The knock on the door signified what would likely be the end of my marriage – at least, that’s what the devil had planned – no hope.
You see, he quietly came into our marriage in the form of some bad choices. He worked enough harm that our marriage nearly fell apart. In fact, by all worldly standards, our marriage was over. The knock was the final straw. I watched my marriage crumble to a million pieces that day. By all accounts, we had a strong model of a biblical marriage.
The choices my husband made behind my back nearly became my undoing.
I remember searching for terms like “marriage crisis” or “hope for my marriage” when everything fell apart, to no avail. The realization that there was nowhere to turn for real, sustained hope was devastating. Was there no one who wrote about how to overcome a crisis in your marriage? Had the world’s wisdom to “cut and run” infiltrated our Christian perspective as well? Where was the hope for biblical wifehood?
I won’t presume to speak for you, but I know that in my own life, it was easier to hinge my hope on the man I see every day rather than the God who I cannot see. Anybody else feel that way? I put a lot of hope into the tangibles of life – people, food, shelter – and it was easier to have that faith in my husband when things were tough, rather than God.
So you can imagine how devastated I was to learn of all that had been going wrong in my marriage behind my back.
Friends, it took a traumatic incident to open my eyes. It took almost complete and utter devastation of my marriage for me to realize that the my hope was misplaced.
The Only True Hope
The only true hope for a hurting wife is Jesus Christ.
The only solid foundation for a marriage is Jesus Christ.
I know the depths of the pain of a marriage in crisis. I know the shame and guilt of a marriage that is broken.
But, I know the hope of a God who restores and redeems, and you can know that hope today, too!
Let me encourage you, though, that God is in the depths of the pain! God is in those moments when you do not know what to do and you simply cry out to Him. When you’re ready to give up and throw in the towel, God is there!
Hope for the Hurting Wife – Giveaway
Hope for the Hurting Wife is a collection of stories of God’s faithfulness in some of the lowest and darkest times in our lives. My co-author, Jen Stults, and I, have been through some marital struggles that cut us to the core. God brought us together to share our stories and to share hope with you.
We never intended to write this book. Rather, it took the Lord’s prompting for us to understand what He wanted us to do. This has been His way of writing redemption on our marriages first, and then filling our hearts with hope to share with others. We’ve come to truly understand this excerpt that we share on the back cover of our book:
Hope for the Hurting Wife is a thirty-day devotional journey that meets hurting and heartbroken wives right in the midst of a difficult marriage and gently encourages them to find hope that truly lasts. Jen and I know many wives truly wish to avoid divorce, but the pain and suffering experienced when marriage doesn’t go as planned is very real.
The Best Guarantee
We cannot promise that your marriage will be restored. That’s between you, your spouse and the Lord.
What we can promise you, though, is that if you commit to developing your own faith during this time of troubled marriage, then you will not be disappointed ! God will work in your life in a unique way, causing you to grow in Him. While this book can offer hope for your marriage, our prayer is that it offers more than that.
Our prayer is that Hope for the Hurting Wife offers restoration – a restoration of your own faith, first and foremost.
Perhaps you’ve been following this series and searching for hope. Or maybe you’ve landed here today after searching for hope somewhere online. Friends, hope is not just a thing to be found; Hope is a person and that person is Jesus Christ.
Maybe you’ve hit rock bottom and you’re ready to give up; today is not the day to give up, though! Today can be a new beginning for you as you find the only hope for a hurting wife.
I would like to pray with you today.
Heavenly Father, You know the needs of each and every person who reads this post. You know where their marriage stands right this minute. Lord, we know that we have to trust You with the ultimate outcome of our marriage and each of us are looking for hope for our marriage today. We know Your Word is faithful; we know that You love us; how we long for hope today. Lord, you are a God who restores and redeems. We read in Isaiah 43 that You have redeemed us and called us by name. So, Lord, while we look for hope and search for restoration for our marriage, help us to remember that You are our hope. You are our restoration. You have redeemed us! What a wonderful God You are! In Jesus’ name, Amen.
If you have come here today, truly searching, today can be your day of salvation. The Lord sent His Son, Jesus, to die for our sins. He was crucified on the cross, dead and buried, and on the third day, He rose again, He ascended into Heaven and is seated at the right hand of God the Father, waiting for the moment that He comes back to take us home to Heaven.
Jesus died to make a way for us to have eternal life with God the Father. In fact, He died for each of us, not willing that any of us should be without hope.
Whatever heartache you’re carrying today, He wants to take it from you.
Have you accepted God’s free gift of salvation through His Son, Jesus? Today is your day of Hope! All you need to do is simply pray this prayer with me. There is nothing special about these words, you’re simply asking Jesus to take your sins and to be the Lord of your life.
Dear Lord, thank You for sending Your Son, Jesus to die on the cross for my sins. Thank You for the free gift of salvation that you offer to me. I accept this gift, I choose today to have You be the Lord of my life. I choose today to have You as my Hope. Guide me as I grow in You, and show me how to live for you. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
If you’ve prayed this prayer, today is your day of hope! Today is your day of salvation and we would love to hear about it. Please leave us a message in the comments below. We’d love to encourage you on this journey!
Thank you Rebekah for sharing so openly about your motivation to help offer hope to hurting wives. That is a true picture of Biblical Wifehood!
You can find Rebekah at RebekahHallbert.com where she is Sharing Redemption’s stories. Be sure to enter to win a copy of Rebekah & Jen’s new book Hope for the Hurting Wife or check it out on Amazon
We are in a 30 day Series called Reclaiming Hope & Joy in Your Marriage
Here are the Articles so Far:
Reclaiming Hope and Joy in your Christian Marriage
Three Ways God Works Through Hard Seasons of Marriage
What Submission Looks Like in a Christian Marriage
How To Be a Biblical Wife To an Ungodly Husband
How to Create an Abundantly Fruitful Marriage
The Best Kept Secret Piece of the Marriage Puzzle
The Greatest Gift I Gave My Man
Moving from Lost to Found in Marriage
Perspective in Marriage: Give Us Eyes to See (Part 1)
Finding Joy in Being a HelpMeet to Your Husband
Perspective in Marriage: from Surviving to Thriving (Part 2)
Can You Reclaim Hope & Joy After Betrayal in Marriage?
The Unexpected Path to Happiness in Marriage
3 Ways to Stand Firm in the Battle for Your Marriage
7 Practical Ways to Reclaim Hope and Joy in Your Marriage
How to Restore Honor Back in Your Marriage
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