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4 Reasons the World Needs Wives to Stop Being Fine


From the outside our marriage seemed like everything was fine.  It always does right?!?!?! 

I bet you know someone who is divorced and through the whole process you just shook your head.  She never mentioned they had problems.  He seemed to be just fine. 

You asked them every week “how are you?”.  “Fine.”  “I’m fine.” “We’re fine.” “Everythings fine.”

Hey, don’t get me wrong, sometimes things are fine…

But what do we say when things are not fine?

Do you have real – intimate – relationships where “I’m fine” just won’t cut it?

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Does anyone know the real you enough to ask deeper?

Our society tends toward the superficial so much so that “I’m fine” is the normal answer…  Even within the church.

That is the way of it.  


How I wish the church were a safe place to be real about our real – everyday – common – everybody – problems! 

We all:

  • fight sometimes
  • have good years, bad years and blah years
  • We all struggle with being sad sometimes
  • We all deal with loss and change and hurt and trials

But when we sit in the pews on Sunday we are “Fine”. 

So much in our lives – with in the church – could be healed, whole and holy if only we were honest about our struggles.

James 5:16 confess your sins. The effective prayer of a righteous man can accomplish much

There is healing in the confessing.  We can pray for each other when we are that transparent!

This is true in every relationship, but especially in a Christian Marriage.  Our Marriage should be a picture of Christ’s relationship with the body of Christ.  That marriage (and all it’s struggles) is about something bigger – it has a Kingdom purpose!

The World Needs Christian Wives to Stop Being Fine and be real

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There are at least 4 amazing Reasons to be real about our struggles as wives:

  1.  We are not the only one struggling in that area.
    • When we share, it frees others to be honest as well.
      • We can find help and healing together
  2. We are not the only one who has struggled in that area.
    • When we bring it to light -it allows others – farther along the journey -to speak life into our pain!
      • Healing comes when we are real – they won’t know to speak if we are “fine”.
  3. We are not the only one feeling like the only one struggling with it. 
    • It frees our spirit to know we are not as messed up and damaged as the enemy would have us believe! 
      • 1 Corinthians 10:13 (NASB) No temptation has overtaken you but such as is common to man; and God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will provide the way of escape also, so that you will be able to endure it.

      • We have to stop giving that slick snake space in our mind to lie to us Y’all!
  4. We are not alone in the struggling!  
    • Others would gladly walk with us
    • God is always walking with us
      • He longs to heal us and use our transparency and weakness to help others and be glorified in the light. 

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When we are real – we have a greater witness!

The world has real struggles too.  They need to see how Jesus can heal their hurts.  If we hide ours, they can’t see God healing us.

God can heal all those areas you struggle in.  Just like He can heal the struggles in the World.  Let’s live in the light so God can be Big in our lives and in the world around us!

So can I ask, Dear Wife, on this Marriage Monday How are you today?

Me…  today has been a good day, but many are not.  Pray for me as I pray for you.  God has this battle.  Be sure to give someone permission to ask deeper and not allow “I’m fine” to be the answer.

in HIM,


Tiffany Montgomery

Tiffany is a wife and mother who is passionate about Encouraging and Equipping Women through Biblical Discipleship.

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