Have you ever had an identity crisis? I lived most of my early life in crisis mode. I didn’t know who I was, and I had no idea what I wanted in life. The idea of identity seemed overwhelming. Can you relate? If you have been in church any amount of time you have heard sermons or lessons about knowing your identity in Christ, but has anyone ever told you how to really apply the principle? How do you know what your identity is? Once you know that identity how do you keep it fresh, live in it, walk in it, and allow it to change your life? Does it even matter if you don’t know your identity in Christ?
Does it matter if you know your identity in Christ?
Early in my walk, I used to imagine that my identity in Christ as a super hero’s secret life. I put on my Christian Identity when I stepped into the church building – I had it mastered! I knew how to play up that good little church girl and then leave that identity behind when I stepped into work Monday morning. Can you relate?
Honestly, I didn’t really know who I was, how was I supposed to know who God wanted me to be? I tried on every kind of personality I saw to find the one that fit me. There were years I was a prep one day, grunge the next and a bossy JROTC chick the next. All of it seemed possible, but none of it felt real. I was drifting aimlessly, hopelessly through life. When you don’t know your identity life leads nowhere.
If you want to know your Identity ask God to show you what He sees
About a decade ago I was so far down in a pit of despair I couldn’t see my way out. My 2nd Marriage was on the rocks. All my friendships were toxic. I had lost every earthly possession. I saw nothing left to live for. This was far worse than the typical anxiety I battle, this was a crisis.
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I remember praying that God would show me why I shouldn’t just drive my car off the side of the overpass. There wasn’t a reason to live, no one needed me, nothing felt real… Then a radio preacher began to talk about how much God loved me, created me specifically with His own blueprint, saw every fault and quirk in me and valued me too much to leave me in a pit of despair.
Ever had one of those moments? A moment where God speaks right into your heart answering the very prayer you thew out into the universe.
The preacher challenged us to pray Psalm 139 and ask God to show the parts of me He designed and how sin and pain had twisted them. He began showing me how to give my life back to Him to heal and mold and transform into a beautiful testimony.
I don’t know where this finds you today but I want to challenge you to pray as I pray. Ask God to show you what He sees when He looks at you. He loves you so much and created you specifically with a purpose and calling. Yes, there may be things that are crazy and messed up in your world, but nothing is impossible for God. He can take all the broken pieces, put them back together in a way that brings Joy and Hope into your real life.
Do you know yourself well?
For years I was blind to my own faults and quirks. People around me tried to point them out but I ignored them. ‘God made me that way’ I would rationalize and they should just get used to it.
But can I be honest with you? God didn’t make me that way. Many of those characteristics were chiseled into me by the depravity of a sin-filled world. They were my coping mechanisms for surviving. I put up my “know it all” side when I didn’t want to be hurt or feel dumb. My people pleasing personality came out when I needed to avoid the confrontation that would wound me. That a-type personality that can drive through a to-do list can also drive away the people who love me.
How do you know what your identity in Christ is?
Prayer. Such a simple word, but so underutilized. I asked God to show me my identity. Remember we are learning to use Specific, Effective Prayer Strategies to change our lives. Praying Scripture is the most powerful effective strategy I know.
As I prayed Psalm 139 I began to understand that God created me with a love of learning, but sin had twisted it into a hurtful tool to protect myself. That A-Type personality also came from God to be used to administrate tasks and run an online ministry, but as I refused to forgive people in my life it became twisted and turned into a tool to drive people away.
I have written Psalm 139 as a prayer below. We can pray it Now and Know our Identity in Christ.
You have searched me and known me. You know when I sit down and when I get up; You even understand my thought from afar. You examine my life every day as I walk the path and lying down, And You are intimately acquainted with all my ways.
Before there is a word on my tongue, when it is still a thought in my mind, O Lord, You already know it all.
You have enclosed me behind and before And laid Your hand upon me. Such knowledge is too wonderful for me; It is too high, I cannot understand it.
Where can I go from Your Spirit Lord? Or where can I run from Your presence? If I climb as high as heaven, You are there; If I make my bed in the depths, You are even there. Should I take the wings of the dawn, dwell in the remotest part of the sea, Even there Your hand will lead me, And Your right hand will lay hold of me. Lord, even as I cry out, “Surely the darkness will overwhelm me, And the light around me will be night,” Even the darkness is not dark to You, And the night is as bright as the day. Darkness and light are alike to You – How can that be?
Lord, You formed my inward parts; You wove me together by hand within my mother’s womb. My life was planned and chosen by You.
I will give thanks to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Wonderful are Your works, And my soul knows it very well. Let me never forget that my frame was not hidden from You, When I was made in secret, And skillfully wrought in the depths of the earth; Your eyes have seen my unformed substance; And in Your book were all written The days that were ordained for me, When as yet there was not one of them. You know me, knew me and loved me in spite of all the mess of my life. Thank You!
How precious also are Your thoughts to me, O God! How infinite is the sum of them! If I tried to count them, they would outnumber the sand. When I awake, I am still with You. Praise You for never leaving me alone or forsaking me!
Search me, O God, and know my heart; Try me and know my anxious thoughts; And see if there be any hurtful way in me, And lead me in the everlasting way. Mold me more into Your image this day. Help me never forget Whose I am Father.
How do we live in and walk in our Identity in Christ and allow it to change our life?
Truths we can all hold onto about our Identity in Christ: God created me in His image, with a plan, and with a calling. I had allowed the hurts of my past to warp that identity and wasted years living in insecurity and fear of being hurt again.
God created you as well. He designed you, plotted out each and every part of your character and personality. There is a reason you are the way you are. Do you believe that? Ask Him to show you!
I love to use a Prayer journal when I pray. When I journal the prayers I get to mark answered prayers – which builds my faith so much! And Y’all, God will answer you. Write down the things He shows you He sees in you.
After God reveals our Identity as a child of His, a Princess of the King of kings, a co-heir with Christ who has access to every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places, we need to be reminded often.
The enemy wants to distract us and convince us that those are lies. he wants to throw our past and the mistakes and pain in our face to disqualify us from the calling Christ has on our lives. But Y’all, that snake was defeated over 2000 years ago and has no authority over you.
Anytime you start to doubt who you are and Whose you are, pray Psalm 139 again and be encouraged in God’s Love for you!
Tiffany has a passion to equip wives to do Marriage God’s way and inspire women to choose hope and Joy in Christ through every season by growing in faith.