What advice do you give to wives when marriage is hard? Is it a hard season or are you in a troubled marriage? If you are just in a hard season, take a deep breath, give it to God and wait because seasons change. If however, you are in a troubled marriage you need to hold onto God tightly and begin to fight the real enemy of your marriage. Today I will share How to create prayers for marriages in trouble. This is a War Room Prayer Strategy!
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How to Create Prayers for Marriages in Trouble: War Room Prayer Strategy
It may be true that your marriage is in trouble but it is also true that your powerful God is bigger than your problems, never leaves you, and is on your side. Find hope in those truths and begin to learn how to create prayers for marriages in trouble to use as part of your War Room prayer strategy.
What is a troubled marriage?
What is a troubled marriage? A troubled marriage is one where one spouse or both actively engage in destructive habitual patterns of sin.
There is no private or secret sin when you are married. Everything you do affects your spouse and vise versa. Sin creates trouble in your heart which creates the environment for a troubled marriage over time if left unchecked.
So when I counsel wives in a troubled marriage I advise them to make a list of the sin and their husbands’ sin and begin making a battle plan to pray over those things.
Take those Bible Verses for a troubled marriage (Click here for more) into your war room and do battle with the real enemy of your godly marriage.
How do I pray for my marriage?
I have never had a Proverbs 31 Marriage or been a Proverbs 31 Wife but I am a praying wife. Prayer is always the first line of defense in a troubled marriage.
How do I pray over my marriage?
Find Bible Verses specific to your situation. Once you begin searching you will be surprised to see the sheer volume of Bible verses for a marriage in trouble.
When creating a war room prayer strategy I begin with my own sin, then my husband’s sin. Praying over the sin in my own life helps keep my heart humble.
To start out we have to get real and real personal. Get a notebook and a pen… I’ll wait while you prepare to create prayers for marriages in trouble.
How do you pray like the War Room?
We all want a powerful and effective prayer life but that seems to be a lost art. I am so thankful for movies like The War Room that bring awareness to the need for prayer – the need for strategic prayer, spiritual warfare!
So how do you pray like the War Room?
It’s not hard. You need a prayer place, you need time, and you need a prayer plan.Your powerful God is bigger than your problems, never leaves you and is on your side. Find hope in those truths and begin to learn how to create prayers for marriages in trouble to use as part of your War Room prayer strategy. Click To Tweet
My Prayer Closet
My prayer closet is not actually a closet, it’s the corner of my living room, however, location really isn’t that important. I sit on the couch which has a stool beside it where I keep my prayer journal, bible, and colorful pens. In other words, the perfect prayer closet for you will be convenient and comfortable.
My prayer journal isn’t a fancy war room prayer journal like you can find on amazon. It’s just a notebook I filled with prayer requests. I do use a prayer strategy template you can find here.
War Room Ideas:
I also prefer a mobile war room approach. I keep my prayers on my phone so that I can pray through them wherever I am.
- In line at Walmart
- At the doctors office in the waiting room
- On a walk
- In the middle of the night when I can’t sleep
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What are the sin issues in your life? Write them down.
I’ll go first. My sin struggle is lust, always has been. When I search for verses about this sin to pray over my life I follow this path.
The sin of lust leads to discontentment, distance, and destructive behaviors like pornography, flirtation, emotional affairs, and infidelity.
Here are some prayer strategy examples to get you started. Go to google and search:
- Bible Verses about Lust
- Scripture on Discontentment
- Bible Verses about Pornography
- Scripture on Flirtation
- Bible Verses about Infidelity
You will have a lot of verses to choose from. Read them and the chapter they come from to be sure they are in context. Then write the verse out as a prayer. Hang it up in your war room.
Don’t have a war room? No problem.
- Text it to yourself.
- Email it to yourself.
- Create your own mobile war room.
- Set reminders on your phone to help you pray more often.
- Put the verses and prayers on index cards and tape them up around your house, at work, and in the car.
