Do you remember when you were courting your husband? (or he was courting you 😉 ). Our romance began with long nights playing cards, drinking coffee and talking about our hopes and dreams, fears and failures of the past. We were so close, the best of friends. What happened to create this distance?
We don’t talk like that anymore. Distance. It came with time and hurt and life.
I don’t always tell him things and he forgets to tell me things. Now we have to have a time on the calendar to talk deeper than schedule things and kid things. When did that happen? There was a time – in the past – when wild bulls could not have kept me from calling him to talk about the joys and sorrows of life.
As a woman I feel the pain of that distance deeply, but it never crossed my mind that he feels it too. He put distance between us at some point – just like I put distance between him.
The man I love – who once worked day and night to make me happy – his need for respect is as real as his need for air.
When he feels disrespected, when his pride is hurt again and again, he starts putting up a wall to protect himself – from me. I think of it as a dam -with walls that are high and wide – behind which he can hide the well springs of his heart.
My man is human -a natural mixture of good, neutral, and bad character traits- just like me. And just like me, he puts distance between himself and hurt.
Proverbs 21:19 It is better to live in a desert land Than with a contentious and vexing woman.
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Today’s article is a Guest Post at Claire Musters spot. Claire is a writer, speaker, editor, wife, mum and worship leader with a passion to see people reach their potential in God.
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