This year I have been working through a question: “Why can’t I keep my Priorities straight?” Honestly, there are weeks (sometimes months/years) when I realize I was busy but I accomplished Nothing! I can’t remember the last time I had quality time with God. My kids are out of control. My relationship with my husband is growing distant. Anxiety rolls over my like a familiar friend.
But I am busy… so busy I could fall into bed each day completely spent. How on earth does that happen? Business is a strategy the enemy uses to keep me distracted from my true calling.
How can I Fight back? I mean, life is busy right?
This year God challenged me to look into the reasons I am so busy. I want to share them with you along with some ways I am working to change this pattern!
I have to learn to say NO.
My struggle is that I care about what people think of me. Whew, that is hard to say.
My 1st priority has not been to Love God. I am too busy pleasing people. God is teaching me that I have to be more concerned about what HE thinks of me than what others think of me.
I say “Yes” too quickly for a lot of reasons…
- I have a deep need to be needed.
- I want to feel like I accomplished something.
- I like to feel important.
- I don’t want to lose certain skill sets.
- I worry that no one else will step up.
- I fear that someone else will mess it up.
None of those are good reasons to say “Yes”. God has been showing me these truths and it hurts to see the mask I have been wearing.
I had to write down my priorities
It is easy to wander through life -from one task to the next- instead of being intentional with my life. In the past I had some goals, but I didn’t have a plan or a purpose to reach those goals.
So I began digging into the Bible to see if God had anything to say about that.
My priorities should be:
- God – Love with all my heart
- Husband – Respect
- Kids –Train up in the way they should go
- Calling – seek after the passion God has put in my heart
I am starting to examine every area of my busy life to be sure they reflect my priorities.
I am a little nervous about this process – as a people-pleaser I worry about stepping out of things – hurting people, losing the respect of those I respect, leaving someone in need because they needed me. Can you relate?
But if I don’t start living out my priorities I will never fulfill my calling… ha, until last year I didn’t even realize I had a calling. It is very motivating!!!!!!!!!
Slow down my Quiet Time
I know I Need to spend quality time in God’s word – asking Him to order my steps. But sometimes it feels like I’m only checking off something on my To-Do List.
I fall into that trap often. I know I am supposed to read my Bible, but it feels mechanical sometimes. It doesn’t always feel like a way to get to know Jesus and grow our Relationship.
I feel like I should do every bible study offered at church or I need to read through the entire Bible in a year. (Remember I struggle to say no… do you ever feel that way?)
When my quiet time is getting stale I’ve come to to notice the red flags:
- Being easily annoyed with others.
- Falling back into old sin habits.
- Not “feeling” close to God.
- Skipping days or weeks of quiet time.
I need to slow down.
I have to remind myself that my quiet time is between me and God! This is not a competition -with myself or others- about how much of the bible I read each day.
I try to be systematic about it:
- Read the verse.
- Look up parts of the verse I don’t understand.
- Find other verses that talk about the same topic.
- Pray through it
- Write the verse out.
- Pin the verse up so I can meditate on it throughout the day.
I struggle with distraction during my quiet time so I use a journal. I find that writing down what I learn helps me remember it longer and stay focused.
When I am doing that it is easier to fight the Busy Life Strategy the enemy wants to use. It is easier to stay focused on My Priorities in life!