Do whatever you have to do to remember to pray that verse over your life regularly. A war room doesn’t have to be an actual room, it can be your lifestyle – in fact, it should be. Becoming a prayer warrior is a lifestyle change that brings the power of God into your everyday life.
If you or your spouse also struggle with lust you are welcome to use my prayer from this post to help you get started.
- Next, repeat the process for your husband’s sin.
- Now, find verses that God gives as promises when marriage is hard.
- Finish with blessings from God for your marriage.
Soon you will have dozens of Bible verses to help a marriage in trouble to become a successful marriage.
Bible Verses about Hope to use as Prayers for Marriages in Trouble
Marriages in trouble often fall into 1 of 3 categories of question:
- Please help me create prayers for unhappy marriage.
- I need prayers for a deeply troubled marriage.
- Please say prayers to save marriage from divorce.
In each case of a troubled marriage, begin by finding Bible verses about hope. If you think about it, hope is an underlying theme throughout scripture. When life is hard, find hope in Christ. When marriage is hard, find your strength in hope in God. God is Hope and we have access to that hope every day as we are using strategic prayer in spiritual warfare.
Hope For Marriage
We simply need to be reminded of the hope within when we need hope for marriage.
God is Hope and we have access to that hope every day as we are using strategic prayer in spiritual warfare. We simply need to be reminded of the hope within when we need hope for marriage. Click To Tweet
1 Peter 5:10 After you have suffered for a little while, the God of all grace, who called you to His eternal glory in Christ, will Himself perfect, confirm, strengthen and establish you.
Colossians 3:1-2 Therefore if you have been raised up with Christ, keep seeking the things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your mind on the things above, not on the things that are on earth.
Galatians 6:9 Let us not lose heart in doing good, for in due time we will reap if we do not grow weary.
Isaiah 40:31 Yet those who wait for the Lord Will gain new strength; They will mount up with wings like eagles, They will run and not get tired, They will walk and not become weary.
Mark 10:27 Looking at them, Jesus said, “With people it is impossible, but not with God; for all things are possible with God.”
Turn Bible Verses about hope into prayers for marriages in trouble
Father, I come before you needing hope. There is suffering in my life but I believe that through this suffering you will perfect, confirm, strengthen and establish us. Thank you in advance for that sweet assurance. (1 Peter 5:10)
Holy Spirit, please remind me that I have been raised up with Christ and must keep seeking the things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. It is so hard to not look at the problems in front of me. Help me learn how to set my mind on the things above, not on the things that are on earth so that I can keep hold of the hope you have given me. (Colossians 3:1-2)
Lord Jesus, I am tired of always working on this difficult situation in our marriage. Help me not lose heart in doing good. Remind me that in due time I will reap if I do not grow weary. when I do become weary please give me Your strength for the day. (Galatians 6:9)
Heavenly Father, I am waiting on You. Please give me new strength for the battle today. Remind me as I feel too tired to keep fighting that I will mount up with wings like eagles, I will run and not get tired, I will walk and not become weary. Your strength is more than enough to keep hope alive today. (Isaiah 40:31)
Dear Lord, this situation seems impossible. Thank you for the reminder that with You all things are possible with God. Remind me of that in the hard times and help me see Your hand at work through it all. (Mark 10:27)
How do I restore my broken marriage?
Remember that being brokenhearted is not a bad place to be in the Kingdom of God. God is near and will sustain the broken marriage when you turn to Him in humility. That is why I have included this topic in my list of prayers for marriages in trouble.
These are just a couple of my favorite prayer warrior scriptures about brokenness that can help restore a broken marriage.
A war room doesn't have to be an actual room, it can be your lifestyle - in fact, it should be. Becoming a prayer warrior is a lifestyle change that brings the power of God into your everyday life. Click To Tweet
Psalm 34: 18 The Lord is near to the brokenhearted
And saves those who are crushed in spirit.
Psalm 55:22 Cast your burden upon the Lord and He will sustain you; He will never allow the righteous to be shaken.
Prayers for the brokenhearted in marriage
This is how I would turn those bible verses about brokenness into a prayer for my broken marriage.
