Do you ever wish there was a handbook with the basics of Marriage listed out plainly? Preachers would tell you that the Bible is such a book, but it is just not that simple. Learning the keys for marriage from scripture takes time and help while often we need answers now. Can you relate? What I want to know is ‘How to make a marriage last forever’. Today Jaime Wiebel will share 3 Simple Steps to a Better Marriage: A Wonderful Marriage that will last a lifetime!
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3 Simple Steps to a Better Marriage: A Wonderful Marriage
I married my best friend almost twelve years ago as we began a new life together. He was the wonderful guy of my dreams. I just didn’t know it at the time.
Until you get in and get your hands dirty in Marriage, you live by an ideal of how it is going to turn out. Often times, as little girls, we dream of the prince on the white horse. He caters to our needs and is arm candy. All the while he spoils us rotten and loves us endlessly. Maybe as our hair blows in the wind, we gallop off into the sunset together.
Our fantasy isn’t reality or a realistic expectation to put on our mate.
I learned 3 great steps to a better marriage – that make a wonderful marriage
-None of them include a white horse or our hair blowing in the wind.
1. Respect is a Step to a Better Marriage
Our first year of marriage was difficult. My older sister recognized that and said, “If you don’t do something different this isn’t going to work.”
She gave me a small booklet to read full of happy marriage tips. I don’t remember what the book was called. There was one word, however, that stood out to me – Respect.
I realized the biggest problem in our marriage was that I didn’t respect my husband. Respect is one of many key characteristics of a successful marriage!
Every time he tried to do something, I would rip the rug out from underneath him and tell him it wasn’t right.
The truth was his way wasn’t wrong, it just wasn’t done like I would have done it -and that is okay.
Being independent is not among those happy marriage tips
I have always prided myself on being independent.
My pride was a total hang-up. I thought I could do everything myself. Also, I thought I had all the right answers for things to go well.
I know that sounds egotistical but it is the pride that we carry deep inside of us. That pride will always cause us to struggle in relationships -especially marriage. Independence will also cause marital problems because we need each other.
Genesis 2:18 It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a help meet for him.
That is exactly what God did. He created a helpmate for the man.
The basics of marriage state that the woman was created to be a help-meet for the man
The woman was NOT created to be a:
- A pushy-pants
- An overseer
The woman was created as a helpmate! One to stand beside him.
Standing beside him means respecting him, his decisions and who God created him to be. It requires a conscience and an intentional mindset. One that takes continual respect every day.
In turn, when your husband gets the respect he needs, he is free to love you well. Love and Respect is one of the basics of Marriage.
After I made the change to respect, I no longer undermined his decisions, his thoughts, and every…single…thing…he…did.
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2. Building a Strong Marriage Foundation on Christ-like A Braided Cord
As we started our life together, my husband started depending on God more. As my husband began developing his own relationship with God, he was able to encourage me in my walk.
Ecclesiastes 4:12 Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.
Nothing is more important than building a strong marriage foundation in Christ in a Christian Marriage. God must be at the center of your marriage. He must be the third strand in your braided cord.
I became a believer when I was a young girl, but I spent most of my youth and my young adult life walking far from God.
My husband helped me turn back to God.
As his relationship with the Lord grew and we began discussing what he was studying, our relationship grew.
How can I make myself better in my marriage?
Building a strong marriage foundation on Christ is the answer. As you grow in your own walk with God you will be better in your marriage. We found that as we grow in our faith, God became the center of our thoughts and many of our conversations. Placing God at the center of our relationship made us stronger. It made us better as believers and as husband and wife.
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3. Love in Action is the 3rd of our Steps to a Better Marriage
Before I agreed to write this article on marriage I would have told you I understood most of the keys to marriage and what leads to happiness in marriage. My marriage isn’t perfect but there are several things that I feel like we do well.
As I began thinking about what I was going to write, things started getting weird. My husband started acting not quite himself. I was wondering how I was going to pull this marriage post off. Then I realized two important things:
- When you are living for the Lord, you are prone to attacks.
I had asked my husband what was going on. I was getting frustrated, cross with my remarks and quite honestly not loving. But having God at the center allowed me to recognize the problem was not my husband but a spiritual attack.
I called my husband at work, told him I was writing this post, prayed for us, and told him I believe we were under attack. Satan tried to stop me and it temporarily worked.
- God is more powerful and greater than the power that is in this world.
- Christ can overcome those attacks and He will.
The attack reminded me of one of the characteristics of a strong marriage and this is what we continue to walk in day to day.Love in action is one of the characteristics of a strong marriage Love is an action, not a feeling. Click To Tweet
Love in action is one of the characteristics of a strong marriage
Love does not depend on my circumstance. My attitude. My feelings. The pitter-patter of my heart.
Love is an action, not a feeling.
Hope Joy in Christ just finished a series walking through 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 to apply to Love in Action in Marriage. In that series, she demonstrated clearly why Love in Action is one of the characteristics of a strong marriage.
Did you see those verbs that help you put love into action?
- Disrespect or Acting unbecoming in Marriage,
- Selfishness in Marriage,
- Anger in Marriage,
- Evil Thoughts in Marriage,
- Rejoicing In Marriage
- Bearing All Things,
- Believing All Things,
- Hoping All things
- Enduring All things in a Biblical Marriage.
If you skimmed over those verses because you have read or heard them a thousand times, go back and read them sloooooowly.
Those are all action words. They are not feelings that change with the tide or seasons in life. Each action requires a conscious decision every day.
When marriage gets tough it takes an effort in putting these actions into force. Sometimes more effort than others. But your marriage is worth it!
When we Show Love through action you take the first of many steps to a better marriage!
Which of these 3 Simple Steps to a Better Marriage will you take today?
Are you asking how to make a marriage last forever? Wondering how can I make my marriage happy?
Putting God at the center of your marriage, respecting your husband, and choosing to actively love him will change everything. It is God’s plan and design not only for marriage but for how we live for Him. I challenge you to pick one of these three simple steps to a better marriage today. Apply it for a week and see if you don’t feel like you have a wonderful marriage!
Before you go, take time to reflect.
Thanks for joining me today.
Hi, I’m Jaime. Christian Ministry Blogger whose passion is to walk beside you as you grow a deeper relationship with Jesus. Together we will seek to find our true identiy in the heart of God. I can’t wait for you to join us on my site or Facebook group (Seeking God Daily) where I get the privilege of combining my favorite things — chatting with friends and studying and teaching God’s Word. For regular encouragement join us at Seeking God with Jaime Wiebel.
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