This is Week 10 in our Marriage Monday Series! We are walking through 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 and finding ways to apply it to our Wifehood. Today we will see what it looks like when “Love Thinks No Evil “.
We have really covered a lot of ground so far. We’ve talked about Patience in Marriage, Kindness in Marriage, Jealousy in Marriage, Bragging in Marriage, Arrogance in Marriage, Disrespect or Acting unbecoming in Marriage, Selfishness in Marriage and Anger in Marriage.
Last week and this week really go hand in hand.
Love is not Easily Provoked when Love Thinks No Evil
The text says Love “does not take into account a wrong suffered”. Raise your hand if you have suffered wrong in your marriage?
I love that the text shows point blank that people hurt people. Being in a Christian Marriage does not mean we will not get hurt.
This passage is one I learned in the good old KJV which said:
Love Thinks No Evil
It carries with it an idea that love does not always think the other had bad motivations behind their behavior.
- A friend of ours says “assume good intentions”.
- Love gives others the benefit of the doubt in other words.
This has to do with our thoughts.
My thought life is often wrong about my Hubby.
But remember we are striving for Biblical Wifehood and Biblical Marriage. So we need to check this area against scripture.
Recently I walked through Philippians 4:8 (word by word) with you and how to apply it to our thoughts to have Peace of Mind. That really fits this text. Specifically the bit about Lovely Thoughts (click the words to check out those articles)
Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things” (Philippians 4:8 NASB).
What season of Marriage Are you in?
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I was guilty of thinking Hubby’s actions were ALWAYS motivated by selfishness.
He was always wrong in my mind.
I had tallied and kept a record of all the wrong he had done and that book was so full that I could never see past it.
It tainted everything I saw in him.
To begin showing love to him I needed to forgive him and let go of the hurt I had been banking for a later fight… Am I the only one who does that?
I had to determine in my heart to be vulnerable with him. That means not allowing my hurt over the wrongs he had done to keep me closed off from him.
Marriage Challenge: Thinks No Evil
Do you hold onto Hubby’s past wrongs or do you forgive quickly?
Do you give your husband the benefit of the doubt or do you assume he has ulterior motives?
Let’s do a Thought check today.
What was the last thing that made you angry at hubby?
Was it really that bad or was it small… like the straw that broke the camels back?
What other hurts came to mind when this small hurt happened?
It is easy to think evil and be easily provoked to anger when we are holding onto past anger. Bitterness and resentment from the offense, injury or wound set in quickly. They create a launching pad for evil thoughts and fault tracking in our Marriages.
Forgiveness is Key. It really changed my life. I’d love to share that story with you.