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7 Practical Ways to Reclaim Hope and Joy in Your Marriage

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It’s no surprise that traditional marriage is under attack. We see it in the statistics, the media, with our circle of friends and in our own Marriages. When something is being attacked, there are two choices. We either sit still or choose to fight back.

If you are reading this, you are a fighter. And that my friend is good news!

Fighting to reclaim hope and joy in marriage requires a strategy. We need to be intentional in our steps and deliberate in our actions. I know it doesn’t sound romantic, but I promise there is so much beautiful fruit in it!

Today let’s look at 7 practical ways to reclaim hope and joy in your marriage!

7 Practical Ways to Reclaim Hope and Joy in Your Marriage Like Minded Musings

Pray For Your Marriage

Friends we have to start with prayer. Just as Paul encouraged the Ephesians to use prayer as a weapon in spiritual battles we should too!

praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, being watchful to this end with all perseverance and supplication for all the saints. Ephesians 6:18

Praying for our hearts, our husbands and our marriages helps keep our focus on truth and gives us His strength. When dealing with each other’s sinful human nature day in and day out is there any other way? God can lead, guide and encourage us in prayer. He is so gracious and compassionate when we turn to Him with our hurts and frustrations. Praying without out ceasing is necessary in marriage.

Do you need some encouragement to keep pressing into that Daily Commitment to your Marriage?   We could all use a community to help us in Reclaiming Hope & Joy in our marriages!

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Prefer Him

Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves. Romans 12:10

What does it mean to prefer our husbands?

Prefer: to like better or best: to give priority

If we are going to prefer our husbands we give him a place of priority in our lives. This right after our relationship with the Lord of course 🙂

It can be so hard when we have the kids, our homes, homeschool, work or ministry pulling us in all directions! But this is a battle, right? We can intentionally choose to do the little things to put him first!

Here are some ideas:

  • Greet him when he comes home.
  • Teach the kids to wait patiently if you are in a conversation with him. Teach them to honor their Father in all.
  • Schedule a date together {if this season is a crazy mess read this}
  • Prioritize intimacy
  • Put down your phone
  • Pray together

Be a Student of Your Husband

And let us consider one another in order to stir up love and good works. Hebrews 10:24

Remember when you first met your husband? When there was so much to learn and you were genuinely interested in the stories he told? You asked questions, tried different things and learned all about him! That can’t just stop there. No matter how many years you have put in your marriage you can still learn about your husband. Pay attention to his new interests and hobbies and ask him questions about them. Or, learn more about or join him in his old ones!

Spend time really listening to him. Understand his pain points. This will help you in the next area I will share 🙂 Study his love languages and learn ideas of how to speak it. The longer you’re married the more opportunity you have to get to know his heart and his preferences. This can give you great insight into how to pray for him and how to encourage him!

Show Your Husband Respect

However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. Ephesians 5:33

It is incredibly important we learn how to respect our husbands, so many things flow from it. We can choose to respect our husbands even when we don’t feel like it, or when they don’t even deserve it! Affirming his decisions with “I respect that you…” is never a wrong way to go. They don’t hear it enough and it is something they all crave.

You can show him respect by honoring him in front of the kids, by speaking well of him to others or by looking for the good things he does when you are completely frustrated with something he’s not doing! And of course in taking all to prayer and not nagging. It’s amazing what God can do in their hearts when we get out of the way!

Words of Affirmation (admiration and appreciation) and prayer are 2 of the biggest things that healed our broken Marriage.

Love Notes to Appreciate your Husband - words of appreciation cards printable pack Our words have the power to bring life or death in a Christian Marriage. It can be hard to find the right words to encourage our Husband. It's easy to point our the negative, but sometimes we need a little help finding the words to build him up.

Check out these Words of Affirmation Cards in my shop, print them out, commit to pray over them and give one per week to your husband for the next year.  You will build him up and create momentum for real change in his life!

Serve Him

Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. Ephesians 5:22

It’s very likely you’re thinking “I already serve my husband”. That is probably true! But in the day to day caretaking, helping and homemaking, have you taken time out to notice how he likes to be served? What about serving his favorite meal, having coffee ready in the morning or packing him a lunch (with a love note of course).

Or maybe he has a different preference in prioritizing cleanliness. Let’s say you need a clean kitchen and he really prefers the living room picked up so he can sit down and relax after work. If you are having one of those days, and can only do one of those what will you choose? It would serve him better to clean up the living room. There are many possibilities to serve our husbands in a unique and personalized ways.

Oh yes, and serving him in prayer by asking how you can pray for him is the best form of service I can think of!

Encourage Your Husband

Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing. 1 Thessalonians 5:11

We all need encouragement, don’t we?! What better place for our husbands to be built up than at home by their wives. This can be hard for some and easier for others, but we all are commanded to do it. If you are struggling for ideas Pinterest is great for this! Here are just a few of the “regulars” I use:

  • Speak kind words.
  • Praise his character in a sincere way.
  • Notice the little things and say thank you.
  • Send encouraging texts.
  • Leave random love notes.
  • Speak his love language.

A little bit of encouragement can go a long way in a marriage. Pay attention and be intentional. It will bless both you and him!

Love Him

Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins. 1 Peter 4:8

Love him. All the ways above speak to this. Yes, we know we should show our husbands love. But we have to continue to choose love. We are not promised that marriage will go as we plan or even hope. There are certainly going to be days (or much longer) where we don’t feel loved or feel like loving them. At times, we have had to choose to love each other even though we didn’t like each other. We must to the hard heart work to continue to choose to love, through heartache and pain.

But here is where the beauty lies. When we choose to love them anyway, with God’s kind of agape love, we take our marriage to a whole other level.

Agape love is unconditional, selfless and doesn’t change. It is a choice first, an act of the will. It is not based on emotions. When we continually choose to love our husbands- no matter their response to us, we are reflecting the love of God given to us!

We can rest in God’s love. Feel peace despite the turmoil in our marriages. We can trust that God is working all things out for those who love him. This kind of love is the love that will help us to reclaim the hope and joy in our marriage! 

But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. Romans 5:8

I’ve created a set of bookmarks to help us remember these 7 steps!

You can sign up here and download them from our Private FREEBIES Hub and print! Place them in your Bible or Prayer Journal to refer to for encouragement to keep fighting for Hope and Joy in Your Marriage!

It’s your turn! I would love to hear what practical ways you reclaim hope and joy in your marriage! Share in the comments below!

Talk to you soon!

Lee Felix

Lee Felix of Like Minded Musings is a Faith-Based Blogger, Lifetime Encourager, and Avoider of Smalltalk. She's Redeemed Daily by Christ, a Wife of 19 yrs, Mom to 5 Treasures and Unexpected Homeschooler. She would love to encourage you in the journey through imperfect yet intentional parenting in her private Facebook Community. Lee has a Passion to Encourage and Equip Christian Women and Tweens to Embrace the Imperfect and Radiate Christ!

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