Do you love Mother’s Day? The celebration of it, the cards and gatherings… Some do, but every woman does not love Mother’s Day. I used to be one of them. I am not a Mother’s Day fan… I’d like to share a bit of my story and hope that it will bless you if you.
I am a Mother. Shouldn’t I love Mothers day?
God has blessed us with 2 little blessings and I love -that on this one day – they are reminded to honor me… but the word of God tells us to honor our parents each day so I have mixed feelings about the Holiday.
Can I take off my mask and share my heart with you? My real heart?!?
My youth was a mess filled with sin and pain. At the age of 15 I miscarried my first child. Afterward, the doctor sat me down for a good ‘talking to’ and explained my future. “There is something wrong with you” still echo’s in my mind. “It is likely that you will…
Never have children…”
That day marked the beginning of many dark years in my life. I would never be a mother – all my dreams crushed with that one sentence.
The enemy began to whisper lies – lies I believed. I was damaged… broken… not good enough to be a mother. Life seemed hopeless – a bleak future stretch out before me. My life would be meaningless, loveless and hopeless… until I died (and I prayed for death daily).
Proverbs 13:12 Hope Deferred makes he heart sick, but desire fulfilled is a tree of life.
The “diagnosis” was paired with many harsh “Word’s” from well meaning adults in my life.
“Gods calling on your life may not include motherhood” they suggested.
“You are blessed to have lost that child. It would have ruined your life,” they assured.
I crashed into depression – shunning anything and everything that had to do with children (still a child myself).
My relationship with my mother was broken. She did the best should could with me, but I was a handful and she was in a place of brokenness herself.
God has restored my relationship with my mother, but it was hard to learn to Forgive. God had to take me on a journey to find a Pathway to Forgiveness. That Pathway leads to Freedom.
That was the start of my dislike for Mother’s Day.
Every year on Mother’s Day I sat in bitterness at church. Unexpectedly I had company. It seems many women struggle with Mother’s day. Women who:
- Never had children
- Lost children
- Who’s children had grown distant
- Had a difficult relationship with their living mother
- Who had lost their mother
For many of us Mother’s day was and is a challenge. I was blessed by these women who walked with me through my dark time.
They encouraged me to stop living in the brokenness of lost dreams.
They encouraged me with scripture and it changed me. May I bless you with those verses?
God Chose you!
John 15:16 “You did not choose Me but I chose you, and appointed you that you would go and bear fruit…
God placed a real calling on your life
2 Timothy 1:9 “Who has saved us and called us with a holy calling, not according to our works, but according to His own purpose and grace which was granted us in Christ Jesus from all eternity”
One of those callings is to make disciples as you are going about your daily life -that doesn’t have to be in your home (though it may be) it could be a work or in school… wherever you are!
There can be a Spiritual Mother’s Day in your future!
Paul, a single man without children calls us to pass on what we have learned. Timothy was his son in the faith. Paul mentored Timothy and poured life into him – and he challenges us to do the same.
2 Timothy 2:2
The things you have heard form me in the presence of many witnesses, entrust these to faithful men (women) who will be able to teach others also.’
Paul instructs us to encourage others in the faith. It can be so challenging to live a life of discipleship
. We need spiritual mothers to help guide us and encourage us so we do not loose heart.
Do you have a Spiritual Mother?
I have had many! They encouraged me early on to have a Paul in my life and to be a Paul in someone’s life. There are women younger in their faith that need encouragement.
Go out and be a Mother to someone… you will find it blesses you beyond measure and helps ease the hurt!
God’s had a plan… though I didn’t understand it 20 years ago. I wish I could wrap my arms around that 15 year old girl and tell her God loved her, she wasn’t broken and shouldn’t live her life hopelessly… but I can’t go back. All I can do is tell you.
God loves you. Goes has a plan for your life and you can trust Him.
You. Are. Not. Broken.
There is hope in Jesus Christ that can cover all the hurt. So many years ago I chose that as my name.. my calling…… Hope Joy in Christ. It can be yours!