When you walked down the isle what did you envision your life looking like in 5 or 10 years? Did you picture yourself becoming jealous? I sure didn’t.
Each Monday I am going to share encouragement from God’s word to equip us in Marriage.
- So far we’ve decided to try to do Marriage God’s way.
- We have also seen the need for Grace that runs 3 ways.
- There has been a call to work on Patience in our Marriage.
- Last week we were reminded to be Kind in our Marriage.
This week as we dig into 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 we see that Love is Not Jealous.
Jealous feels like an evil word, but it also feels vague so let’s define it.
Love is not Jealous – The verb tense of jealous is best explained in 2 parts.
- Envy -you have what I want
- Covet -I hate that you have that and wish I had it and you did not
1 Corinthians is specifically speaking of jealousy over spiritual gifts. The church at Corinth was vying for position based on who had what gift. Paul is trying to get them to stop competing with each other. He wants them to be happy that there are so many gifts to help the body function well. (Philp 2:3; 1 Peter 5:5-6 & Gal 5:13-15)
Do you notice competition in your Marriage?
If you knew B you wouldn’t say that he was particularly competitive but he is – with me.
- He is quick to point out that I cannot park straight (I really can’t). He claims he is a parking expert compared to me.
- I am also competitive with him… though I wouldn’t have admitted that until a few years ago.
I want to be independent.
I want to prove my worth apart from “a man”.
I still actively wrestle with that and where it fits with my calling as a Wife and Mother in relation to Biblical Discipleship because it is not Biblical at all.
To show love to my husband without jealousy I need to acknowledge areas where he is better than I am. (Yes, there are areas!)
Our Husbands have a need for Admiration and Appreciation.
When I am competing with him I deny him those things…
I am learning to fight my natural instincts. I need to meet his needs, rather than competing with him or tearing him down because we are different.
So to fight the jealously I feel I chose to change my reaction. I moved from anger -at his pointing out my weakness -to appreciation of his keen observation and admiration of his talent to park the car straight and all that must mean to him. I try to do it sweet and sassy to deflect a fight and Y’all the conversation comes up repeatedly so I get to practice and get better at this often!
Challenge Time: Pick 1 area to Admire and Appreciate your husband this week instead of competing jealously with him.
Need some encouragement? Comment the ares you are going to pick and know that I will be praying for you throughout this series!
When we stand together in Prayer we have more power over the enemy than when we hide and pretend everything is “Fine”.
Lets fight back together!
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