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Perspective Shift: A New Way to Love in a Christian Marriage

How did we end up back in this place again?  Why did I say that to him – again!?!?!  I took the class, I listened to the preacher, we prayed – how can I break this cycle once and for all and have the happily ever after I dreamed of for my Christian Marriage?  Can you relate to that perspective?

The day I sat across from our pastor talking about how desperate I was to find a way to breath in our home is still fresh in my mind.  We had done counseling, read books, taken classes, talked until I was sick of the subject and even went to a last chance retreat.  Things seemed to work for the moment – but it was like a band aid after heart surgery.  Ya know what I mean?

Hubby and I have been through thick and thin.  We agreed Divorce would never be a word we would use, but that often felt like a death sentence in this failing marriage.

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A Christian Marriage was not a Fairy-tale

I was sure that when that man got saved – all our marriage problems would vanish over night.  They didn’t.  It took a while to realize Marriage was going to be the hardest work I’ve ever done.

After years of struggling I now have a handle on how to Thrive in this Married life.  In my search toward Finding Hope and Joy in my Marriage I learned that part of the problem was my Perspective.

Whew, that’s a $20 word isn’t it?!?!  Perspective is a new way to look at something.

2 Corinthians 4:18  We look not at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen; for the things which are seen are temporal, but the things which are not seen are eternal.

Gaining Perspective in a Christian Marriage

The problem was I had been trying to live like the wives around me in the culture.  What I needed was a complete change and a way to act like a wife living in a Biblical Worldview.

We talk about Worldview a lot when we think of evangelism.  We share Christ and live out the Gospel all of the world – both across oceans and across the street – but rarely in our own homes.  Or at least that was my story. 

You see, I treated people well, and people thought highly of me outside of my home.  But I was living inside of my home with hurt, un-forgiveness, and unrealistic expectations.  I didn’t know how to set those things aside and really love well.

Even with that perspective Shift I held onto all the bitterness and resentment from a lifetime of Not to Forgiving.

Until God stepped in and showed me the pathway to forgiveness – which lead to freedom!

Do you need a helping had along the Pathway to Forgiveness?  I’d love to share my story with you in this Free E-Challenge.

Loving my husband well required a Perspective Shift: It gave me A New Way to Love in a Christian Marriage

Proverbs 14:1 The wise woman builds her house, But the foolish tears it down with her own hands.

I had to stop trying to make my marriage into a Fairy-tale and live firmly in the reality that existed. The reality was ugly and filled with the sin of 2 imperfect humans.  Sin.  We both had a lot of sin to deal with, and yet I spent most of my day completely focused on my husbands sin – justifying my own.

The biggest Perspective Shift that changed everything in our Christian Marriage was Acceptance

I had to accept the man my husband was, while praying God would change him into the man he could be.  Acceptance meant I had some changing to do.

The important things to change were:

These and so many others are what healed my hopeless and burned out marriage.  Now we are in a place of Hope and Joy -in Christ alone– and It is my pleasure to Mentor other wives along the journey.

Are you longing for Hope and Joy in your Marriage?

God took me through a journey of re-learning how to live as a wife with a Biblical Worldview.  It is a joy for me to teach and mentor locally and I am thrilled to launch this Online Course.

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The Course is laid out in 9 Modules with a Video Lesson to introduce the topic and a downloadable workbook.

  • Inside the workbook are 5 days of work for you to do – just you and God.

We will walk through the topics of:

I can’t wait to see you in the classroom 😉 !

in HIM,

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Tiffany Montgomery

Tiffany of Hope Joy in Christ inspires Christian Women to grow in faith, live out Biblical Marriage Principles and raise Godly Children.  Join the Wives Only Facebook Group here or keep up with her through Pinterest.