I am quick to say whatever is on my mind –or at least write it and post. That verse about Speak the Truth (in love) – really sounds like a way to get Peace of Mind. Can you relate? It feels good to get that thing off my chest but does it ever leads to the peace I am seeking? And – if I’m honest – that thought I spoke (or wrote)… was not said or thought with honor… does that really matter?
Peace of Mind Series Philippians 4:8
In Philippians 4:9 Paul tells us that the way we think is key to finding Peace of Mind. So we did a word study of :8 for a deeper understanding of how to think (Click through the words to go back).
“Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things” (Philippians 4:8 NASB).
Honor is a lost art in our culture. In this study, I had to dig deep to really understand what it meant.
The Greek word sem-no’s means to be venerated for character, honourable.
Hmmm… did that really clarify anything? Let’s ask some questions about our thoughts to clarify.
- Is this thought of the highest possible opinion of the person or situation?
- Is this thought Worthy of respect?
3 Ways to think with Honor
Now that we understand what it means to think with honor, how do we actually do it? There are 3 Ways that have helped me switch my thinking – and I would say they are daring!
- Remind yourself that they are not the sum of their mistakes.
- Just like I don’t want to be thought of by my mistakes (like the woman who always shrinks the socks… smh at my lack of domestic skills). Matthew 7:12
- Try to think of their strengths rather than dwelling on their failures
- Remembering that we all fall sometimes. Romans 3:23
- Think of the ways that person has grown
- It reminds me that God is able to grow and mature them -without the “help” of my mouth (Ephesians 4:29).
Does this work when times are Really Bad?
Let’s be honest, it can be challenging to think of others in honor when the hurt is Really Bad.
- When the offending party is blinded by their own pain and lashes out regularly
- Maybe they are immature, toxic, slow to grow or caught in addictions.
- They tend to be the people who keep hurting me -over and over again with the same crazy behavior.
The process of Forgiveness is key here
Y’all, forgiving them does not always mean reconciliation, but it does create freedom for me to think of them in honor.
I am not suggesting you be naive to the faults that cause you harm.
- You need to be safe.
- if you are in a dangerous situation – remove yourself. Forgiveness doesn’t mean staying in harm’s way.
Forgiveness is about your freedom and peace of mind, not theirs!
I talk a lot about Forgiveness because it is the Key to my freedom and victory in life. I’d love to share my story with you in this Free E Challenge “A Pathway to Forgiveness”
Thinking of your offender in honor means taking the high road and letting God have your back.
And Y’all, God has our back… especially if we have forgiven and are striving to think of them in honor -according to His will!!!!! Psalm 46:1-2
You can Trust God to teach them and choose to think highly of them and pray for them anyway. Luke 6:27-28
This is a slow methodical process, but peace will come as we learn how to take those dishonoring, disrespectful thoughts captive and replace them with the verses above.