I am so encouraged that there is an entire chapter dedicated to love in the Bible. It reassures me that I am not crazy to need and crave love! Though it is challenging that the first phrase talks about our need to be patient… that is so not my strength!
1 Corinthians 13:1-8a “4 Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, 5 does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, 6 does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 Love never fails; but if there are gifts of prophecy, they will be done away; if there are tongues, they will cease; if there is knowledge, it will be done away.”
As I began to study this text I was sort of ready to skim it –bored- and move on to more relevant, sort of practical passages. I was not expecting God to blow me away with powerful tools.
I found each word used to describe love in this passage is actually a Verb.
Love – as the early believers would have understood it – was not some flighty emotion.
Love was an Action.
Over the next 2 months of #MarriageMonday I will dig into the original meaning of each Action word. I will give some practical examples of how I have used these verbs to show love to my husband... even when he has been unloving toward me.
And first out of the bag is Patient…
Love is Patient
Patient in this passage means -Love does not lose heart while:
bearing offenses and injuries of others
I don’t know about you, but I can be quick to lose my patience with people around me.
Especially when things are hard.
I am even quicker to lose heart with my husband and criticize his mistakes and faults. Especially when he does things that cause me hardship. The hazards of living in each others personal space!
Truthfully, I have a mouth ready to rip him apart and put him in his place.
I tend to always point out his faults.
Showing patience to my husband means I have to find ways to encourage him instead.
This has required me to learn to pray A LOT before I speak.
I have had to make this perspective shift:
Accept that my husband is human and prone to mistakes, just like me; I need to forgive him when he messes up.
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Time for a challenge:
Pick a specific thing that has happened in the past week that you could apply Patience to and try again.
Need some encouragement? Comment the ares you are going to pick and know that I will be praying for you throughout this series!
Prayer is our weapon against an enemy who actively seeks to destroy our marriages. Lets fight back together!
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