How do I start a new life after divorce? How do I get over my divorce and move on? Today we start with questions. How do I heal myself after divorce? How do you survive a nasty divorce? If you’ve been with me at HopeJoyInChrist for long you know I focus on Practical Christian Marriage Advice but that is because Divorce is a part of my story. Can I share that part of my story with you today and offer New Hope after Divorce to the Christian Woman?
My heart bubbles over with prayer for every person going through a divorce because I know the pain of divorce so personally.
Did you know this part of my story is filled with:
- Learning how to begin praying for a mate after divorce.
- That is one of the signs God taught me to see if I had really forgiven my ex-husband.
- Relearning how to do life after divorce.
- It is a hard thing to learn how to trust and love again after divorce.
- Learning the importance of trusting God after divorce.
- Yep, I stopped trusting Him for a time.
- Burying myself in bible study for divorce recovery.
- I’ll share those resources at the end of this article.
- Continuing in prayer to heal from divorce well after I’ve remarried.
- Because being a Christian Woman – a Divorced Christian Woman still hurts.
- Learning how to stay pure after divorce
- and failing at it.
It’s not often I can share how God fixed my mess but I am thankful for Rachel Marie Lee inviting me to be part of her Stories of Hope Series – keep up with that here.
Today’s article is a guest post there about dealing with divorce as a Christian Woman
In the post I am not really going into the timeless question “Does God forgive divorce and remarriage?”. Instead, I want to talk about How God heals after divorce and offer you some Christian Divorce advice.
Did you ever imagine Divorce would be part of your story? I never thought marriage and divorce would be in my story. Could you have ever fathomed the depths of pain that come with divorce? How do you get over the divorce and move on? So many questions… questions that do not have pat Christian answers. Just to clarify, this post is not a Christian view on divorce, A look at what does the bible say about divorce, an answer to is divorce a sin or anything religious at all. Today I want to share my story of Divorce with you and how I found Hope and Joy in Jesus through a divorce.Joy came after divorce when my prayer life began to be a conversation with God, rather than a list of wishes whispered to an unpredictable genie. Click To Tweet
I have been a Christian Woman for over Thirty years and I am divorced.
Divorce isn’t a part of my salvation story nor am I innocent of all wrong. It took two of us to ruin that marriage and it has taken years for me to say that.
Divorce is a tag or title that doesn’t go away (yep Christian Divorce is a title I wear). No matter how many years it’s been since the divorce I am still a divorced woman. The pain and scaring of that are permanent and deep. That pain is why I am so passionate now to encourage wives to fight for their Marriage, to learn how to do Marriage God's way, to avoid divorce at all costs. Click To Tweet
So How do I heal myself after divorce?
One of my favorite Bible Verses about Hope after divorce though it is also in my list of Marriage Scriptures now.
Isaiah 26:3-4 “The steadfast of mind You will keep in perfect peace, Because he trusts in You. Trust in the Lord forever, For in God the Lord, we have an everlasting Rock.
Finish Reading “Hope After Divorce: Divorce as a Christian Woman is Not the End of Your Story” here!
If this article on Hope after Divorce as a Christian spoke to you, check out:
Bible Study for Divorce Recovery and other Helpful Resources
When Godly People Do Ungodly Things by Beth Moore
Whew, this book is loaded with so much hope and healing. Godly people do ungodly things every day. It is a harsh reality that hurts deeply. What do you do when your Christian Marriage ends in a nasty divorce? How do you continue to press into God through the hard parts of life? This book helped me learn all those things and so much more!
Healing is a Choice by Stephen Arterburn
Yes, healing really is a choice. We can choose to wallow in misery and adopt a bitter, resentful personality OR we can choose to heal, forgive and move into a joy-filled life after divorce and other sufferings. Healing is a choice – but God is the one who can get us to a place of being healed and whole after divorce. How do I get over divorce and move on? This book taught me there is hope after divorce!
Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Townsend
Setting boundaries doesn’t feel like a very Christian thing to do, but Jesus set boundaries. The Bible is filled with examples of healthy boundaries, personal boundaries, and church boundaries. This book digs deep into scripture to help teach us how to apply realistic boundaries to our lives and prevent needless pain. It was crucial to my healing after divorce and beginning my Second Marriage on better footing.
When God doesn’t Fix It by Laura Story
This is a true story of God’s love and Redemption through unlikely circumstances. As hard is it is to think about or accept, God doesn’t always fix the broken pieces of our lives in the way we ask. Don’t misunderstand me, God always answers, but His answers are just not always understandable. This book really helped me gain a new perspective on what it can look like for a Christian to suffer and still have her faith intact.
Can I Pray for you today?
If divorce is part of your story or some other hurt, take heart, God can fix any mess and Prayer is a key part of that! Drop a comment below “Please Pray” and I’ll be lifting you up today.
You may also enjoy a past series How to Fast and Pray to get real answers!