

  1. I have learned to pray a lot before I speak. 
  2. A perspective shift is critical.
    • My husband is human and prone to mistakes, just like me; I need to forgive him when he messes up.

Is Forgiveness an area you are struggling? I’d love to share the Pathway I found to truly forgive the Pain, Abuse and Betrayal that stole so many years of my life.  I was stuck, unwilling to forgive.  I had to learn to release people, so I could walk in freedom!

I will end each word study with a challenge to help us apply what we just learned:

  1. How is your prayer life?
    • Are you praying for your husbands struggles?  Or are your prayers mostly frustration over his mistakes?
  2. Are you looking at your husband the way God does?
    • Seeing His flaws through a lens of love and compassion?
  3. Pick a specific thing that has happened in the past week that you could apply Patience to and try again.
Need some encouragement? Comment the areas you are going to pick and know that I will be praying for you throughout this series!
Prayer is our weapon against an enemy who actively seeks to destroy our marriages.   Lets fight back together!
in Him,

Tiffany Montgomery

Tiffany of Hope Joy in Christ inspires Christian Women to grow in faith, live out Biblical Marriage Principles and raise Godly Children.  Join the Wives Only Facebook Group here or keep up with her through Pinterest.

10 thoughts to “2 Simple Tricks to Live out Love Is Patient”

    1. Hi B. So glad the post encouraged you. Patience is a practiced thing. I would suggest you pick something that happened in this past week… some situation where you lost your cool and work through a way to do it better next time. I don’t know about you, but it seems like the same situations repeat! So chances are you’ll get another chance to try out that patience!

  1. Hiya, I am really glad I have found this info. Nowadays bloggers publish just about gossips and net and this is actually annoying. A good blog with interesting content, that is what I need. Thanks for keeping this web site, I’ll be visiting it. Do you do newsletters? Can not find it.

  2. Very Informative article, I especially enjoyed the part of Praying for our partner when we are angry and quick to Lash Out. I can use this tool with others as well.

  3. Hello. Yes I need encouragement, aadvice, I’m really not sure which… I just married this past summer, while my husband is in jail. He was raised christian, I wasn’t so much. I have been saved & baptized. My husband upsets me, he tells me I’m not a good christian wife.. I’m not sure what that is.. How do I figure out what I’m doing wrong if I have no clue why or what I’m doing wrong. Its really hard cuz he’s in jail, so he’s not here to guide me, I am trying to figure all this out.. I would love input & any & all suggestions.. Please?! Thank You! IDK how I stumbled across your post but I’m going to follow along if that’s ok?! Thank You! Bless You!

    1. I’m so glad you found the site Tiffiney! That is a hard situation. A good Christian Wife – in my opinion is one who wants to know what the Bible says about being a godly woman – then allows God to transform her from the inside out into that woman. Truly I don’t know that many of us are “Good Christian” anything’s. The bible says none of us are good, we all fall short. Paul even rambles on about not doing the good he knows he should do but continuing to do the mess he knows better than doing (Tiffany paraphrase of Romans 7:15-20) But I imagine being in a dark place – like he physically is- is very hard on him. Having said all that… I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that I was the worst wife there was in the beginning. I married Bud when he was lost – knowing that was a bad idea as I was saved. I acted just as bad as him and when I went back to Church he felt like there had been a bait and switch… just sayin’ it didn’t start well. The thing that truly changed me was Forgiveness and Prayer. I share part of that story here. And community is super helpful. If you are on FB I have a group for wives only – that might add some support to your weary soul. I will be praying for you in this journey!

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