Lord, Your word promises that you’re near to the brokenhearted. I am broken. My heart hurts from all the hard parts of this marriage. You promise to save those who are crushed in spirit. My spirit hurts from the deep cuts. Save this marriage, heal my heart, restore the hope and joy in our marriage. No, make it more full than it ever was, to begin with. In Jesus’ name. (Psalm 34: 18)
Heavenly Father, you said I could cast my burdens upon You and You will sustain me. This hard season of marriage has lasted longer and been more painful than I ever could have imagined and I am failing. Please take this burden and help me to not be shaken from the commitment to our marriage. (Psalm 55:22)
Bible Verses to use as prayers for the hurting wife
So often we press through the hard parts, mustering up fake strength, pretending everything is fine in marriage. All the while we are broken, weak, and hurting. That is the time we most need a war room prayer strategy… Oh but what if we had one in place beforehand and could avoid the brokenness?!?!?!
Sweet Hurting Wife, there is no need for false strength. When you get real about your weakness, your brokenness, and your marital problem to God, God can come in to heal, restore, and make your marriage strong – make your marriage better than it ever was in the beginning.
2 Corinthians 12:9 And He has said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for power is perfected in weakness.” Most gladly, therefore, I will rather boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may dwell in me.
Isaiah 41:10 ‘Do not fear, for I am with you;
Do not anxiously look about you, for I am your God.
I will strengthen you, surely I will help you,
Surely I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.’
Prayers for the hurting wife
Holy Spirit, I am weak, hurting, and ready to give up on this whole mess of a marriage. You said, “My grace is sufficient for you, for power is perfected in weakness”, but I am struggling to believe there is hope. Take this spirit of hopelessness today and replace it with the same spirit Paul had when he said, “most gladly, therefore, I will rather boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may dwell in me”. I want to boast in You alone and give You the glory as you heal and restore all the hurting places in my life. (2 Corinthians 12:9)
Lord Jesus, I am afraid. I am hurting in ways I never dreamed possible. Yet you tell me, “Do not fear, for I am with you; Do not anxiously look about you, for I am your God.” You are my God and I am believing you for the peace of your presence in this moment. You said, “I will strengthen you, surely I will help you, Surely I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.” I need your help today like never before. Hold onto me, hold me up. Thank you for always being faithful and righteous. I surrender this hurt to You today. (Isaiah 41:10)
Bible Verses to use as prayers for marriage protection
Life is hard and when marriage is hard and we need marriage protection like never before. When you have been doing the heavy lifting of fixing a broken marriage know that you can come to God weary and heavy-laden and find rest like you never could anywhere else. That rest is like a fresh start for you, a form of marriage protection that we all desperately need. Protection and rest are keys in prayers for marriages in trouble.
Matthew 11:28-30 “Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”
Allow room for God to work in ways you never dreamed possible. When you trust Him, do Marriage God’s way, He can heal broken parts you never thought could be healed.
Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.
Prayers for marriage protection
Precious Savior, I know that when I am weary and burnt out from life and the hard parts of marriage we are vulnerable to attack. Hear these midnight prayers for marriage as I struggle even to sleep all night worried about all the hard things. You said, “Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.” I am weary and need rest. Please take these burdens. Please bear the weight of all this hardship and pain. Fill me with Your Spirit of peace and joy as I wait for you to move in this season of marriage. (Matthew 11:28-30)
Heavenly Father, nothing right now makes sense. Why is this so hard? I don’t understand but I will trust in You with all my heart. Your way doesn’t follow logical sense but I commit today to not lean on my own understanding. I will acknowledge You as I walk through this troubled marriage with You. I will let Your light shine in this dark season and trust that You will make my paths straight. (Proverbs 3:5-6)
You have to Guard your heart in a Difficult Marriage!
Scriptures for marriage restoration
Standing for marriage reconciliation can be hard and feel lonely. It feels like the whole world would have you just divorce and move on. But you are in good company if you can stand for your marriage – even if you are standing for your marriage alone. The Bible has a lot to say about the restoration of relationships that you can use in your war room prayer strategy!
