“Why did I ever get married?” “I would be better off doing this thing alone.” Do those kinds of thoughts ever cross your mind? Hello, my name is Tiffany and I tend to be arrogant … in my marriage-even on my best day.
A few years ago I found myself on the road to divorce #2. Yikes.
God convicted me that I was actually part of the problem destroying this marriage.
I was led to a deeper study of His word about marriage. It turns out the Bible says a lot about how we should treat our spouse.
No Shock, Most of it runs dead opposite of the culture!
I have to remind myself of these things – often – to keep myself on track. I’m so glad you are coming along on this journey with me! I pray it encourages you as it helps me stay the course… which is always easier in community!
We are digging into 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 and applying it to our Wifehood.
- We have been called to work on Patience in our Marriage, Kindness in our Marriage and Not being Jealous in our Marriage and trying not to Brag.
As we continue on we see a word I believe everyone is familiar with.
Love is not Arrogant
Love considers others better than itself instead of puffing itself up as most important (Philippians 2:3). Another way to say it is that love is without pride or self-conceit.
This one is about humility- putting others’ needs first.
It means I should consider others –including my husband – more important than myself.
Have I mentioned that I am a Selfish person?
I spent a lot of time angry about this one because I don’t want to be anyone’s “door matt”. I worked hard to be strong enough that No man would ever put me under his thumb. Isn’t that how we are supposed to be as 21st Century women?
In the deepest pars of my heart, I was just afraid.
If I put him first, Who will meet my needs?
I really wrestled with this.
But I realized that all of those ideas and fears- are from our culture. They are not validated in scripture.
- I finally had to just try it God’s way –because He said so, not because I thought He was right – and see what happened.
Loving without being arrogant looks like letting go of me need to control everything in my home. It means I need to put my husbands needs ahead of my preferences (We will talk more about this later on).
Lora Story said something profound in her book When God doesn’t Fix It.
“God values our spiritual growth more than our physical comfort.”
Challenge Time: Is control an area you struggle with?
Begin today praying for God to show you His will in this area.
Do you struggle to forgive your husband for the mistakes that led you to become controlling? That’s honestly where I had to start and it’s why I’ve written a small E-book. I’d love to give it to you to help on your journey!