Finding ways to connect as a family is one of our biggest struggles. We are each in different seasons and enjoy different interests and hobbies. How do you find time and activities that will engage and connect as a Family who truly does value quality time? As the Christmas season approaches, our family is planning to do things differently to achieve our end goal.
We are a family that Value Quality Time
When I think of Quality Family Time I don’t think of Family devotionals, deep conversations, life lessons or anything so serious as that. Those things are so valuable, but they have a certain time and place. Quality Time for me is all about being in the room – mentally present with the people face to face with us – when we are together. When that happens, quality time happens. Can you relate?
We do each prefer different hobbies, but there are certain things we all enjoy together. The key word is time together.
The Montgomery Family loves spending time together. It doesn’t matter if we are watching TV or playing Uno, we laugh and talk and cuddle. That time – no matter what we are doing – becomes quality time because it is building our relationships.
One thing our Family values is healthy family love.
Healthy Family Love accepts you as you are and loves you – warts and all (14 so far but who’s counting?). Our End Goal is to be together long after the kids leave the house – to still enjoy time together. Now you have to understand, we are strict about rules and discipline, but we are also intentional about fun and relationship. It takes both to make a family healthy and loving.
I see that example in the way God loves us, disciplines us, yet gives us good things to enjoy in this life.
Hebrews 12:7 It is for discipline that you endure; God deals with you as with sons; for what son is there whom his father does not discipline?
James 1:17 Every good thing given and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation or shifting shadow.
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Christmas can be a time to Foster that End Goal of Quality Time
Do you have dreams and plans for your life, your spouse, your kids? I do. I dream of publishing my first book, celebrating 75 years of marriage one day and launching 2 kids with a rock-solid faith that changes the world.
But do you ever feel like – at Christmas time especially – shopping is more about what we each individually want than what we all need?
Let me clarify – there’s nothing wrong with getting some of the things on our list (if we can afford them and they actually fit in our world).
- My Girls will have new dolls and craft books for Christmas – absolutely!
- I am dropping lots of hits to hubby that I need a new Kindle this year and would love that new Illustrating Bible!
- A Bible that has been specifically designed for the Bible Journaler (Like me 😉 ).
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- Hubby is drooling over a new 4 man tent and a renewed subscription to Audible.
I love getting good gifts for my family. But can we find a way to match what we need with what we want in order to achieve our end goals?
Christmas Shopping to Grow in Quality Time
What kind of gifts could foster Quality Time as a Family – I have 5 Ideas this Year and I hope you enjoy them as well.
1. Box Sets of Old TV Series
Our family enjoys watching wholesome Movies and TV shows together. The problem, of course, is that our idea of wholesome is not the culture’s ideas of wholesome.
We value families that are kind and respectful, love honor and forgive each other. I need the show to have real-world situations but not reward kids who act like brats. A hard bill to fill – right? Not if you go back a few years.
We love These old TV Shows:
It’s hard to catch those on TV so we buy them in season sets off Amazon and enjoy them as a family whenever we want! I love shopping Cyber Monday and Prime Day because the deals are sweet! Are you a Prime Member? Is there an old one from your past that I missed? I’d love to add another to our wish list!
This next 2 really ties into the TV and Movie time theme:
2. A snuggly blanket to cuddle in while watching
We just got a set of these PAVILIA Premium Sherpa Throw Blanket for Couch, Sofa | Soft Micro Plush Reversible Throw | Melange Fleece Lightweight All Season Blanket (50 X 60 Inches Sea Blue) for just this occasion! So fun to cuddle under!
3. Fancy Pop Corn Flavoring & Containers to make it a fun family occasion
We have Food Allergies but many of these Kernel Season’s Popcorn Seasoning Mini Jars Variety Pack, 8 Count work for our Family. (We have a Dairy Allergy, Dye Allergy & Cocoa Allergy).
Another way we make it an all out fun time are by using special Pop Corn Containers. I think we found these at the Dollar Store- so cute!
4. New Games that work for all ages
We love to laugh together and nothing does that like playing games together. Last year we got Pie Face and laughed so hard we cried.
This year our Game hasn’t been picked but I have my eye on are:
5. Tickets to Go Out Together
I don’t know where you live in the world, but chances are there are attractions all around you that would be fun to visit. What stops you from going together as a family? For us most of the time the reason we don’t get out and about is money. Why not buy the tickets at Christmas Time, present it as the gift, mark it on the calendar and have a token gift so the kids still enjoy it.
This year we plan on Visiting the Creation Museum from Answers in Genesis. We Visited the Ark Encounter and Loved it – Check out my Review Here to see why!
We’ll buy the tickets, and pick up something from the Fair Trade spot of their online Store (that will support a family in a 3rd world country and bless my kids)
These are just a few of our ideas to Make the most of Christmas to grow in Quality Time as a Family. I’d love to hear some of your ideas in the comments below! Do you enjoy movies or TV? Which programs will the entire family agree too? Do you have big plans for a family vacation next year or a weekend away? I’d love to know!
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