But you are in good company if you can stand for your marriage - even if you are standing for your marriage alone. The Bible has a lot to say about the restoration of relationships that you can use in your war room prayer strategy! Click To Tweet
Matthew 5:24 leave your offering there before the altar and go; first be reconciled to your brother, and then come and present your offering.
Matthew 19:6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.”
Matthew 19:26 And looking at them Jesus said to them, “With people this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.”
Colossians 3:13 bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, whoever has a complaint against anyone; just as the Lord forgave you, so also should you.
Hebrews 12:14 Pursue peace with all men, and the sanctification without which no one will see the Lord.
Prayers for Marriage Restoration
Heavenly Father, you told us how to work toward marriage restoration but it feels sooooo hard. Help us learn how to bear with each other, how to genuinely forgive each other just like You forgive us. Make this restoration a way of life that shines Your light and love to the lost world. (Colossians 3:13)
Tender Father, I am struggling in this marriage. You said, “Pursue peace with all men” but I can’t see the way to peace. You also said that You have a peace that surpasses all understanding. Please fill us with that and enable us to live in it even when we disagree and can’t see the way through these marriage problems. You said that through choosing peace others will see You and that is what we want. Please shine through our marriage. (Hebrews 12:14)
Holy Spirit, You value restoration in relationships so much You don’t even want my offering if there is a problem between me and another believer. Help me remember that. Work to reconcile things between my husband and me each day or as soon as possible so that I can stand before you with a clean heart and always be ready to worship you and be in your presence. (Matthew 5:24)
Lord Jesus, You said that when we were married we were no longer two, but one flesh. The enemy is working hard to separate us. Distraction and discontentment have slipped in. Business and misaligned priorities also seek to separate us. Help me stand firm in my commitment to this marriage and say daily, “What God has joined together, let no man separate.” (Matthew 19:6)
Precious Jesus, this marriage looks impossible. It seems like everything is against us. I feel hopeless and tired of fighting. Everyone says just give up and start again. But You are the same God who rose from the dead, was born of a virgin, sought and redeemed me from so far… Help me never forget that when things are impossible to human minds, “with God all things are possible.” When I can’t see hope for marriage keep my hope firmly planted in You. (Matthew 19:26)
Will You Accept the Challenge to Make a War Room Prayer Strategy with these Prayers for Marriages in Trouble?
In conclusion, the battle for your marriage may feel hopeless today but you are taking the first step toward hope by being here. Biblical marriage principles are never easy but they are always effective. No, they won’t save every marriage but they will draw every heart nearer to God which leads to victory. Victory comes when you draw near to God.
Will you create a War Room Prayer Strategy?
- Set up a space you can call “My Prayer Closet”
- List your sin and your husbands’ sin
- Find verses to use in strategic prayer, spiritual warfare over those sins.
- Claim one of the verses on:
- Hope for Marriage
- Prayers for a broken marriage
- Prayer for the hurting wife
- Marriage protection
- Marriage restoration
- Create a Plan to pray these prayers for marriages in trouble
- Download the verse cards
- Hang them up where you can see
- Copy and paste them to your phone
- Set a reminder to pray
If you will join me in this Marriage Challenge comment “I’m in” and I’ll be lifting you up in prayer today.
Tiffany of Hope Joy in Christ inspires Christian Women to grow in faith, live out Biblical Marriage Principles and raise Godly Children. Join the Wives Only Facebook Group here or keep up with her through Pinterest.
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45 thoughts to “How to Create Prayers for Marriages in Trouble: War Room Prayer Strategy”
Such a practical and helpful post. Giving all the prayers and Scriptures to people is so helpful. For those who don’t know the Bible very well, it is immensely important that you already gave all of that to them.
It’s my hope that this is just a jumping-off point and that people will take these war room prayer strategy tips and make their own prayers.
This post is a gold mine of prayers for marriage in trouble (or out of it!)!!! Thank you for putting this together!
