In the last post we dug into ways to think on “what is true” and how Truth Leads to Peace of Mind. The next question is no less challenging. How can Honor lead to Peace of Mind?
“Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable…” (Philippians 4:8 NASB).
Is this thought Honorable? Think -Is it of the highest possible opinion of the person or situation? Worthy of respect?
Honor and respect are lost arts in our culture. I was always quick to criticize and spout off about whatever was on my mind -regardless of who I hurt in the process -and I hurt many.
In my broken anxious life I thought saying what was on my mind or “giving you a piece of my mind” would lead me to a place of peace. There may have been moments of “victory”, but it was never the peace I was looking for.
How do you think with honor?
- When someone has hurt me, I have to remind myself that they are not the sum of their mistakes. Just like I don’t want to be thought of by my mistakes (like the woman who always shrinks the socks… smh at my lack of domestic skills).
- I also try to think of others strengths rather than dwelling on their failures -remembering that we all fall sometimes.
- I think of the ways I have seen them grow and it reminds me that God is able to grow and mature them -without the “help” of my mouth (Ephesians 4:29).
Those are the steps I have found helpful in the normal -day to day -struggles.
Let’s be honest though, it can be challenging to think of others in honor when they are blinded by their own pain and lash out regularly (maybe they are immature, toxic, slow to grow or caught in addictions). They tend to be the people who keep hurting me -over and over again with the same crazy behavior.
- First let me say that the process of forgiveness is key here. And forgiving them does not always mean reconciliation, but it does create freedom for me to think of them in honor.
- Also, I am not suggesting you be naive to the faults that cause you harm. You need to be safe. I am talking about the things that are annoying to you, the things that go against your preferences, the unintentional things that can hurt, even the things that are intentional (there will be a time to talk about them and work through the hurt). Forgiveness is more about your freedom and peace of mind that it is theirs.
- Thinking of them in honor means that I have to take the high road and let God have my back. (And y’all, God has our back… especially if we have forgiven and are striving to think of them in honor -according to His will!!!!! Psalm 46:1-2)
- I will trust God to teach them and choose to think highly of them and pray for them anyway.
This is a slow methodical process, but peace has come as I have learned how to take those dishonoring, disrespectful thoughts captive and replace them with the verses above.
Let me know your thought in the comments section below.
Are there verses that help keep you centered in honor? I’d love to hear from you about it!
Ps… You are in the middle of a series on Peace of Mind. To read the first post, click here “A Piece of my Mind or Peace of Mind”
See you next time to dig into what is “right” 😉