Marriage Monday Week 1 - Marriage Depends on a Grace that flows 3 ways

Marriage Monday Week 1 [3 Way Grace]

Grace is the one thing I find makes the difference between Joy and Strife in our Marriage.  This has proved true in wonderful years and difficult years.  Often this one thing sets the mood in our home when someone messes up big and we are tempted to react in anger.
 Marriage Monday Week 1 - Marriage Depends on a Grace that flows 3 ways
Marriage depends on a grace that flows 3 ways.  
  1. I must receive that Grace from God to me.  
  2. My spouse needs me to show him Grace.  
  3. Our marriage is then a picture of Grace seen by the world.

 

Grace from God to me

I struggle to forgive myself when you mess up.  I set unrealistic expectations and beat myself down when I don’t live up to them.  Many days it is hard to accept God’s grace.  I am learning to relax.  I see that when I refuse God’s forgiveness it creates friction in my home.
~ 2 Corinthians 12:8-9  Concerning this I implored the Lord three times that it might leave me. And He has said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for power is perfected in weakness.” Most gladly, therefore, I will rather boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may dwell in me.  NASB

Grace from me to my spouse

It may not surprise you to know that I also hold my spouse to some very unrealistic expectations.  Do I have a right to have expectations on him?  There are a few, but those are not usually where we struggle…  ya’ know what I mean?!?!?
My spouse is human.  He makes mistakes.
I need to show grace when he messes up… because God shows me grace.    
~Matthew 6:14-15 NASB  14 For if you forgive others for their transgressions, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. 15 But if you do not forgive others, then your Father will not forgive your transgressions.

Our marriage is a picture of Grace seen by the world

Life as a disciple is not about perfection, it is about the process. We have to stay in the process of sanctification – being made more into God’s likeness.  Of Course we all mess up.  God shows grace by forgiving us and giving us another chance.   When we are living that cycle of grace in our homes, it creates a beauty that attracts a lost world to Jesus.  Our marriages are a picture of Christ that should be making a Kingdom Impact.  
 Marriage Monday - Grace runs 3 Ways (1. Grace from God to me. 2. Grace from me to my spouse. 3. Grace demonstrated to the world)
 Grace is something that has truly begun adding hope and joy back into my marriage.  I have had to learn how to Trust in the Lord to Fix my Marriage.
“For a righteous man falls seven times, and rises again,” (Proverbs 24:16a).

Right now, I am using a Bible Journaling Kit from my new friend Sara at TheHolyMess.com to reinforce some of these concepts.  She put together the whole thing on the topic of Trusting in the Lord.

Bible Journaling Kit for Beginners

If you are interested in starting up with Bible Journaling or trying to work it into your child’s routine I would highly recommend it.

I will be sharing more details in my Email Group so take a sec and subscribe.  

in Him,


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39 thoughts to “Marriage Monday Week 1 [3 Way Grace]”

  1. I love this! Have you ever heard the song by Christi Nockels called Grace Flows Down? It’s so beautiful!

    Thank you for your sweet comment over on my blog. If you ever make a washi tape bookmark I really would love to see!

    Have a Lovely Day!

    1. Thanks Lillian! I will for sure share that with you. It is a project on my list this Summer!

    2. Wow, just listened to it! Love that message! It really is the most beautiful part of our Father!

    1. too right! it’s funny we never think about that when we plan the wedding. Thanks for the comment Robin!

  2. Marriage is not easy. You have 2 different people with 2 different backgrounds coming together. I was always taught you need God in your marriage. Marriage requires patience, work and a lot of love and understanding!

    1. so true! Patience, love and understanding… all easier said than done! Thanks for the comment Wendy.

    1. Thanks Blair. I think we could all use some encouragement from time to time! so glad to get to offer it.

    1. Wow! 27 years!!!!! Congratulations. That is so rare in our culture. We are only 15 years in and it has been a lot of learning… Hoping to encourage others to stay the course on this Beautiful Journey!

    1. That is amazing. I am always encouraged to hear stories of marriages that last! Thanks for commenting.

    1. I so agree Eileen! Congratulations on 29 years. That is an amazing accomplishment in this day and age!

  3. Marriage is so much better when you put God in the center of your relationship. His guidance will definitely help keep you together through thick and thin. Of course, you’re still going to devote your time and effort.

    1. I love the of course! Truly it’s the easiest relationship to neglect but it’s the one we really need to invest in! Thanks for commenting Carol!

  4. Amen! This is so true whether in marriage or in life. We received grace from above and we need to extend that grace to others.

    1. So True Garf! Little do we know on the wedding day what hard work Marriage is. It can be beautiful, but it is rarely easy!

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