Can you believe it’s time to plan for Valentine’s day already? Can I level with you? I am not a fan of this holiday. For so many years I struggled to feel loved or lovable… and this day was just one more thing to feed that fear and insecurity in my life!
For years, love was my goal in life – it was linked to happiness and fulfillment. I dreamed about it, sought it out and allowed it to guide my relationships! Yikes – how fast can you say toxic relationship target!?!?!?!
There was a crazy roller coaster of emotions when love was taken away and I wrestled with my identity.
That crazy cycle lead to a lot of hurt, resentment and bitterness. Can you relate? It really had me stuck in my walk with Christ. But I am living on the other side of Freedom now.
I’d love to share my story of Finding a Pathway to Forgiveness. It’s yours free!
Love -as an emotion- comes and goes.
How many times have you said the wrong thing and lost a friend? I can do the wrong thing and cool the Love in my marriage. Often my children scream “I don’t love you” through the house. LOL, there are even days my dog gets mad at me.
Chasing that emotional love left me giving up hope for any love.
How do we go from Emotional Love to True Love?
We have to change this Pattern! I am determined to get off this crazy Toxic Love cycle. Have you been following along with the series on 1 Corinthians 13?
In that amazing Chapter of the Bible – we Learned that Love (God’s kind of love) is a Verb – an action! This year I have determined to seek out and show that kind of action driven Love instead.
Seeking out a 1 Corinthians 13 Love – True Love in my marriage and Friendships – sent me in a direction I didn’t expect… though I should have!
Did you know God is the original Love?
This year as Valentine’s day approaches I am reminded that we were made in the image of God and the bible says “God is love” (1 John 4:16) so it is natural for us to seek True Love. Yea!!!!!! I’m not crazy!!!!!
We are all searching for True Love. What would our True love act and look like?
I don’t know about you, but I want my True Love to:
- Desire me
- Call me Beloved
- Choose me -even knowing my mess
- Take Pleasure in me
- Fight for me
- Forgive me when I mess up and not bring up my mistakes
The problem is – there isn’t a human alive that can live up to my list. Have you found one?
Human Love is only a temporary imitation of the real thing – God’s love is True Love!
God is the True Love we are searching for. Can we just bask in the One True Love for a moment?
- God’s love is unconditional – I can’t lose it!
- He loved us before we were born – fully knowing our mess
- God’s Love is given freely -to all – and can never be cooled or lost!!!!!!
- His love is so Big it covers all my mess.
True Love comes from God. Everything else falls short!
And if you ever doubt that God loves you… know that there are hundreds of verses where He tells us of His Faithful Love.
Here are 50+ verses that Prove God Loves You!
God loved us first – and longs for a relationship with us!
1 John 4:10 ~ In this is love, not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son to be the propitiation for our sins.
He showed His love by making a way for us to have a relationship (far better than any relationship we pursue here)!
Romans 5:8 ~ But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.
Because of God’s love we can have victory in life.
Nothing could ever take that Love away!!!!!!!
Romans 8: 37-39 ~ 37 But in all these things we overwhelmingly conquer through Him who loved us. 38 For I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, 39 nor height, nor depth, nor any other created thing, will be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.
God’s love is beautiful and Mysterious!
Zephaniah 3:17 ~ “The Lord your God is in your midst, A victorious warrior. He will exult over you with joy, He will be quiet in His love, He will rejoice over you with shouts of joy.
I love the way this verse shows God is our Mighty Warrior who sings over us in joy and is quiet about our mistakes in His love! That is my idea of True Love!
God uses loving Names for us
In several places He calls us beloved (See these 12 verses).
Deuteronomy 33:12 ~ “May the beloved of the Lord dwell in security by Him, Who shields him all the day, And he dwells between His shoulders.”
God Chose us – check out these 21 verses!
Colossians 3:12-13 ~ 12 So, as those who have been chosen of God, holy and beloved, put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience; 13 bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, whoever has a complaint against anyone; just as the Lord forgave you, so also should you.
God takes pleasure in us (Check out these 11 verses!).
Psalm 149:4 ~ For the Lord takes pleasure in His people; He will beautify the afflicted ones with salvation.
He delights in us (Check out these 17 verses!)
Psalm 18:19 ~ He brought me forth also into a broad place; He rescued me, because He delighted in me.
God’s love brings Blessings
In Deuteronomy He says our love is enough to bring his blessing (not only on us), but on a 1000 generations of our descendants!
Deuteronomy 7:9 ~ Know therefore that the Lord your God, He is God, the faithful God, who keeps His covenant and His lovingkindness to a thousandth generation with those who love Him and keep His commandments;
In countless other places we are told God provides for us, protects us, teaches us, comforts us and the list goes on and on.
God’s love is so big that we can’t get the full measure of it this side of glory!!!!!
Have you experienced this True Love? Do you know that you are Loved far beyond what you could ever ask for or imagine (Ephesians 3: 14-21)?!?!
Now that is a love to celebrate! That is the kind of love to shout from the roof tops! That is Amazing love and it has forever changed my life!
Oh I know what you’re thinking, “But Tiffany you said this was How to Find True Love. I have real physical needs and God can’t love that way.” I found something quirky and fun about God in Ezekiel 16:4-15 that speaks to that need. Click here to download this short devotional.
The devotional is an excerpt from my the Wives Only Marriage Course – Finding Hope and Joy in My Marriage
Who is this Marriage Course for?
- Are you a wife worried that your Christian Marriage is not going to survive?
- Do you feel hopeless, joyless or miserable in your Marriage?
- Are you a wife – unsure what your role is in your Christian Marriage?
- Do you struggle to connect as a couple anymore?
- Do you feel trapped?
- Have you tried everything and nothing has helped our Marriage?
- Are you thinking or talking about divorce?
Whatever season of Christian Marriage I find myself in, it seems easy to forget that God’s way and the Culture’s way are different.
Are you Ready for Radical Change in your Marriage?
That was me – just a few years ago. Stuck, Hopeless and Miserable with no idea how to change the course of our Christian Marriage. I had read every book I could find, went to retreats, counseling… and still, our Marriage was failing.
- We hit rock bottom.
- I got very real with God about my part in the Marriage.
- I found a Mentor I could trust.
- We worked through every issue in our marriage with an open Bible!
I found another way to do Marriage – a Radical Way – that changed our direction from divorce-bound to Hope and Joy filled.
You can have Hope and Joy in your Marriage too!
God has a way to do Marriage that brings Hope and Joy!!!!!!!!
In this 9 week Course, we will dig into the Bible and find a way to rebuild our Marriage to last a lifetime!
We have to stop looking for our True love in flawed human flesh and start looking to the Only One Who encompasses all that True Love is.
Happy Valentine’s day y’all!!!!!