Grace is the one thing I find makes the difference between Joy and Strife in our Marriage. This has proved true in wonderful years and difficult years. Often this one thing sets the mood in our home when someone messes up big and we are tempted to react in anger.
Marriage depends on a grace that flows 3 ways.
- I must receive that Grace from God to me.
- My spouse needs me to show him Grace.
- Our marriage is then a picture of Grace seen by the world.
Grace from God to me
I struggle to forgive myself when you mess up. I set unrealistic expectations and beat myself down when I don’t live up to them. Many days it is hard to accept God’s grace. I am learning to relax. I see that when I refuse God’s forgiveness it creates friction in my home.
~ 2 Corinthians 12:8-9 8 Concerning this I implored the Lord three times that it might leave me. 9 And He has said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for power is perfected in weakness.” Most gladly, therefore, I will rather boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may dwell in me. NASB
Grace from me to my spouse
It may not surprise you to know that I also hold my spouse to some very unrealistic expectations. Do I have a right to have expectations on him? There are a few, but those are not usually where we struggle… ya’ know what I mean?!?!?
My spouse is human. He makes mistakes.
I need to show grace when he messes up… because God shows me grace.
~Matthew 6:14-15 NASB 14 For if you forgive others for their transgressions, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. 15 But if you do not forgive others, then your Father will not forgive your transgressions.
Our marriage is a picture of Grace seen by the world
Life as a disciple is not about perfection, it is about the process. We have to stay in the process of sanctification – being made more into God’s likeness. Of Course we all mess up. God shows grace by forgiving us and giving us another chance. When we are living that cycle of grace in our homes, it creates a beauty that attracts a lost world to Jesus. Our marriages are a picture of Christ that should be making a Kingdom Impact.
Grace is something that has truly begun adding hope and joy back into my marriage. I have had to learn how to Trust in the Lord to Fix my Marriage.
“For a righteous man falls seven times, and rises again,” (Proverbs 24:16a).
If you are interested in starting up with Bible Journaling or trying to work it into your child’s routine I would highly recommend it.