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Love Is Not Easily Provoked in a Christian Marriage

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There was a day Hubby came home (earlier than I expected) easily provoked and in a foul mood -angry about something at work.

My day had been filled with whining and screaming and more messes than I can count.

Something irritated Hubby about the condition of the living room (probably the disaster of crushed cheerio’s that magically appear most days) and he picks a fight with me about it.

I could quickly see that he was right – this time – and I was going to lose this fight.  But I had lost one too many fights this particular day and I needed to “win” something.  I switched gears mid argument, bringing up something he had done in the past that was far worse.

That one phrase caught him off guard and I scored a shallow victory in that moment…

You see, I know exactly what will upset my husband and how to push his buttons to win an argument.  Can you relate?

Today we will see that Love does not provoke him to anger to win…

we both lose that way even if I “win” that argument.

Pst  we are in a series on  1 Corinthians 13:4-8: so far we’ve seen PatienceKindnessJealousy, Bragging, Arrogance, Disrespect or Acting unbecoming in Marriage, Selfishness in Marriage, Anger in Marriage, Evil Thoughts in Marriage, Rejoicing In Marriage and Bearing All Things, Believing All Things, Hoping All things and Enduring All things in a Biblical Marriage.   



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What does it mean that Love is not Easily Provoked

1. Love does not make the other angry without a reason and 2. Love gives up that anger to for reconciliation.

#1 sounds like clean fighting to me…

Do you fight clean or are you like me and love to win the battle even if it means you lose the war?   

That is one side of this word Provoked, let’s examine it’s flip side.

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#2 Love gives up Anger to for Reconciliation

Have you been hurt in your Christian Marriage?  I have.  There came a time I had to assess the hurt.

Was it a small injury, a deep wound or just an offence? 

I don’t know about you, but I can be easily offended by his:

  • Thoughtlessness
  • Unintentional comments
  • Self-centeredness

Probably the same way he is offended by all that in me.

It’s so important to not be easily offended.  I have to remind myself to accept that others fail… just like I do – and need grace.

Proverbs 24 16 Love is not provoked . Accept and Forgive because we all fall sometimes

Loving my husband means I choose to forgive  

When I forgive him I choose to give up my anger (get over my hurt feelings) so we can be reconciled.  Letting go of that anger helps me not be so easily provoked the next time he messes up 😉

Can I be real with you here?  I had a real hard time with this bit.  I would love to share my story of Forgiveness with you in this Free Challenge?

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I was injured by my husband.

  • There have been times in our past where he has used words to hurt me. 
  • Times where his ego clashed with my pride and he won. 
  • There have been times where he has reacted badly and hurt my feelings.

Those things are normal when you spend as much time together as we do in our biblical Marriage!

My Husband wounded me deeply

I hope you get a chance to read through my testimony in the E-book about forgiving.  There have been several circumstances where Hubby has deeply wounded me.

  • Calculated decisions on his part that forever changed our lives.

I was sure our Marriage would fall apart…  But God intervened and changed everything.  Today I can honestly say I have forgiven him and we know Hope and Joy in our marriage.

It is possible.  Do you believe that?

You can always reach out to me if you need an ear to talk to or someone to pray with you through a difficult season in your Christian Marriage.


Marriage Challenge: Assess the hurt

Spend some time praying over the hurt you feel.

Ask God to show you if it is a result of:

  1. Being too easily offended
  2. A small hurt done to you
  3. A deep injury in your Marriage

Write it out.  Begin praying over it.  Ask God to show you how to give up your anger and forgive.

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Tiffany Montgomery

Tiffany is a wife and mother who is passionate about Encouraging and Equipping Women through Biblical Discipleship.

6 thoughts to “Love Is Not Easily Provoked in a Christian Marriage”

  1. Great lessons Tiffany. These reminders are appropriate in any relationship as well. Our marriages is most important, but applying these tips works for all adult situations. Thanks for your wise study!

    1. So true April! The passage was not written for marriage, but for all relationships. We would be wise to apply it all aroung!

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