How to Pray to Know Your Identity in Christ

Have you ever had an identity crisis?  I lived most of my early life in crisis mode.  I didn’t know who I was, and I had no idea what I wanted in life.  The idea of identity seemed overwhelming.  Can you relate?  If you have been in church any amount of time you have heard sermons or lessons about knowing your identity in Christ, but has anyone ever told you how to really apply the principle?  How do you know what your identity is?  Once you know that identity how do you keep it fresh, live in it, walk in it, and allow it to change your life?  Does it even matter if you don’t know your identity in Christ?

Does it matter if you know your identity in Christ?

Early in my walk, I used to imagine that my identity in Jesus Christ as a super hero’s secret life.  I put on my Christian Identity when I stepped into the church building – I had it mastered!  I knew how to play up that good little church girl and then leave that identity behind when I stepped into work Monday morning.  Can you relate?  

Honestly, I didn’t really know who I was, how was I supposed to know who God wanted me to be?  I tried on every kind of personality I saw to find the one that fit me.  There were years I was a prep one day, grunge the next and a bossy JROTC chick the next.  All of it seemed possible, but none of it felt real.   I was drifting aimlessly, hopelessly through life.  When you don’t know your identity life leads nowhere.  It is important to know your identity in Christ.

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If you want to know your Identity ask God to show you what He sees

About a decade ago I was so far down in a pit of despair I couldn’t see my way out.  My 2nd Marriage was on the rocks.  All my friendships were toxic. I had lost every earthly possession.  I saw nothing left to live for.   This was far worse than the typical anxiety I battle, this was a crisis.

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I remember praying that God would show me why I shouldn’t just drive my car off the side of the overpass.  There wasn’t a reason to live, no one needed me, nothing felt real…  Then a radio preacher began to talk about how much God loved me, created me specifically with His own blueprint, saw every fault and quirk in me and valued me too much to leave me in a pit of despair.

Ever had one of those moments?  A moment where God speaks right into your heart answering the very prayer you thew out into the universe.

The preacher challenged us to pray Psalm 139 and ask God to show the parts of me He designed and how sin and pain had twisted them.  He began showing me how to give my life back to Him to heal and mold and transform into a beautiful testimony.

I don’t know where this finds you today but I want to challenge you to pray as I pray.  Ask God to show you what He sees when He looks at you.  He loves you so much and created you specifically with a purpose and calling.  Yes, there may be things that are crazy and messed up in your world, but nothing is impossible for God.  He can take all the broken pieces, put them back together in a way that brings Joy and Hope into your real life.  He can help you to know your identity in Christ.

Do you know yourself well?

For years I was blind to my own faults and quirks.  People around me tried to point them out but I ignored them.  ‘God made me that way’ I would rationalize and they should just get used to it.

But can I be honest with you?  God didn’t make me that way.  Many of those characteristics were chiseled into me by the depravity of a sin-filled world.  They were my coping mechanisms for surviving.  I put up my “know it all” side when I didn’t want to be hurt or feel dumb.  My people-pleasing personality came out when I needed to avoid the confrontation that would wound me.  That a-type personality that can drive through a to-do list can also drive away the people who love me.

know your identity in christ Such a simple word, but so underutilized.  I asked God to show me my identity.  Remember we are learning to use Specific, Effective Prayer Strategies to change our lives.  Praying Scripture is the most powerful effective strategy I know.

As I prayed Psalm 139 I began to understand that God created me with a love of learning, but sin had twisted it into a hurtful tool to protect myself.  That A-Type personality also came from God to be used to administrate tasks and run an online ministry, but as I refused to forgive people in my life it became twisted and turned into a tool to drive people away.

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I have written Psalm 139 as a prayer below. 

You can pray it now and know your identity in Christ.

Dear Lord,

You have searched me and known me.  You know when I sit down and when I get up; You even understand my thought from afar.  You examine my life every day as I walk the path, and You are intimately acquainted with all my ways. 

You know me better than I know myself

Before there is a word on my tongue, when it is still a thought in my mind, O Lord, You already know it all. 

You have enclosed me behind and before And laid Your hand upon me.  Such knowledge is too wonderful for me; It is too high, I cannot understand it. 

