Do you ever worry your kids will resent you when they are grown? Or well before that as the Teen years approach? I worry about that so much. It fuels so many of my nightmares as a woman of Faith striving toward Biblical Motherhood. I don’t want to force my faith on my kids… What I dream of is the day they own their own faith and walk in wisdom! But as we embrace this Tween age Season I fear it’s a pipe dream. Can you relate?
Sweet Momma’, There is Hope! We can win them over and avoid Resentment – but it requires a long game strategy.
Enter Mentoring instead of Mothering as my game plan
How many times has your Tween Girl moaned “My life is over” as she storms out of the room? Ahem… how many times today!?!?!?!?! 12 times today and it’s only 10 AM. We are in the transition from little to Tween. She needs a different parenting style from me in this more mature stage. I have to Move from girl mom to mentor.
Titus 2:3-5 Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good, so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored.
Parenting comes in seasons and stages
When they are babies they need us to do everything. But as they take each new step toward adulthood they need to learn how to do everything for themselves.
I don’t know about you, but I am trying to hang onto those moments where they need me. Those moments are few and far between as they stretch for Independence and it makes me both joyful and sad.
- Sad that the sweetness of innocence is gone.
- Joyful to see the beautiful young ladies God created to shine for Him!
It is my pleasure to be a guest for LikeMindedMusings in this #RaisingGodlyGirls series!
- When do we Move from Girl Mom to Mentor?
- What’s the Difference between Mothering and Mentoring your Tween Girl?
- The Best Way to Move from Girl Mom to Mentor
Girls Created to Shine is a Great Mentoring Tool for Tween Girl’s
Personally, I love a deep Beth Moore Bible Study, but my Tween girl cannot stay focused that long. She needs a quick win in her Bible study time.
Girls Created to Shine is Fun, Fast and Relevant to her world! We absolutely loved it!
Girls Created to Shine is not all teach-y-preachy but it does cover real topics that girls face in today’s world. You can take it at your own pace and drag it out over the course of a year if you meet monthly.
We plan 1 or 2 Mentoring dates – away from the house in a fun setting. She loves sitting down for ice cream or hot chocolate while we chat. I love walking through a park while we chat. Either way is lots of fun and non-threatening to her.
It is So important to pick a Non-Threatening setting and to keep a neutral posture if she wants to talk about hard things!
There are Fun Girl Activities in the study which have Biblical Application. My Tween Girl’s Favorites (which she still pulls out to do together) are Smoothie Recipes & How to Give a manicure!
The Study is easy to use and relevant to her world which made it a Win-win for us! I highly recommend you check it out if you are a girl mom with children age 8-adult!
Is your Tween girl ready to Move into a Mentoring Relationship with you?
I have a Printable to help you get started down that path! You will both be blessed (and it’s not complicated – promise you can do it and God will equip you!)!
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