MarriageMonday Week 6 [Love is not Arrogant] Chrisian Marriage Advice, Marriage Monday

Marriage Monday Week 6 [Love is Not Arrogant ]

“Why did I ever get married?” “I would be better off doing this thing alone.” Do those kinds of thoughts ever cross your mind? Hello, my name is Tiffany and I tend to be arrogant …  in my marriage-even on my best day.

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MarriageMonday Week 6 [Love is Not Arrogant] Christian Marriage Advice, Biblical Marriage Advice, 1 Corinthains 13


A few years ago I found myself on the road to divorce #2.  Yikes.

God convicted me that I was actually part of the problem destroying this marriage. 

I was led to a deeper study of His word about marriage.  It turns out the Bible says a lot about how we should treat our spouse. 

No Shock, Most of it runs dead opposite of the culture!

I have to remind myself of these things – often – to keep myself on track. I’m so glad you are coming along on this journey with me!  I pray it encourages you as it helps me stay the course… which is always easier in community!

We are digging into 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 and applying it to our Wifehood.  

1 Corinthians 13 Marriage Monday

As we continue on we see a word I believe everyone is familiar with.

Love is not Arrogant 

Love considers others better than itself instead of puffing itself up as most important (Philippians 2:3).  Another way to say it is that love is without pride or self-conceit.  

This one is about humility- putting others’ needs first.

It means I should consider others –including my husband – more important than myself.

Have I mentioned that I am a Selfish person?  

I spent a lot of time angry about this one because I don’t want to be anyone’s “door matt”.  I worked hard to be strong enough that No man would ever put me under his thumb.  Isn’t that how we are supposed to be as 21st Century women?

In the deepest pars of my heart, I was just afraid.

If I put him first, Who will meet my needs?

I really wrestled with this.

But I realized that all of those ideas and fears- are from our culture.  They are not validated in scripture.

  • I finally had to just try it God’s way –because He said so, not because I thought He was right – and see what happened.

Loving without being arrogant looks like letting go of me need to control everything in my home.  It means I need to put my husbands needs ahead of my preferences (We will talk more about this later on).

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Lora Story said something profound in her book When God doesn’t Fix It.

“God values our spiritual growth more than our physical comfort.”

Letting go of control in my home means some things won’t go my way… which is physically uncomfortable.  But when I step back, I saw my husband begin to lead in our home.  Be still my heart!!!!!!

Challenge Time:  Is control an area you struggle with?  

Begin today praying for God to show you His will in this area.

Do you struggle to forgive your husband for the mistakes that led you to become controlling?  That’s honestly where I had to start and it’s why I’ve written a small E-book.  I’d love to give it to you to help on your journey!


Free E Book on Forgiveness [My story of overcoming Bitterness and Resentment and living in the Freedom of Forgiveness with in my Marriage and Wifehood]

Free e-Book “A Pathway to Forgiveness” (Forgiveness is hard… but not impossible. This is my story.)

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in Him,


Tiffany Montgomery

Tiffany is a wife and mother who is passionate about Encouraging and Equipping Women through Biblical Discipleship.

42 thoughts to “Marriage Monday Week 6 [Love is Not Arrogant ]”

  1. My wife and I are from a strong religious background and we both know we have to work on our marriage every day. We do put God first but we have to put in the hard work to make sure our love constantly grows and stays a light. I really loved this post.

    Thanks for Sharing

    John M

    1. That is the truth… I would miss my children. No regrets. I would miss my husband too – now that we are better. But there was a time it was not going well. I love to meet people who have not gone through that and learn how they make things work so well. I’d love to hear your story sometime Heather!

  2. Letting go of control can be hard. Especially when each person feels very strongly about things being a certain way. It’s great to be able to compromise and work to a solution.

    1. My kids are ecstatic to see your site! They always play that their Barbie’s names are Kari! Never met a Kari before but it is a cool coincidence!

  3. Humility is always the secret ingredient to getting along with others and expressing love without our egos. Nothing good comes out of a situation where our ego is behind the wheel, rather if we let love lead our lives we can avoid a lot of unnecessary strife. This is with all relationships. Good post and a great reminder.

    1. I agree it applies to all relationships Sonyo! Marriage is just a little harder sometimes because we are always in each other’s space.

  4. My husband and I talk. A lot. About everything. Anything that’s on our mind. Work, play, our relationship… Especially our relationship. We aren’t afraid to broach the topics that might be a tad uncomfortable – because we ARE comfortable with one another. I see absolutely no arrogance in our relationship at all. We lift each other up and try to make each other better people.

    1. it is hard, but so worth it. Having a partner to always have your back through the chaos in life is amazing. Thanks for stopping by Sarah!

    1. I like how you said that “Soul search with”. Truth is always good for soul searching!

  5. Good Evening!! I have been married for 5 years, and am beginning to learn to let go of control. The first 2 years were the hardest, but through alot of prayer its starting to work. Thank you for your blog post. I will definitely be following 😊

  6. I love that scripture in Corinthians. It is so true and really puts it right to the point. It can be super hard, but so worth it when you have mutual love and respect with your spouse.

  7. This is great advice. It can be hard to be humble and put the needs of your spouse above your own, but if you are both doing that, and great love will form and it will be great.

  8. What an inspiring post! Marriage needs a lot of hard work. I have been married for 7 years now and there have been some hard times over the years but fortunately, I have never thought “Why did I ever get married?”.

    1. That’s great Ave! We are not in that place anymore, but those thoughts were the first ones that opened my eyes about the need to make some changes.

  9. This is also something I found myself struggling with. Like you said our culture teaches us to be Independent Women and basically need no man. Getting beyond that hasn’t been easy and is something I have to focus on almost daily. Since making this changed I’ve seen the difference in my relationship with my Hubby.

    1. It really has to be almost daily. I see that over and over again with women I talk to. It is one of things that prompted me to begin this Blog.

  10. I agree with you on the point that we should not be arrogant in relationships, especially as a familly. Love is giving up something for the other, right? Hope you’d have a happy life with your spouse!

    1. I agree with you, it is a learning process. And the most beautiful part is when both of you work together to understand each other.

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