If there is one trait I hate in my husband it is his ability to see through me. Hubby always knows when my thoughts and my words do not line up. Don’t be fooled by this Jesus Girl smile – some of my thoughts are evil! I know what I should say – what people expect me to say – but my heart is not always there (especially in my Marriage). Can you relate?
We are studying 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 and finding ways to apply it to our Christian Marriage so we can be Wives living out a Biblical Worldview.
“Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act disrespectfully or unbecomingly; it does not seek it’s own, is not provoked to anger, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness but rejoices with the truth;bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, enduring all things. Love never fails.”
To understand Love Thinks No Evil we have to pair it with last weeks phrase:
Love is not Easily Provoked when Love Thinks No Evil
The original text says Love “does not take into account a wrong suffered”. Um, I wish I had that superpower!
I learned this Chapter in the King James which said: Love Thinks No Evil
Or Love does not think the other person had bad motivations behind their behavior.
In the Positive: Love Assume good intentions. Love gives others the benefit of the doubt in other words.
This has to do with our thoughts.
My thoughts not always godly about my Hubby.
I can justify my bad thoughts about hubby. He has a track record and I don’t want to be hurt again. Can you relate?
But remember we are striving to live as Wives with a Biblical Worldview in our Christian Marriage. So we need to check this area against scripture.
Philippians 4:8 really fits this text. Specifically the bit about Lovely Thoughts (click the words to go deeper)
“Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things” (Philippians 4:8 NASB).
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I was guilty of thinking Hubby’s actions were Always motivated by selfishness.
- He was always wrong in my mind.
- I had tallied and kept a record of all the wrong he had done
- That book was so full I could never see past it
- It tainted everything I saw in him.
To begin showing love to him I needed to forgive him and let go of the hurt I had been banking for a later fight… Am I the only one who does that?
I had to determine in my heart to be vulnerable with him. That means not allowing my hurt over the wrongs he had done to keep me closed off from him.
Love Thinks No Evil in a Christian Marraige
- Reality Check
- Do you hold onto Hubby’s past wrongs or do you forgive quickly?
- Do you give your husband the benefit of the doubt or do you assume he has ulterior motives?
- Thought check
- What was the last thing that made you angry at hubby?
- Write it down.
- Be Honest
- Was it big or was it small (like the straw that broke the camels back)?
- What other hurts came to mind when this small hurt happened? Write them down.
- Identify the Root
- It is easy to think evil and be easily provoked to anger when we are holding onto past anger.
- Is there Bitterness and resentment from the offense, injury or wound.
- They create a launching pad for evil thoughts and fault tracking in our Marriages.
- Forgiveness is Key
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