What was the last act of romance between you and your spouse? Romance can be so many things for so many people – isn’t that funny? We all look at that word in a different way. Some with awe and reverence, some with disdain and doubt. But as wives, we know it’s value.
Romance is a key ingredient in a strong thriving Marriage.
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When there have been long periods of time without it, the intimacy fades and with it our Joy. We must be intentional to keep the romance alive if we hope to Reclaim Joy in a Christian Marriage. Today Natalie Guy is going to share 10 Ways to keep Romance alive in a Christian Marriage and Why that is so important!
“Marriage is a mosaic you build with your spouse—millions of tiny moments that create your love story.” Jennifer Smith
Keeping Romance alive in your marriage is something not talked about enough.
After a period of time in a relationship, it seems the spark fades and boredom or discontent sets in. A way to reclaim joy and excitement in your Christian Marriage is to create a more romantic marriage.
“I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine.” Song of Solomon 6:3 ESV
According to the Oxford dictionary, romance is “a feeling of excitement and mystery associated with love.” Often, people associate romance with the dating period and with newlyweds, but why shouldn’t romance last the lifetime of marriage? It is a critical element for keeping the fire going in a relationship, and I would argue that most all want to keep their love alive. Romance is the heartbeat of a marriage.
“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.” Mignon McLaughlin
Romance is the outward expression of your faithful love to one another.
This aspect of love brings joy to both in a Christian Marriage and makes you feel special. We want passion to continue past the dating and newlywed phase! It requires a commitment to being intentional.
“God’s purpose for marriage is for a husband and wife to experience a love relationship, where they passionately pursue each other daily, where the ups and downs draw them closer together, a place where true intimacy thrives.” Wife After God: Drawing Closer to God & Your Husband by Jennifer Smith
10 Ways to Keep the Spark of Romance alive and Reclaim Joy in a Christian Marriage!
- Words of affirmation
- Buy your spouse an unexpected gift
- It can be a little present or something you know he/she has wanted for a while.
- Feed your husband or wife chocolate covered strawberries.
- On ten different sticky notes, write one aspect you love about your spouse and leave the notes in various places.
- Leave a sexy message on your husband/ wife’s voicemail.
- Plan a romantic dinner out or at home.
- Write a love note on the bathroom mirror using a dry erase marker.
- Offer to give a foot or back massage.
- Organize a mystery date and whisk your spouse away for the day.
- Compliment your spouse in front of others- family, friends, coworkers, at church, etc.
“All of me loves all of you. Love your curves and all your edges; all your perfect imperfections. Give your all to me. I’ll give my all to you.” “All of Me” by John Legend
Find out what your mate thinks is mysterious and exciting. Just ask them! Then, be sure to follow through with some of the ideas. You will see Joy come back marriage and it will be the better for it!
There is so much truth packed into this article Natalie! Thank you for sharing those 10 Ways to Keep the Spark of Romance alive and Reclaim Joy in a Christian Marriage!
Natalie quoted from Jennifer Smiths Wife After God study several times.
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Natalie Guy loves to feed people (and she thinks that should be the sixth Love Language!) She also loves teaching, whether it is in the classroom, in her home, for women’s events, or in the kitchen. She writes on her blog Everyday Natalie and loves to encourage your soul in the daily pursuit of God using anecdotes about life, faith, food, and friendship. Natalie has been married for 29 years to her husband Tony, who has spent much of that time in pastoral ministry and it’s been Natalie’s joy to serve couples and families with him. She and Tony have three grown children. You can connect with Natalie at her blog, or on Instagram @everyday.natalie, as well as on Facebook.