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To the Wife Who Needs Security in a Christian Marriage

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I need security, stability, safety just as much as the air I breathe.  I expect security from my husband, Do you?  Today I stand before you (well I sit really) as a Christian Wife choosing Hope and Joy in every Season of Life (If that is you too come to join our FB Group).  But if I a am gut level honest I struggle to stay there.  I waffle back and forth between doubt and questioning, anxiety and complete surety, faith, and fear.

Today I want to share my heart – not a How To or even Practical Christian Marriage Advice, just my heart and something God shared with me this morning in my Quiet Time about Security in Marriage.

An Open Letter To the Wife Who Needs Security in a Christian Marriage

What are the basic needs in a Marriage?  His needs Her needs: Respect and Security are at the top of the list.  But I know my husband asks “How do I make my wife feel loved and secure?” “How do I make my wife feel needed?” and he struggles to find the answers.  LOL, It’s One thing to know what women want, but another thing to be able to meet that need.

One of my biggest needs as a Wife is security

No matter what season of Marriage we are in – a good marriage, a difficult marriage, It is hard not feeling secure in marriage.  Security is one of the biggest needs of a woman in Marriage.  The constant change of jobs and schedules, the struggle to pay bills, the pull of exhaustion from motherhood leaves me feeling insecure, unstable and afraid at times.  I need emotional security in Marriage and I give that back to God every morning asking Him to give me security in life and meet this need.  

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How strong is your Prayer Life?  Have you taken the challenge to become a Prayer Warrior Wife?

My prayer life has grown in boundless ways over the past decade not because I am some great mature Christian, but because my need for prayer has grown.  And God has been faithful to answer so many prayers it has convinced me to Keep Praying and not Quit.

What kind of things do you pray for every day?

Some of my daily Prayers:

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I pray through my list every morning giving my needs to God.  That time begins with thanking God for all the blessings (there are so many things God has answered), praying through my needs, then studying the word to hear from God directly.  Most days my Quiet time is routine.

Do you have a Quiet Time Routine?

My Quiet Time is part of my schedule.  At 6:30 every morning I sit with God to pray, praise, read and wait for Him to speak. If you meet with God daily and expect Him to speak He will Speak.

If you meet with God daily and expect Him to speak He will Speak. Click To Tweet

God will speak to you because God Loves You.

Today God spoke in such a powerful way about security that I had to share.

The study I am working through is so rich.  I highly recommend it for personal study or in a mentoring relationship – in fact, I plan to use it while mentoring my Tween soon.

Side By Side: 8 Conversations to Build Your Confidence in Christ by Jayme Lee Hull

Conversation 5: Where is God When I’m Exhausted? 

Bold Humility, Quiet Strength

As I worked through today’s page I was knocked speechless.  Jayme is working through the need to set boundaries, speak the truth in Love and Walk in our Calling even when it looks counter-cultural.  Then she lists this verse

Proverbs 1:33 “But he who listens to me shall live securely And will be at ease from the dread of evil.”

Today as I was crying out to God I again begged Him for Security.

God all the change in life is affecting my Anxeity, I am struggling to maintain sanity in life.  Bud is going to change jobs again which will change our family’s life again and bring a new schedule, change how much money there is…  I submit it to You but God I am weiry and tired of the change and the challenge.  Father, I Don’t know if I can do this again.  I need You.  

That is where I left our prayer time before opening up the study to listen to God speak.  As I read this verse (A verse I have read countless times before) It jumped off the page to me in a fresh new way.

Dear Wife, God is Your Security in the Chaos of Life Click To Tweet

This is what I heard from God about Security, stability, and safety and I pray it blesses you as well this morning.

You are worried about many things and I have heard your prayers.  Life will not be smooth, comfortable or easy for you because it was not for Me but I am with You.

You are praying for your husband and all the changes he is making and decisions he is facing and I have heard your prayers.  I am at work in His life and you can trust Me with Him.  The road to growing Him will not be easy, comfortable or stable because change doesn’t happen that way.  But you can Trust Me to keep you safe in the process.

Keep pressing into God and don’t quit when life gets hard

Pray and keep praying.  Listen for Me and keep listening.  Trust Me and keep Trusting.  Keep your eyes on Me in the chaos of Life and I will keep you Securely and give you security in Me.  I am the Rock you can trust not to Move.  If you trust Me I will be your hiding place from the storms and I can give you the rest you need.

Sweet Wife, you do not have to live in dread of the evil, the change, the chaos of life.  Trust Me, Listen to Me, Cast your every Care upon Me because I am security.

You are looking to your husband for security but he is not God and is not secure.  Your husband is human and fallible, set that expectation of security on God instead.  Security is one of the benefits of marriage the Culture sees – in fact, it’s a reason to get married for the culture but it’s not where your trust should be.  Let ME be your safety net, let ME be your strong Tower.  Come to ME when you are Weary and Heavy Laden and I will give you rest.

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Is God your Security?  

It doesn’t matter how far I think I have come in my faith, God is always showing me one more area He wants to grow.  I know I said this wouldn’t be a “How To” post or be filled with Practical Marriage Advice, but this is what God was speaking to me today.

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  1. Be Honest about the real needs in my life and marriage instead of being “Fine”
  2. Pray for my husband
  3. Pray for me, my needs and my struggles
  4. Have a Consistent Quiet Time every day that includes
    • Praise
    • Prayer
    • Bible Reading
    • Being Still to Hear God’s Voice
  5. Set my expectations on God instead of my husband (Read about that here as part of a Free Marriage Workshop)
  6. Keep my eyes on God when life gets hard
  7. Praise God for answers to Prayer
  8. Repeat

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Is this an area you are struggling?  I would love to Pray for you today.  Just Comment “I’m In” to join me in letting God meet my need for Security and I’ll be lifting you up today.

in HIM,

Tiffany Montgomery

Tiffany of Hope Joy in Christ inspires Christian Women to grow in faith, live out Biblical Marriage Principles and raise Godly Children.  Join the Wives Only Facebook Group here or keep up with her through Pinterest.

19 thoughts to “To the Wife Who Needs Security in a Christian Marriage”

  1. If we keep in mind that God is our provider rather than our husbands, we won’t feel as unstable when our husbands change jobs. I’m in the same situation. God is able to make things work out monetarily, even when we don’t know how the bills will be paid.

  2. Your post reminds me of the song, “In Christ Alone”… “In Christ alone my hope is found…”. Any time our hope is in something or someone other than Christ, we will be disappointed. He alone is the “hope that does not disappoint.”

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