This month I am so excited to be part of an Amazing group of bloggers sharing their best Ideas for 30 days of Random Acts of Kindness. This is a snippet of my Guest Post: Cure Spoiled Kids with Random Acts of Kindness.
Next week I’ll finish the story and share some fun pictures of the kids through this process!
“That’s mine”, “I had it first”, “It’s my turn now”! Have you found a cure for spoiled kids? I’m still searching myself.
Parenting is hard y’all.
Wisdom says “Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart form it”. But no one told my spoiled kids that they should go in the way I am training them!!!!!!!
I often wonder what I am doing wrong. Do you ever wonder that?
Just a side note:
I am the youngest of 4 in a typical American dysfunctional family. We are a his, hers and theirs family. Of the 4, 0 of us are on the life path my parents envisioned. LOL (kisses to any family reading this!)
I can picture my mother crying some nights ‘What happened’!?!?!?
Now, I am not one to lay blame – So I won’t. I will say my parents did the best they knew how to do. They told us the right way to do things, while struggling to figure out how to live it in that season themselves.
It can be hard to figure out how to raise these Little Blessings well!
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Fast forward… an undisclosed number of years ???? and I am a parent who can appreciate what my parents were up against. Raise your hand if you appreciate the struggles your parents had – now that you are a parent!
But that still leaves me in this uncomfortable unknown place.
What can I do differently to be sure that these Little blessings grow up the way I am training them?
I mean, I do not want to launch spoiled rotten little brats into the world!
I needed to ask some long game questions:
- What character traits do I want them to have as adults?
- How can I be sure there are heart deep behavior habits?
But of course, parenting rarely goes as planned! I have to be very intentional about this – even in the way I pray!
So I tell them to share, be kind, behave, use gracious words, show respect, etc. But they don’t. Let me clarify. They know how to do all the above and they choose to behave these ways in public most of the time. But when we are at home… no deal. Why not?
Well, can I be honest with you? At home is when I am my most real self. I let down my walls and my smile takes a break. I do not always act the way I want my children to act.
They see the 2-face in me. And they imitate it.
I feel that shame… Those little blessings know how to push all my buttons and I often react badly. But I found several things to fight back against the shame and selfishness in me that leads to their acting spoiled and selfish.
Read the about the 3 steps that helped change me and my spoiled kids at wondermomwannabe.com : Cure Spoiled Kids With Random Acts of Kindness.