I love homeschooling our little blessings, but that was not our original plan.
What!?!?!?!? Are you shocked it wasn’t our 1st choice?!?! Let me Tell you why.
Growing up my parents chose to pull my oldest brother out of public school. I know that was not her original plan either, but it was what was best for our family. My brother was dyslexic and had been pushed aside to an LD class where he was not being adequately educated.
I was 6 years younger and watched in awe as my mom added teacher to her already full plate. She amazes me that way often!
- Her Homeschooling why was clear.
- Her motivation was solid.
- She did an amazing job!
My only regret was our isolation. Our family had a some dysfunction (don’t we all!) and looking back I see why we were isolated. It was not a product of homeschooling, rather a product of individuality and fear.
It affected my social skills… I know I know- I hear from many who are against Homeschooling… it was related, but not related to our Homeschooling status (I’ll get into that in a sec).
When our life changed and I was forced into Public School I was not ready to relate to my peers.
I related better to the teachers… which led to lots of social trouble.
I didn’t actually catch up socially until College… 5 years learning curve doesn’t seem too bad, but it was hard.
What Factors Helped Us Decide to Homeschool?
When B and I had kids I didn’t want to homeschool.
I felt like we had solid reasons for that choice, but God changed my mind about the biggest two reasons not to homeschool
1. My Career
I wanted a career, had worked hard to progress in my career and didn’t want to loose what I had worked for!
When our youngest was born I felt the call to quit that career and become a Full Time Stay at Home Mother. That was a leap of faith that God has blessed beyond measure. My Career was no longer a priority.
2. Homeschooling Places Demands on Marriage
I knew the demands involved in homeschooling would put a strain on our marriage.
My parents are divorced. I didn’t want that for our family. Homeschooling was one factor in the bigger picture of that divorce.
We further justified our choice against homeschooling by saying we wanted a “normal life” for our kiddo’s.
- I truly believed the Public school system could educate them well.
- We also assumed we could supplement anything they missed along the way.
That paired with the strain homeschooling put on my parents’ marriage created a fear in me.
- I didn’t want to repeat their mistake.
- The stress of planning and doing all that is involved in education is real and can really affect families badly if not handled with care.
To overcome our second objection we would have to both agree and make serious plans to keep our marriage healthy.
We weren’t ready for that.
Why We Chose Homeschooling
What Changed to make us choose homeschooling despite the objections?
As our oldest daughter neared the age of school there was an elementary school shooting. I panicked.
To complicate things, we began to see special needs in our youngest daughter. It seemed I would be at home a few more years.
We talked and talked about all these things and in the end decided to start homeschooling with the intent to send them to public school when it felt right.
Fear of Homeschooling
I started homeschooling out of fear! Fear that:
- Someone might walk into a public place and shoot my little blessings
- Our special little blessing would not be adequately educated
- These little blessings would be negatively influenced by a secular culture
- We would lose influence over them and watch them become statistics
Fear is not a good Why.
It was however what initially motivated us and within the first year I found the real Why.
Why I Love Homeschooling our Children:
I know what they are learning so we can reinforce those concepts throughout our day.
Love of Learning:
I can tailor our curriculum around my child’s learning style. I can make it fun for them – helping my child become a lifetime learning – a lover of learning.
Time with my kiddo’s:
It takes significantly less time to teach my own children than they would be in public school. We use that time for playing, serving, exploring the world around us, and connecting as a family
It is my responsibility to teach my children about every area of life. I take the Call To Make Disciples of All the Nations seriously and that this begins with my Children . Homeschool allows me to do this naturally in our daily conversations. I get to plan things and teach the things they are ready for. Most significantly I get to be present when they are thinking aloud about other things. I get to help them work through things and work out their faith.
“Go therefore and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I commanded you; and lo, I am with you always, even to the end of the age.” (Matthew 28:19-20
Knowing Your Why To Enjoy Homeschooling
Knowing my why makes all the difference in our Homeschooling Adventure.
There are days I have had it up to the top with temper tantrums and noise…
There are days I want to quit.
Homeschooling takes a lot of discipline, consistency, and planning.
Homeschooling is not for the Faint of Heart.
But the return is worth it.
I wouldn’t change this path in our family. It is a part of what God has called me to do. He has re-affirmed this in our time this year as a Priority in my life.
This is on my mind because it’s July. July is my time to plan and prepare our next years curriculum.I hope to share several things with you that make that work for us with several grades. I hope they help you and encourage you if this is also your calling and priority in life.
Tiffany of Hope Joy in Christ inspires Christian Women to grow in faith, live out Biblical Marriage Principles and raise Godly Children. Join the Wives Only Facebook Group here or keep up with her through Pinterest.
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