How do you learn to embrace a life of gratitude when marriage is not beautiful? That one question has sent my wheels spinning this week and what has come out of it is a 30-day gratitude challenge for marriage that I hope will help us all rise to the challenge.
Why Take A Marriage 30-Day Gratitude Challenge?
Did you find this article near November when all our minds are on thankfulness and gratitude? Maybe you’ll find it in February while trying to decide the best gift for your husband (which is always words of appreciation). Regardless of the time of year, gratitude is always a great way to invest in your marriage.
While gratitude will help you invest in your marriage, it does not always come easy. In fact, I freely admit that gratitude is hard to express when marriage is hard or when marriage is not easy. I love the way my friend said it best “When marriage is not beautiful” because that fits every marriage. Sometimes marriage is lovely, and other times marriage is a mess of two sinful people trying their best to honor God and not kill each other.
So a 30-day gratitude challenge seemed the easiest way to instill the habit of living with an attitude of gratitude. They say 21 days creates a habit but I am thick-headed so 30-days seemed best to me.
Before we get into the specifics of the challenge, let’s talk about they what’s and why’s.A 30-day gratitude challenge seemed the easiest way to instill the habit of living with an attitude of gratitude in marriage. Will you join us? Click To Tweet
What are the benefits of gratitude?
Have you ever been having the worst day? I mean the coffee pot boiled over with grounds, the tax bill came in double what you expected, your toothaches, and you stubbed your toe on the coat rack heading out the door to work. The worst day.
Then someone tells you what a great job you did on the presentation yesterday. They outline how professional you were, how easily they could follow your points and show genuine gratitude for the hard work you put into the project.
The day can begin to completely turn around from that one conversation.
Gratitude does that. Whether you receive gratitude or show gratitude, it improves things.
Forbes shared 7 scientifically proven benefits of gratitude that highlight benefits in:
- Physical health
- Psychological health
- Mental strength
- Yes, you can be grateful in hard times
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What doe the Bible say about Gratitude
The scripture is filled with Bible Verses about Gratitude. Filled with the idea that we are to live in humility with a grateful heart. My favorite of all the scriptures about gratitude is this.
1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 Rejoice always; pray without ceasing; in everything give thanks; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.
Want to go deeper on ways to grow in gratitude?
- See these Bible Verses about Transforming your heart – leading to a life where you cultivate gratitude daily.
- Learn how to move toward a grateful heart
- Read my article at Lessons From Hope “Embracing a Life of Gratitude When Marriage is Not Beautiful“
How do you grow in gratitude?
From the moment you accept God as the Lord and Savior of your life, you are indwelt with the Holy Spirit. As you grow and mature as a Christian the Holy Spirit slowly changes your selfish, sinful heart into a holy, spirit lead heart. An attitude of gratitude comes with that.
The problem is that we are comfortable Christians, complacent, and content to sit in Church and soak up the word while we rarely take it into our daily lives. You have to work in agreement with the Holy Spirit, open our hearts to allow Him to change you.
Growing in the spirit of gratitude is one of those areas that require work on your part. It requires you to live in a community that will hold you accountable for growth.
That is what I love about the Hope Joy in Christ community. You are active and engaged to encourage and challenge each other as we grow together.
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How to be successful in this Gratitude Challenge
I have created a 30-day gratitude challenge pdf calendar to help us get started. Think of it as a gratitude training calendar with prompts to help you think of things to be thankful for.
Why just prompts instead of specific phrases? Your husband is different than my husband. While men have much in common, they are also different and so what works for my marriage will need to be tweaked for your marriage.
How do you use the gratitude challenge calendar?
- Download the gratitude training calendar
- Print the calendar
- Get a notebook and pen
- Schedule time each day with the gratitude journal prompts
What do you do with the Scheduled time each day? Use the gratitude journal prompts to help you note specific things to be thankful for.
I’ve given you a different category for each day. You could potentially take these prompts and note 12 different things to appreciate your husband for in that area, respect him about or be grateful. If you can, put them in the calendar of your phone for that day each month and plan an entire year of gratitude.
Some of the categories will work for your husband and some will not.
- His body
- His mind
- Spiritual growth
Don’t stress over that. Maybe you don’t have children so you can’t use that prompt. Just use one of the others twice. I can think of 30 things that would make his day to be grateful for about his body ;). Just a thought.
In the past, I’ve tried to think of 30 random things to be thankful for throughout November and I always draw a blank by day 10. This gratitude training calendar gives you prompts to help you create a specific gratitude list.
Respect and affirmation show love to your husband
Men need respect in the same way that women need love. That is a huge reason to fix a lack of respect in marriage. Respect is a felt need and when you begin to intentionally speak words of gratitude to your husband you will fill up his respect bucket.
1 Peter 2:17 Show proper respect to everyone…
When marriage is not easy it is harder still to think of words of respect or words of affirmation. That is why I love to take a gratitude challenge like this. It gives you the motivation you need and the accountability from a community that is all working through it together!Respect is a felt need and when you begin to intentionally speak words of gratitude to your husband you will fill up his respect bucket. Click To Tweet
Will you accept the 30-day gratitude challenge for marriage?
I am giving you everything you need to get started.
- Clear directions
- A supportive community
- Join us in the Facebook group “Christian Wives Choosing Hope and Joy in Every Season
- The 30-day gratitude challenge pdf calendar
This is what God laid on my heart as I answered the original question, “How do you embrace a life of gratitude when marriage is not beautiful?” Step up your game with a challenge and make gratitude a habit. As you strive to become a godly wife with a successful godly marriage this can be a handy tool.
I’d love to pray over you as we start the challenge. Comment “I’m in” and I’ll lift you up today.
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- 70 Marriage Resources Christian Wives Use and Approve
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- 50 Ways to be More Thankful Today