Where can I go from Your Spirit Lord? Or where can I run from Your presence?  If I climb as high as heaven, You are there; If I make my bed in the depths, You are even there.  Should I take the wings of the dawn, dwell in the remotest part of the sea, Even there Your hand will lead me, And Your right hand will lay hold of me.  Lord, even as I cry out, “Surely the darkness will overwhelm me, And the light around me will be night,”  Even the darkness is not dark to You, And the night is as bright as the day. Darkness and light are alike to You – How can that be?  

Lord, You formed my inward parts;

You wove me together by hand within my mother’s womb.  My life was planned and chosen by You.

I will give thanks to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Wonderful are Your works, And my soul knows it very well.  Let me never forget that my frame was not hidden from You, When I was made in secret, And skillfully wrought in the depths of the earth; Your eyes have seen my unformed substance; And in Your book were all written The days that were ordained for me, When as yet there was not one of them.  You know me, knew me and loved me in spite of all the mess of my life.  Thank You!

How precious also are Your thoughts to me, O God!

How infinite is the sum of them!  If I tried to count them, they would outnumber the sand.  When I awake, I am still with You.  Praise You for never leaving me alone or forsaking me!

Search me, O God, and know my heart; Try me and know my anxious thoughts; And see if there be any hurtful way in me, And lead me in the everlasting way.  Mold me more into Your image this day.  Help me never forget Whose I am Father.


How do you know your Identity in Christ and allow it to change your life?

Here is a truth you can all hold onto about your Identity in Christ:

  • God created me in His image, with a plan, and with a calling.

I had allowed the hurts of my past, the depression and anxiety, to warp my identity. The wasted years living in insecurity and fear of being hurt again destroyed it but not beyond God’s reach and ability to heal.

God created you as well.  He designed you, plotted out each and every part of your character and personality.  There is a reason you are the way you are.  Do you believe that?  Ask Him to show you so you know your identity in Christ.

This is my identity in Christ list:

  • As a child of His
  • A Princess of the King of kings
  • Co-heir with Christ
  • Who has access to every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places

We need to be reminded often and your loving Father doesn’t mind keeping it fresh.

The enemy wants to distract us and convince us that those are lies.  He wants to throw our past and the mistakes and pain in our face to disqualify us from the calling Christ has on our lives.  But Y’all, that snake was defeated over 2000 years ago and has no authority over you.

Stop. Listening. To. Him.

Anytime you start to doubt who you are and Whose you are, pray Psalm 139 again and be encouraged in God’s Love for you!

in HIM,

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Tiffany Montgomery

Tiffany of Hope Joy in Christ inspires Christian Women to grow in faith, live out Biblical Marriage Principles and raise Godly Children.  Join the Wives Only Facebook Group here or keep up with her through Pinterest.

9 thoughts to “How to Pray to Know Your Identity in Christ”

  1. Tiffany, I have never had the identity crisis, or depression you have experienced, but one of my sisters suffers from Bi-Polar disorder and severe depression, so I know it is difficult. She is more stable now, as you are, and I believe most of her help is from her relationship to Jesus, as your’s is. You pray Psalm 139, which, interestingly enough, I prayed, dissected, and prayed again when I was going through breast cancer! It became my prayer. I analyzed and personalized almost every verse, and prayed it morning and night. It holds a very special place in my heart, and I am so glad it is special to you, as well! God bless you!

  2. That is literally my favorite bible passage Psalm 139. I have found comfort strength and identity in Christ. It is really important to know who we are otherwise the world will define us for us and there is nothing good in that!

  3. I’m so glad you wrote about this.
    I’m ashamed to say that three years ago when I stepped back from full-time ministry, my identity was grounded in what I did and how much I did, and not in who I was in Christ instead. It took almost my whole Sabbatical year to find my identity back and become confident again in who I truly am.
    I love the idea of praying over Psalm 139 and just ask God to show us. I wish I had done this back then.
    Thank you, Tiffany, for writing this post!

    1. Ana God has used your ministry and life to bless so many. He certainly has you on a path… crazy how sometimes it takes bringing us completely to our knees to get us on that path! Blessings friend!

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