So glad you found it helpful, Aryn!
I so needed to hear this! Marriage is so challenging at times, but also one of life’s biggest blessings. My husband and I have been in a challenging season, but we are standing on God’s promise that he has given us EVERYTHING we need for life and godliness–that includes marriage. Thank you for these incredible ideas for war room prayers for our marriage.
Yes! He gives us everything we need. It’s so hard to remember in hard seasons though.
Beautiful prayers for marriage Tiffany! We all have ways in which we can pray for our marriages and this was a great encouragement to me on how to use scripture to get more specific in how I pray.
(I have a copy of the movie “War Room”- I think it needs to be our “date night” real soon!)
That is a fav movie for us too! Yes, when we pray the scripture it gets more specific and so much more powerful!
I need prayer! My husband and I are facing much like the movie..I have a created a “War Room” myself and our marriage could use all the prayer we can get right now!
Praying over you now, Lindsay. God is good and can move in powerful ways as you pray. I am standing with you believing HE will!
Standing with you in prayer through this time of fasting, Esther!
Please lift my husband and myself in your prayers today! I need all the prayers I can get for our marriage. I’m standing in the Lord alone. I know He will do this for my marriage. Pray with me!
Covering you both in prayer right now, Emma!
Thank you for your obedience to GOD and insight on how to restore our biblical marriage it is very helpful.
I’m so glad it blessed you, Josette! Praying over you today.
My husband’s heart is still shared with his ex wife-10 years now. My heart is broken. I’m broken. This was a blessing to come across.
Oh no, Sandra. I am covering you in prayer right now.
Thanks for this blog, my husband moved out and stated he wanted a divorce. He did say he would do marriage counseling, and that is all the hope I needed to seek out the Lord. I am hopeful he can save my marriage, and even though this is the worst pain I have ever felt; I have never been this close to God. Thank you so much for having this blog! Please pray for us.
Praying now, Brandi. God is big. I am asking Him to show off as He reminds you how much He loves you.
I’m in! I’M ALL IN!! My wife was the victim of a “forced encounter” at 13. When she told her father he called her a word that rhymes with chore. (And in doing so spoke a curse over her). At 18 she KNOWINGLY married an abusive drunk, telling her dad, “I’m going to marry him and there’s nothing you can do about it!” Before getting married there were several years where it was her goal to see how many men she could get to cheat on their wives. (Living out her father’s curse). All her life she’s been abused, used and mistreated by the men in her life. (All I’ve described above is just the tip of the iceberg. There has been so much more…) For 11 years I’ve done my best to be a good husband and father. Her dad passed unexpectedly this past April, without ANY reconciliation between them, which I believe triggered a chance in my wife. Sept 28th, five days before our 10year anniversary, she came out as gay, and has a girlfriend. The very first pastor I spoke with told me the hardest place for me to be is in the home, seeing and hearing what I will see and hear. But the BEST place for me to be is in the home, because WHEN her world collapses around her, she will need that strong man of God to pick her up, forgive her and love her and show her the way to the true healing only God can provide. 1 Corinthians 7:14 says the unbelieving spouse is sanctified by the believing spouse, and the children are made holy. I cannot and WILL NOT turn my back on my wife’s salvation, or that of my kids, so… I STAND!!!
Standing with you in prayer over this, Neal. They are right that it is not unusual for women to turn away from men when they have been hurt so badly… but God is so good and HIS healing can come in and work miracles. I am praying that for you… I would also rec a time of fasting added to your prayers for your wife and marriage… check this out to help you start https://hopejoyinchrist.com/fast-pray-pleases-god/
Thank you very much! I am a firm believer in the power of praying in agreement. She has actually been invited to tree trim and dinner with a coworker and her husband tomorrow night, (Tues, 12/22). They are the ONLY people who have been able to have a conversation with my wife even REMOTELY Christ centered. I am fasting in anticipation of that dinner and conversation.!
