Do you have joy in your life? How about in your Marriage? That’s a tough question, isn’t it? I mean what is it really? Do I really need Joy in a Christian Marriage? How do I get it back? When did I lose it? Does it matter?
Maybe it’s just me, with mom’s brain, after countless times watching Inside Out but all I visualize when I hear Joy is a petite energetic yellow girl with blue hair.
In the movie, Joy is optimistic, bubbly, full or creative ideas and inventive ways to fix bad situations. She refuses to give in to the reality others see around her. She found a way where there seemed to be no way and inspired others to follow her lead – even when she was scared stiff.
I love the simplicity of movies like that. They take complicated emotions and whittle them down to something I can wrap my mind around.
Being Joyful is easy when we are children. I watch my kids play, laugh and run without a care in the world. There are days I envy them that naive Joyfulness.
Adult life gets hard, Marriage is complicated and I can relate to fear and disgust more. Can you relate?
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What is Joy?
Merriam Webster defines Joy as the emotion evoked by well-being, success, or good fortune or by the prospect of possessing what one desires…
Is it an emotion? So says Merriam Webster… but I disagree. Brave right? Disagree with the dictionary – who does she think she is?!?!?! I tend to look at life from a Biblical perspective or Biblical Worldview.
The Bible Tells us to Count it All Joy when we face Trials (James 1: 2-3).
Raise your hand if trials evoke a feeling of success or good fortune. Anyone at all?
I mean, we can spin it if we work hard. Trials build character and prove our faith so there is the prospect of possessing what one desires… but that is a reach to lead to the emotion of Joy.
Let’s go out on a limb and say the cultural definition is skewed. Can you go with me here for a second?
What if Joy is not an emotion?
Happiness is an emotion and I believe it fits the definition above. But this comes from something more concrete and reliable than emotion.
We need to redefine Biblical Joy – to understand how it applies to a Christian Marriage and why it is so important.
Biblical Joy is:
- A Spiritual Gift – Galatians 5:22
- Found in God’s Presence – 1 Chronicles 16:27
- A State of being we reach as believers when we fix our eyes on Jesus – Luke 6:22-23
- An Expression of Worship – Psalm 47:1
- The result of a heart confident in God – Ecclesiastes 9:7 & Psalm 28:7
- A result of the Hope of eternity with God – 1 Peter 1:8-9
- Strength the Lord gives even in trials – Nehemiah 8:10 & 1 Peter 1:6-8
- A refreshing from love – Philemon 1:7
- It is not conditional but everlasting for Christians – Isaiah 35:10
- A Character Trait of Jesus as he endured the Cross – Hebrews 12:2
- It comes when we seek refuge in God in every season – Psalm 34:8
- Obedience to God’s ways bring Joy – Psalm 19:8 & Psalm 119:1-3
- Joy is possible in the deepest grief – Psalm 30:11 & Psalm 126:5 & 2 Corinthians 6:10
Biblical Joy is an amazing gift that equips us to shine light into this dark world. When life gets hard we have a helper living inside us to help us stay strong and endure.
We Need to Reclaim Joy in a Christian Marriage
Marriage goes through seasons whether it is a Christian Marriage or not. If we neglect the Joy part of Christianity and life and love – we will not withstand when Hard Seasons come. Hope is not enough We need Joy.
My mom always explained life as existing in 3 seasons
- Good seasons
- are filled with comfort, easy, blessing upon blessing.
- Mundane seasons
- are boring, filled with bills and responsibilities and cause us to neglect the relationship.
- Hard seasons
- are filled with chaos, hurt, unexpected hardships and can end badly if we have neglected Joy in the other seasons.
When we neglect Things in the first 2 seasons, our relationship drifts toward dangerous ground.
Do you barely getting through the normal life things and barely have the energy for a good night kiss?
Do you assume every season will be good and take for granted the time to invest in our Marriage? I tend to!
We have to be Intentional to invest in our Mariage, to cultivate the seed that lives in us and help it grow.
When we take the time to work on our Marriage in the good and mundane seasons, there is Joy aplenty to sustain us through the Hard seasons.
This month we are going to face the issue head on!
For 31 Days we will explore 31 ways to Reclaim the Joy in our Christian Marriages!
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