Less Gossip Leads to Peace of Mind [Peace Series Philippians 4:8]

Less Gossip Leads to Peace of Mind

Each new day we get a fresh start, a do over, a chance to make today better than yesterday.    I don’t know about you, but I could use a do over today.  Why is it that Gossip is still something that lives and breaths in my life?!?!?

It is a daily challenge to align my thinking to Philippians 4:8.  Some days I wallow in negative/anxious thinking.  The problem with letting my thoughts run wild is that they eventually come out of my mouth and hurt the people I love.

I think of my “do over” as a “Thought life Make Over”!

Out with the old that didn’t work yesterday; emotional thoughts, low road thoughts, vengeful thoughts, impure thoughts, me centered thoughts.

In with the new for a good today; thoughts that honor God, lead to Peace of Mind and leave my mouth in a way that encourage others.

Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute…” (Philippians 4:8 NASB).

Less Gossip Leads to Peace of Mind [Peace Series Philippians 4:8]

Is this thought of Good Repute or is it Gossip? 

“Good Repute” means ‘kind’ or ‘of a good report like a true friend’.

You might try “Is this thought gossip?”

Define Gossip

Gossip ruins friendships.  I have to be sure that if someone tells me something in confidence, I can be trusted with it (Proverbs 11:13).

If this thought left my mouth, would I wound that friendship?

If it would hurt them or make them think twice before confiding in me again, it is not of good repute.

I have to take hold of that thought and push it out of my mind so that it will not eventually come out of my mouth.

When is it most likely to come out of my mouth?  

Honestly.Philippians 2 3 4 Do nothing from selfishness..

I am most tempted to share something when it could impress others, make me look important, make others sympathize with me or prove a point.

This verse could easily read “Don’t try to get ahead by hurting someone else.”

I have messed up on this one; hurt people to climb the ladder, used others trying to impress people… even by sharing them as “prayer requests”.  (This is gossip if it was shared confidentially!)

I may look good in that moment, but when life get’s hard, I will no longer be trusted… not by the person I betrayed or by the people who heard me.

Learning to stand on my own merit and experience required a change of thinking.

 

Now, when someone trusts me enough to share something sensitive I try to:

  • Pray for them in that moment and in my quiet time -just me a God (Matthew 18: 19-20).

 

 

  • Do not share even a hint of the situation unless they ask me to.

 

I am tempted in conversations that “speculate” about the situation.  This is my struggle, but am actively working on it!

I try saying:

  • “This sounds like gossip and I don’t like the direction it is going.”
  • “I can’t really say what is happening, let’s go talk to ‘so and so’ about it”
  • “Have you asked ‘so and so’ directly, they would be the one to know?”

Thinking thoughts that are of “Good Repute” is not my natural way to think, but when I do, I am less likely to speak badly and I have Peace of Mind about that!

in HIM,

Tiffany

Let me know your thought in the comments section below.

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Ps… You are in the middle of a series on Peace of Mind.  To read the first post, click here “A Piece of my Mind or Peace of Mind

See you next time to dig into what is “Excellent” 😉

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      Hope that is helpful,
      Tiffany

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      Tiffany

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    1. Thanks for that. I am just starting out as a blogger and I found it is so much fun (the writing, not the technical stuff- that actually hurts my head!) But I am glad you enjoyed it! If you want to be sure not to miss a post, subscribe on this page. I try to post 2 times per week and this will send them direct to your email :o)

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  4. When I originally commented I seem to have
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    1. oh no, sorry for that. I’ll see if I can fix it. Let me know if you still gt that!
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    1. Lucia,
      Yo solo hablo un poco de español. Lo siento, pero no entiendo su comentario.
      Gloria a Jesús solo,
      Tiffany

  6. When I originally commented I clicked the “Notify me when new comments are added” checkbox and now
    each time a comment is added I get three e-mails with the same comment.

    Is there any way you can remove people from that service?
    Many thanks!

    1. I have been searching and searching for the answer and finally found it. Follow this link. https://subscribe.wordpress.com/ you should see |Sites| Comments| Settings| You can unsubscribe under the comments.

      In my newness I didn’t even realize there was an option to subscribe to comments. I have found it in the code and removed that option on my page so it wont happen to anyone else.

      Please let me know if that doesn’t help. I am also disabling comments to this post because it is getting so much spam. Please email me directly to let me know if this doesn’t fix the problem. I know it can be frustrating getting spam in your email!

      in HIM,
      Tiffany (tiffanymontgomery@hopejoyinchrist.com)

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