Please keep me updated as I continue to pray with you. Lord, stand up over this family, move in a powerful way and be glorified above all! AMEN
I wish to edit my comment above by adding that most pastors and Christian Counselors agree that my wife coming out as gay is not surprising or unusual given her past with men. They believe this is just the current “band aid” to try and not feel or deal with the pain of her past. Which is necessary for true, Godly healing.
Im in! As my husband told me I may not have a choice regarding divorce. I will declare God’s word over my marriage!
Standing in prayer with you over this. Have you tried a time or prayer and fasting? Learn how to get started if you haven’t before here – https://hopejoyinchrist.com/fast-pray-pleases-god/
I need your prayers for my marriage. My husband has some addiction issues that caused problems in our relationship. He wanted the freedom to go out and drink with buddies and stay out all night. This lead to him moving out and finding another woman (who knew he was married). I have had to file for divorce to protect me and my children during this trying time. I have created a war room and I am believing that God will perform BIG things. I will give him all the honor and glory. I know with God all things are possible. I am standing on that ground. My husband thinks he is “happier”. No responsibilities, not seeing our children, nothing! We need need your prayers for this to wake him up and realize life at home is wonderful!
Praying over you and him right now that God will get his attention and convict him of his sin… and that God will bring healing, hope, and restoration in a powerful and miraculous way.
Please help me, I’m going through the most pain I have ever felt and my marriage is deeply troubled. I love my husband and he loves me but the issues are too much and we are bordering on divorce but I’m praying hard against that. Please pray for me.
Praying for you right now and please know you don’t have to face this alone. Find a good Christian counselor to talk to – even if he won’t go, it will help you work through things and heal.
Hi, do you prayer just for marriages,?
Not at all. There are lots of things in life to pray over. I will begin today praying over you, Phyllis.
Im in!! My husband is cheating. I told him I want to work it out, I will forgive. He is living in the basement refusing to speak or look at me. He has checked out. I am praying with help from my mother, aunt and friends. I will not give up unless of course if God has other plans. At the same time I am praying for my husband to turn his life around, ask God for forgiveness. I want him to be forgiven by the Lord.
I am going to create my war closet. i have faith in God!!! Our marriage needs help and so does my husband.
Please pray for us. God states that if two or moe are in prayer, He is present ( i didnt quote it properly but you know what I am saying
God bless you
Standing with you in prayer right now, Nancy.
I’m all In! My wife told me back in February that she wanted to separate. I stayed until the end of May before moving out, praying every day for God to heal us and heal my wife’s heart. Our marriage hasn’t been one of contention or infidelity. I publicly admit that I put my wife before God for the last 3 years and smothered her. I don’t believe he is done with our marriage and have faith he will use this all to his glory. I am standing for my marriage, my wife is the definition of a prudent wife, she is a gift from God and I cherish our marriage. Please pray for us as we navigate God’s will, that we will see his hands and plans at work. Just yesterday I saw her and she had her wedding ring on her right hand like she’s engaged. That hit me hard as she’s kept it on her left hand at least up until Fathers day when I saw her. I am setting up a war room and using these prayers, I have been fighting with prayer since last year and will become more focused with them. Please keep us in your prayers and if anyone reading this would do the same it would be a blessing.
God is able to do amazing things when we lean into Him, trusting Him to be big! Covering you and your marriage in prayer right now, H.
Tiffany I need ur prayers my husband always chat with random girls in a dirty way some times he demand for sex from them .this is something he wasn’t doing before even wen we were dating he wasn’t like this now we are married don’t know what’s wrong and each time I confront him he always apologize and I will forgive him but later he will still go back doing the same thing, although I have never seen him sleeping with a woman,pls Tiffany am really hurt help me 2days ago he did sesame thing now I can’t forgive h am just hurt
I am praying over you right now. Please find a good Christian counselor to help you work through setting clear boundaries to protect you in this difficult situation. In cases of infidelity, it is hard to forgive because the covenant is torn and it hurts our soul. Keep giving it to God but make sure you are safe in the process. If you need help finding a counselor check out newlife.com.
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