Lost. Totally lost. Have you ever lost something dear to you and thought ‘I’ve got to find this’ followed by ‘just show up, please’?
You look high and low – then look again, retracing every step and picking up every piece of paper in your path. Yet you are disappointed, distraught and even disgusted with yourself (or whomever!) for losing that precious thing in the first place.
Yea, me too. (My name is Susan B Mead)
My husband’s wedding ring seemed to be missing – again. Not the first time this year, but the second time, his wedding band was MIA. We are wedded, yet I was deeply wounded by this loss. A gulf emerged, separating the two of us.
Anger hurt, and dismay warred within me.
He remembers his watch, yet forgets (has lost) ME echoed in my head. Silly, I know, yet in my mind, when he removes his wedding ring it seems to distance his heart from mine too.
Anybody else dealt with similar thoughts and feelings, for whatever reason?
Was I out of my mind to think like this? Holt loves me – and was distraught at the lost ring – his loss. With so much emotion at play, I had to decide to walk in wisdom. Emotionally rocked is a vulnerable place – and I do not want to put my marriage on the rocks!
Would I wind up words, hurl them, hurt him-& our marriage–over a thing–his lost ring?
Or would I line up beside him, raising hands and praising God for His faithfulness?
1 Peter 5:8-10 Be of sober spirit, be on the alert. Your adversary, the devil, prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour. But resist him, firm in your faith, knowing that the same experiences of suffering are being accomplished by your brethren who are in the world. After you have suffered for a little while, the God of all grace, who called you to His eternal glory in Christ, will Himself perfect, confirm, strengthen andestablish you.
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Does a lost thing – a ring – really matter?
There’s a better question – where is my treasure? Is My Treasure in Heaven?
Matthew 6:19-21 (NIV) “Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moths and vermin destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moths and vermin do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.
Truth hit me – square in the face.
This is exactly where the enemy wants me – and you – to be – warring with our husbands – for whatever reason. We must choose to build bridges built on love, trust, and hope with the mighty hand of God guiding us.
So we looked again, thinking ‘just show up, please’. Seemed like nothing – except prayer and praise – would raise this thing!
God knocked on my heart early, so up I got out of bed and down I sat to read His Word and pray His will – with a special prayer raised for revealing the wedding ring, restoring the thing that symbolizes my husband’s commitment to our marriage.
Please let it show up and be found, God, I prayed.
Knock, knock, Holt, rapped on my door, something he seldom does when I pray. He just showed up at the door, raised his hand, revealing his ring, restored to its rightful place!
You know what he said?
“I found it. It just showed up on the top of my dresser, in plain sight.”
Thank You, Lord. Of course, it did!
Isaiah 30:18 Therefore the Lord longs to be gracious to you, And therefore He waits on high to have compassion on you. For the Lord is a God of justice; How blessed are all those who long for Him.
Praise God! As I reflect, I see that only You, God, place lost things in plain sight – when we just show up in prayer and praise, trusting You to rise up when we need You.
Our Faithful God Restores Lost Things. Even a Marriage that seems too far gone can be restored by His Grace.
Having lost a son, a sister, a dream and her peace, Susan now lives on mission to help others rebound from personal loss, trauma or difficult seasons in life. In her vibrant up-close-and-personal style, Susan freely shares how her encounters with God, in the midst of gut-wrenching grief, led her to a deeper, more intimate relationship with Him. Susan helps women:
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Having lost a son, a sister, a dream and her peace, Susan now lives on mission to help others rebound from personal loss, trauma or difficult seasons in life.
In her vibrant up-close-and-personal style, Susan freely shares how her encounters with God, in the midst of gut-wrenching grief, led her to a deeper, more intimate relationship with Him.
Susan helps women: